Month: June 2025

The Vanishing Blend

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In the sleepy town of Meeker, The Great Bean was a cozy haven, its air thick with the scent of roasted coffee, where the warmth of the wooden decor and the gentle hum of muted conversations offered refuge from the world outside. Helen had worked there for years, her hands deftly crafting lattes and cappuccinos, her smile a familiar comfort to regulars who visited each morning. But recently, something unsettling had begun to unfold. Customers who ordered the shop’s new “Midnight Ember” blend—a dark, smoky roast with an almost unnatural allure—disappeared the next day, leaving behind only whispers of their presence. No trace, no explanation. Helen noticed it first with Mr. Harrow, the librarian, who had always raved about the blend’s rich, bittersweet kick. The next morning, his library was empty, his car untouched in the parking lot, and a sense of foreboding crept over the once-vibrant streets of Meeker. Then it was Mrs. Tate, the florist, who had enjoyed her daily ritual of coffee and flowers, gone after sipping the same brew that had entranced Mr. Harrow. By the fifth customer, who vanished without a word, Helen’s curiosity turned to dread, as she began to wonder if the alluring blend was drawing them into a shadowy realm from which no one could return. The cozy haven felt charged with an unease that entwined itself with the fragrant aroma of coffee, and Helen couldn’t shake the feeling that the comforting atmosphere was hiding something sinister just beneath the surface.

She confided in her coworker, Sam, who scoffed dismissively, crossing his arms and leaning back in his chair. “People move, Helen. It’s just a coincidence, nothing more.” But Helen wasn’t convinced; a shiver ran down her spine at the thought of such strange occurrences surrounding the Midnight Ember. She delved deep into the coffee shop’s mysterious origin: a cryptic supplier with no physical address, just a handwritten note that accompanied each shipment, promising “a taste beyond time.” Intrigued and somewhat unnerved, she noted the peculiar charm of the beans, which were jet-black and shimmering faintly under the soft glow of light, almost as if they held secrets of their own. Helen decided that she couldn’t let this mystery go unsolved; her curiosity ignited a fire within her, compelling her to investigate further, to uncover the truth hidden behind each mysterious shipment.

Late one night, after closing, she brewed a pot of Midnight Ember. The aroma was intoxicating, like burnt caramel and starlit air, wrapping around her like a warm embrace that stirred something deep within her. She hesitated, her hand hovering above the steaming mug, then poured a cup, the rich liquid swirling like a dark tempest. One sip burned her throat, not with heat but with a strange, electric pull that sent shivers down her spine. Her vision blurred, and the shop dissolved into darkness, slipping away like a forgotten dream. When her eyes adjusted, she stood in a vast, shadowy forest, the air humming with whispers that danced just beyond her comprehension. Figures moved among the trees—Harrow, Tate, the others—wandering, dazed, but alive, their expressions a mix of confusion and longing. They didn’t see her, as if trapped in their own realities, each lost in a personal maze of thoughts and memories, intertwined in an unseen web that connected them all yet kept them apart. Shadows flickered around her, mingling with the echoes of laughter and cries, hinting at stories left untold, while she felt the weight of their presence, both haunting and familiar, urging her to step deeper into the enigma that enveloped them all.

A voice, low and ancient, echoed with a resonant depth: “The blend binds you here, to the place between.” Helen’s heart raced in response to the urgency of the words reverberating in her mind. She saw a glowing rift ahead, pulsing like a heartbeat, a mesmerizing sight that drew her in with an almost magnetic force. Instinct screamed to run toward it, to reach out and touch whatever lay beyond the shimmering veil. With her breath quickening, she stumbled through the rift, gasping as the air shifted around her, feeling a rush of energy envelop her. Suddenly, she found herself back in the shop, the familiar surroundings grounding her once more, the cup still warm in her hand, as if it were a tangible reminder of her fleeting journey. Only minutes had passed, yet it felt as if lifetimes had unfolded in that brief moment, leaving her with questions that hung heavy in the air.

