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My Wife, A gift from God

Daily writing prompt
Share one of the best gifts you’ve ever received.

Before the best gift I had to go through a period of time with what I call my practice wife, a relationship that taught me invaluable lessons about love, commitment, and self-discovery. This experience, though not perfect, was filled with moments of laughter and challenges that ultimately shaped my understanding of what I truly wanted in a partner. I navigated the highs of shared dreams and the lows of misunderstandings, all of which were essential in preparing me for the incredible joy that was to come. It was during this time that I learned to appreciate the little things in relationships, recognizing the importance of communication and respect, setting the foundation for a healthier future. I knew something was missing in this relationship, but I thought it would be overpowered but it was not. However, this relationship gave me my second-best gift, two sons that I truly love and very thankful that they are a part of my life.

The best gift I ever received was my second wife. We have been together for over forty years, and this trip is one you hear about in the fairy tales. I wasn’t even looking for a wife. I was mourning and repairing from my first eleven-year marriage that came to a shocking end in divorce. I met Dee, my second wife in a divorce support group. We talked, we cried, we shared our hurts and this openness grew into a strong lasting marriage of over forty years. The following years were periods of fun, overseas trips with vacations in many parts of the states. I came from a small family and Dee came from a family of many relatives. She gave me a family I wished for many times. Also, because of her I was blessed with four stepchildren, two boys and two girls. I love them just like my biological sons. It has been a trip and feel very blessed. Every night before I go to sleep, I thank God for giving me the gift of Dee, the best gift I ever received.

A Gift of Life

February 7, 2023, I received a gift from God. It was one of the greatest gifts I have received. On that day I was afflicted with a gigantic blood clot between my lungs. The surgeons gave me three options. The first was attempt to use medication to break up the clot. The second was to go up through the groin into the artery using anesthesia. The third was the same procedure but the patient stayed awake without going under anesthesia. They said they had the best results when the patient stayed awake. I picked that option. The most painful was when they cut into the artery to insert their equipment.

Somewhere in the procedure I was feeling very bad. I was at the point that I thought this is my last breath. I must have passed out and sometime later I woke up and was starting to feel better. The remainder of the procedure took about forty-five minutes. after completion the surgeon talked to me and he said, “Tom I think the right decision was made to stay awake. I am afraid if you would have gone under anesthesia, I would have lost you”. At that moment I realized I just received a gift from God!

After three days in ICU and an additional day in the hospital, I went home. Doing some research and I find that only three to five percent survive a clot of that size. Also, most patients die within six months after. Well, it has been over a year now and I am still here! This has truly been a gift from God. How long this gift continues only God knows.

https://tomt2.com/2023/08/10/my-blood-clot/

Daily writing prompt
Share one of the best gifts you’ve ever received.