Helen dumped the coffee and locked the Midnight Ember beans in the storage room, a sense of foreboding settling over her as she did so. The next day, with anxiety gnawing at her stomach, she called the supplier’s number, only to find it disconnected. Panic rose within her as she recounted the troubling events to Sam, but he laughed, dismissing her worries and refusing to believe the bizarre happenings surrounding the coffee. Desperate and feeling increasingly isolated, Helen made the difficult decision to destroy the beans that had become a source of such distress. She burned the bags in a metal bin behind the shop, the flames flaring an eerie blue that danced and flickered like spirits in the night. The whispers from the forest surrounded her, lingering in her mind, their cryptic warnings echoing as if to tell her that she would never return unscathed.

The disappearances stopped, leaving the townsfolk to breathe a collective sigh of relief. Meeker moved on, chalking up the vanishings to small-town mysteries that often faded into folklore, tales told with a shiver among those gathered around the fire. Helen quit the shop soon after, unable to shake the lingering unease that the rift wasn’t truly gone, just waiting in the shadows, biding its time like a predator. Sometimes, at night, she would walk through the quiet streets, and a familiar scent would waft towards her—a caramel-starlit fragrance that felt both nostalgic and eerie, faint but undeniably present, as if the essence of the vanished was still lingering. She never drank coffee again, associating the bitter brew with the long nights filled with anxiety and the unanswered questions that haunted her thoughts. Instead, she found solace in herbal teas, hoping to soothe her restless mind while she grappled with the feeling that, despite the calm facade, something darker still lurked just beneath the surface of their small town.

Years later, a new worker at The Meeker Bean found an old, unmarked bag of beans tucked away in the dusty shadows of the storage room. Curiosity piqued, he decided to brew a pot, intrigued by the mysterious provenance of the beans. As the rich aroma filled the air, he couldn’t help but wonder about their origin and what stories they might hold. The next day, however, he was gone, leaving behind a lingering sense of unease and unanswered questions that enveloped the café in an eerie silence. Whispers of his sudden disappearance began to circulate among the regulars, and the once-cozy atmosphere turned heavy with speculation and concern.

Navigating Life After Surgeries

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Have you ever had surgery? What for?

Yes, I had surgery for a variety of medical issues, which included outpatient procedures and acute problems that had developed over time.

The first surgery was for cataracts, a common condition that can cloud the lens of the eye and affect vision. I was fifty years old when the first one was performed, a significant moment in my life that marked the beginning of a journey toward clearer sight. I remember the anticipation and slight anxiety I felt leading up to the procedure, but I was relieved to learn that it was a relatively routine surgery. Then, ten years later, I underwent the same procedure for the remaining eye, which allowed me to fully appreciate the world in vivid detail once again. This is now an outpatient surgery and normally uneventful, with most patients able to return home the same day. I seldom wear glasses anymore since the surgery, which has been a liberating experience, although I still occasionally find myself reaching for them while using the laptop for extended periods, especially when focusing on small text or detail-oriented tasks. The difference in my vision post-surgery has greatly enhanced my daily life, allowing me to engage more fully in activities that I enjoy, such as reading and exploring life

The next surgery happened in 2018 for an eleven mm kidney stone in my right kidney. No modesty allowed here; it was a process that truly tested my understanding of medical technology. They went up through the basement using a laser to break up the stone, a technique that showcases the incredible advancements in modern medicine. In addition to the laser, they needed a bright light to illuminate the area and a vacuum to efficiently remove the debris created during the procedure. It’s remarkable to think about how they can insert all that specialized equipment into your tube and navigate their way up to the kidney, skillfully extracting the stone with such precision. I was kept under observation overnight, monitoring any complications, and was thankfully discharged the following afternoon, feeling relieved yet exhausted. For twelve hours after the surgery, I passed urine that looked like chocolate milk, an unsettling sight that served as a vivid reminder of the battle I had just endured. Each urinating act was a mix of discomfort and fascination at what my body was going through, making me appreciate the resilience of the human body and the expertise of the medical professionals who helped me.

Finally, on January 7, 2023, I had a pulmonary saddle embolism, which is a gigantic blood clot between my lungs. Word to the wise, if you ever wake up in the middle of the night, with a terrific pain in a calf. Do not massage the calf to relieve the pain. Speculation is the massage caused the DVT clot to break loose and migrate from the calf to between the lungs. CT scan showed that it looked like a large tree root going to various parts of the lungs.

They gave me three options, each with its own set of implications and outcomes. First, I could simply rely on medication to try to dissolve the clot, a method that seemed less invasive but carried uncertainties about its effectiveness and timing. The second option was more direct: they would enter through the groin above the hip under anesthesia and insert a specialized instrument designed to remove the clot as much as possible. This approach felt aggressive, and the thought of going under made me hesitate. The third option, however, piqued my interest despite its unconventional nature. It involved performing the same procedure as the second option, but without general anesthesia; instead, I would remain awake and alert, with only local pain medication to numb the area. They explained that they had seen the best results with this method, which allowed for immediate adjustments during the procedure based on my feedback. After weighing the risks and benefits of each choice, I ultimately opted for the third option, believing that remaining conscious would not only give me a measure of control over the situation but also help to improve the overall outcome of the procedure.

The most pain I suffered was when they cut the artery or vein to insert the instruments. They didn’t bother to tell me that they were going to make another incision above the other hip to remove the debris, which caught me completely off guard. It was just as painful as the first incision, intensifying my anxiety and fear during the procedure. The rest of the surgery was not that painful, but I experienced immense discomfort and unease that lingered in my mind. During that harrowing bout, I did think I took my last breath and felt a chilling certainty that my time on this earth was drawing to a close. I do believe I experienced a near-death event, one that left an indelible impression on my psyche, and I had a surreal preview of the time after life on this earth, filled with profound reflections that I still ponder to this day. After three days in the ICU and an additional day in the hospital, they sent me home, but that was only the beginning of my journey back to normalcy. It has been over two and a half years since that day, and while I have recovered physically, the emotional and psychological scars have remained. The only long-term effects are the daily reminder that I must take blood thinner medication for the remainder of my life, which serves as a constant connection to that traumatic experience, reminding me of the fragility of existence and the importance of cherishing every moment.

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Guilt and using AI

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No, you shouldn’t feel guilty for using AI in your blogs, as long as you’re using it ethically and transparently. AI can be a tool like any other—think of it as a supercharged notepad or research assistant. It can help brainstorm ideas, refine drafts, or analyze data, saving you time and boosting creativity. The key is maintaining authenticity: ensure the final work reflects your voice, ideas, and values. If you’re just copying AI output without adding your own insight or passing it off as entirely your own, that’s where ethical lines blur—readers value genuineness, and misrepresenting your process could erode trust.

Some bloggers disclose AI use to their audience, which can build transparency and avoid any sense of deception. It depends on your niche and readers’ expectations—tech-savvy audiences might not care, while others might prefer a “human touch.” If you’re using AI to enhance your work while still pouring in your own effort, guilt shouldn’t be on the table. It’s about creating value, not about the tools you use to get there.

Yes, I use AI just like another tool in my toolbox. I have no guilt because I let it be known for that fact. AI is here and, in many features, greatly enhancing our productivity and creativity. This reminds me of when pocket calculators came into existence. There was resistance for this tool in the beginning; many feared that it would diminish human capability, yet civilization survived and adapted, just like it will with AI. Instead of resisting change, we should learn to harness AI’s capabilities to augment our skills and explore new possibilities, integrating it seamlessly into our daily lives and workflows. Embracing AI can lead to innovative solutions and greater efficiency, proving that technology can work in harmony with human intelligence.

From Blogging to Fiction

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I have been blogging on various platforms since around 2006, and it has been a remarkable journey of sharing my thoughts and experiences with a diverse audience. On WordPress alone, I am close to having 500 posts on the platform, each one capturing a snapshot of my life and interests. I also have a site on Substack. They are basically the same blogs, just a different audience. I have learned that podcasts are the large item these days. So, I also include an audio podcast on my blogs. I have self-published travel books and a biography on Blurb.com, showcasing my fascination with different cultures and the stories of extraordinary people. Additionally, on that platform, I have a magazine series with fifteen issues, which allows me to delve deeper into topics I am passionate about, from travel and adventure to personal growth and storytelling. Most of my blogging has revolved around personal experiences or activities, offering readers a glimpse into my everyday life and the lessons I’ve learned along the way. However, after close to 25 years of documenting my journey, you start to run out of events and personal experiences to write about, leading to a creative plateau. Therefore, I started to search for a new challenge, eagerly looking for fresh perspectives and untold stories that will inspire both myself and my readers in this ever-evolving landscape of digital communication.

I forget how I stumbled across that Amazon has a Kindle Direct Publishing feature. It allows mere mortals like me to compose and publish eBooks to be added to their Kindle platform, offering an incredible opportunity for authors to share their voice with the world. The investment is mostly time and the desire to try something different, an exciting venture that has the potential to transform ideas into tangible works. I cannot imagine a book publishing company to be interested in my ramblings, considering the competitive landscape filled with seasoned writers, and I don’t have a clue how to even locate a publisher that may be interested in my unconventional stories. During that time, I had the thought, “why don’t I try some fiction writing?” It struck me as a way to creatively express myself and escape the mundane routines of daily life. Many times, in my life, it has been said that I am a dreamer and have crazy thoughts and ideas, often weaving elaborate tales in my mind that yearn to be told. With the help of AI, my dreams and thoughts are coming alive. I believe that through fiction, I might not only entertain others but also find a deeper connection to my own aspirations and experiences, allowing my imagination to soar like never before.

Since this thought, I have just completed my third book of “Tales of TomT 2.0”. You can just do an eBook or also offer a paperback copy or hard cover copy to complete the different options available. Each publishing is around 100 pages. I will never make the best seller list, but I am enjoying this journey and learning from the journey.

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Book Two Link

Book One Link

Rita’s Bold Leap

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The air in the office was thick with the hum of fluorescent lights and the clatter of keyboards, creating a constant backdrop of activity that felt almost oppressive. Rita, perched at her desk like a weary soldier, stared at the spreadsheet that had haunted her for weeks, its cells filled with figures that felt more like chains than data. Numbers blurred into meaningless shapes, each cell a tiny cage of expectation that whispered unrelenting demands for perfection. She’d been at RCA for five years, gradually climbing from intern to analyst, but the relentless grind had worn her down, leaving her feeling as if she were merely a cog in a vast machine. Deadlines loomed like dark clouds, emails flooded her inbox like an unstoppable tide, and meetings that could’ve easily been memos disrupted her already fragmented concentration—it was a treadmill set to sprint, draining her energy and enthusiasm with every frantic step.

“You know what? I quit,” she said, her voice cutting through the cubicle’s quiet like a knife. Her coworker, Ray, froze mid-sip of his coffee, eyes wide as if he had just seen a ghost. The words weren’t planned; they just spilled out, raw and final, escaping from a place of pent-up frustration and resolve. The dim fluorescent lights flickered overhead, casting a harsh glow on the stack of papers on her desk, the evidence of countless late nights and unrecognized efforts. She could feel the weight of her decision hanging in the air, a mix of fear and exhilaration surging through her veins as she took a deep breath, knowing that she was finally choosing her own path.

“Rita, what?” Ray whispered, glancing around as if expecting a manager to swoop in at any moment, ready to question their every move. But Rita was already standing, her chair scraping against the linoleum with an unsettling screech that caught the attention of a few nearby colleagues. She grabbed her mug—World’s Okayest Analyst—proudly displaying her modesty in a place filled with corporate bravado, and her worn-out tote bag that had seen better days, a testament to countless coffee runs and late nights spent poring over data. As she dashed out of the room, she abruptly left the spreadsheet unsaved behind, the data lingering on the screen like an unfinished thought, a reminder of the work that still lay ahead in the chaotic world of analytics.

The elevator ride down felt like shedding a skin. Each floor that passed was a layer of stress peeling away, liberating her from the suffocating weight of her daily grind. She thought of the late nights spent hunched over her laptop, the weekends lost to “urgent” reports that were often nothing more than busywork, and the boss who’d once said, “You’re lucky to have this job.” Lucky? No. Trapped. Trapped in a cycle of endless deadlines, hollow praise, and a relentless pursuit of perfection that left her drained. As she descended, she visualized each task she was leaving behind—a mountain of expectations, the constant hum of office chatter, and the air thick with unspoken tension. With each passing floor, the lightness of freedom grew, igniting a spark of hope that perhaps, just perhaps, there was a life waiting for her beyond these walls.

Outside, the city buzzed with life, a vibrant tapestry of sounds and sights weaving together in a chaotic yet harmonious dance. Rita walked with purpose, no destination in mind, her sneakers pounding the pavement with a rhythmic beat that matched her racing heart. The sun hung high in the sky, casting playful shadows on the bustling streets as she passed a street musician strumming a guitar, the notes bright and free, floating through the air like a gentle breeze. The melodies seemed to wrap around her, inviting her to pause and immerse herself in the moment. She tossed a crumpled five into his case, and he winked, his eyes glinting with a shared understanding of spontaneity. “Live a little, yeah?” he called, his voice carrying over the city’s din. She couldn’t help but laugh, the sound foreign yet welcome, as it mingled with the laughter of children playing nearby and the chatter of passersby, each one contributing to the urban symphony that surrounded her. Feeling a spark of joy, she continued on her journey, a slight bounce in her step as the city unfolded before her like a vibrant story waiting to be told.

Her phone buzzed—Ray, texting: You serious? What’s the plan? She didn’t reply. For once, there was no plan, no checklist to adhere to, just a sense of freedom she hadn’t experienced in a long time. She wandered into a park, where kids chased pigeons, their laughter ringing through the air, and an old man fed ducks, his joy infectious. The sun filtered through the leaves, casting a warm glow on the vibrant greens of the grass. Sitting on a bench, she pulled out a notebook she hadn’t touched in years, its pages filled with half-sketched dreams: a bakery on a bustling street corner, a novel waiting to be written that danced in her imagination, a trip to Iceland to witness the northern lights. Rita had buried those aspirations under piles of memos and KPIs, conforming to the grind of daily responsibilities that had dulled her spirit. But now, with the weight of expectations lifted, she felt a spark of inspiration ignite within her, urging her to reclaim those forgotten dreams and explore the possibilities that lay ahead.

The sun dipped low, painting the sky in reckless pinks and oranges. Rita scribbled: What if I opened that bakery? The idea felt absurd, then thrilling. She’d always loved baking—sourdough at 2 a.m., cupcakes for coworkers’ birthdays, and the occasional batch of cookies that she’d surprise her neighbors with, leaving them in their mailboxes with a little note: “Enjoy!” Why not? She had savings, enough to start small. A food truck, maybe, with a vibrant paint job and the tantalizing smell of fresh pastries wafting through the air. No corporate nonsense, just flour and sugar and her hands transforming simple ingredients into warm, delightful treats. The thought of sharing her creations with others sent a rush of excitement through her. What if she hosted pop-up events at local markets? The image of happy customers savoring her pies sparked a dream that felt just within reach.

Her phone buzzed again—her boss, probably furious, as usual. She silenced it, dismissing the relentless grip of her former life. For the first time in years, Rita felt light, like she could breathe without a deadline choking her. The oppressive weight of expectations had begun to lift, replaced by a sense of exhilarating freedom that filled her heart with hope. Quitting wasn’t just leaving a job; it was reclaiming herself and rediscovering passions long forgotten amidst the chaos of corporate life. The future was uncertain, a blank page, but that was the point. She’d write it herself, penning the story of her own adventures, crafting a narrative infused with joy, exploration, and the thrill of new beginnings. With each step forward, she felt more connected to her true self, ready to embrace whatever came next.

As dusk settled, Rita stood, her notebook clutched tight against her chest, a sanctuary for her swirling thoughts. The musician’s tune lingered in her head, its melodic notes weaving dreams of creativity and warmth through her mind. Tomorrow, she’d bake her first loaf, a decision that filled her with both excitement and trepidation, just to see how it felt and if she could capture the essence of home in its golden crust. “Live a little,” she murmured softly to herself, reminding her inner self of the importance of embracing new experiences, and with a renewed sense of purpose, she headed home, her steps sure and steadfast, each footfall echoing her determination to embrace change.

For the first time in many years, Rita felt free, as if a heavy weight had been lifted from her shoulders, allowing her to breathe deeply and joyfully embrace the vibrant world around her with open arms. The sunlight streamed through the leaves, casting cheerful shadows on the ground, while the gentle breeze whispered promises of exciting new beginnings.

Ten years later Rita had a successful bakery and more money than when she said, “I QUIT!”

Finding Peace Through Spirituality: My Transformational Story

First, I asked AI’s definition of spirituality. Below is the response.

Spirituality is a broad, personal exploration of meaning, purpose, and connection, and one’s relationship with existence, often beyond the material world. It can involve beliefs in a higher power, universal consciousness, or the sacred, but it doesn’t always require religion. For some, it’s found through practices like meditation, prayer; for others, it’s a sense of awe in nature or connection to others. It’s subjective, shaped by culture, experience, and individual reflection, often addressing questions about life’s deeper truths.


With that I would say that spirituality is important to me. I was born and raised in the Catholic faith. In the era I was raised religion was based on fear and sinfulness. You were a sinner naturally, and you had to work hard to earn the reward of heaven. For over thirty years of my life, I thought I would never be worthy of a peaceful existence after time on this earth.

As my life progressed, I guess you could say that I began to question this kind of outlook on life and time after earth. I was put in situations where I had no control why this situation happened. I was beginning to realize that life is just more than trying to be accepted into time after earth. I was beginning to feel that life was one big learning session. All through your life you learn by events you experience, and you learn from everyone you encounter. Oh, I still go to church and practice Christianity. However, I have lost the fear that I am not worthy anymore.

Two and one-half years ago I experienced a near death event and for a period of time I feel I was given a preview of time after earth. I had this feeling of PEACE, TOTAL PEACE! This is a feeling I will never forget and looking forward to this eternal feeling.

I have written many posts about spirituality. Here are some links,

A Journey of Faith and Religion,

A Strange Tale

Touched By God

February 7, 2023

A Gift of Life

Me and Spirituality last year’s prompt

In conclusion, spirituality has been important to me throughout my life and time after life on this earth, serving as a guiding force that has shaped my values, beliefs, and understanding of the world around me. It has provided me with comfort during challenging moments, instilled a sense of purpose, and fostered deeper connections with others who share similar journeys. As I navigate the complexities of existence, the exploration of spiritual practices and teachings continues to enrich my experiences, allowing me to reflect on the mysteries of life and the profound interconnectedness of all beings.

Daily writing prompt
How important is spirituality in your life?

The Emotional Role of Dreams

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In many parts of my life, I had terrific dreams that painted the night with vivid colors and extraordinary stories, making it feel like I was living two lives simultaneously. The dreams were colorful and vibrant, filled with an array of subjects that ranged from whimsical adventures in fantastical realms to profound encounters that shifted my perspective on reality. The nice part was I could remember the dreams when waking up, and each recollection felt like a precious gift, allowing me to hold onto those enchanting moments from my subconscious. Unfortunately, everything changed when I had a kidney stone when I was seventy-five and was put under anesthesia to remove the stone. Since that time, I do not remember my dreams at all; they seem to slip away into oblivion as I awaken, leaving behind only an elusive echo of their existence. I experience them when asleep, but now when I wake up, they are gone, like whispers lost in the wind. I miss my dreams dearly, as they were a source of inspiration and joy. I really enjoy recalling my dreams in my conscious time, as they opened up new avenues of creativity and allowed me to explore parts of my mind that felt unexplored. Now, I long for the return of those magical nights where my imagination could run wild and the boundaries of reality seemed to fade away. I do not believe that ability will ever return.

The purpose of dreams isn’t fully understood, but research suggests they serve multiple functions. Neurologically, dreams may help process emotions, consolidate memories, and integrate new information, with the brain’s amygdala and hippocampus playing key roles during REM sleep. Studies, like those from the University of California (2019), indicate dreaming aids in emotional regulation, reducing stress by reprocessing challenging experiences. Cognitively, dreams might enhance problem-solving and creativity by allowing the brain to form novel connections—evidenced by historical anecdotes like Kekulé’s benzene ring dream. Some evolutionary theories propose dreams simulate threats, preparing us for real-world challenges, though this is debated.

Psychologically, dreams could reflect subconscious thoughts, as Freud suggested, or serve as a “virtual reality” for testing scenarios, per Antti Revonsuo’s threat simulation theory. However, the random activation synthesis model (Hobson & McCarley, 1977) argues dreams are the brain’s attempt to make sense of random neural firing, not always purposeful. Cultural and personal beliefs also shape dream interpretation, but no single purpose is universally agreed upon. Ongoing research continues to explore these angles.

I have always wondered if not going under anesthesia would allow me to keep my dreams, those fleeting images and feelings that often fade upon waking. It intrigues me how dreams can be vivid and meaningful yet easily forgotten. What in the anesthesia removed my ability to remember my dreams? I will never know.

High Heels Through History: From Status to Style

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I have wondered about high heels for a long time. They look uncomfortable and didn’t know why women go through the discomfort. I went to AI and accumulated some history on the high heel.

High-heeled shoes for women have a rich history that spans centuries, evolving from practical footwear to a symbol of fashion, status, and femininity. Originally designed for functionality in the 16th century, they were embraced by aristocrats to elevate their height and showcase their wealth. As time progressed, high heels became a canvas for artistic expression, with styles ranging from elegant court shoes to flamboyant platforms that dominated the catwalks. The shift in their connotation reflects broader societal changes, as they went from being associated with the male aristocracy to becoming a staple in women’s fashion culture. Today, high-heeled shoes are celebrated for their ability to transform an outfit, empowering women while also sparking debates around comfort, health, and gender norms. Below is a concise overview of their development:

Origins (9th–16th Century)

  • Early Predecessors: Elevated footwear existed in ancient cultures, like the Greek kothorni (platform shoes for actors) and Persian riding boots with heels for men to stabilize in stirrups (10th century). These were not women’s high heels but set a precedent for raised footwear.
  • 15th Century Europe: Women wore chopines, platform shoes popular in Venice, often 7–30 cm high. These protected dresses from muddy streets, signified wealth (due to the need for servants to balance), and were worn by elite women. They weren’t true heels but influenced later designs.
  • Late 16th Century: Catherine de Medici, a trendsetter, is credited with popularizing heeled shoes in France around the 1560s. She wore 2-inch heels to appear taller and more authoritative, sparking interest in heels as fashionable women’s footwear.

17th–18th Century: Rise of the High Heel

  • 1600s: Heels became unisex in European aristocracy. Women’s heels, often 2–3 inches, were made of wood or leather, covered in silk or velvet, and adorned with embroidery. They symbolized status, as only the wealthy could afford impractical shoes.
  • 1660s–1700s: Louis XIV of France popularized red-heeled shoes for both genders, with women’s heels becoming slimmer and more curved. The “Louis heel” (a stacked, slightly curved heel) emerged, emphasizing elegance and femininity.
  • Late 18th Century: Post-French Revolution, heels fell out of favor due to associations with aristocracy. Flat shoes and simpler styles dominated as democratic ideals took hold.

19th Century: Revival and Refinement

  • Early 1800s: Heels remained low or absent, with ballet-style slippers in vogue. However, by the 1850s, heels re-emerged as women’s fashion embraced ornate styles.
  • 1860s: The invention of the sewing machine enabled mass production, making heels more accessible. Women’s heels, typically 1–2 inches, were blocky or slightly curved, paired with ankle boots or pumps.
  • Late 19th Century: The “spool heel” (narrow at the base, wider at the top) became popular, and heels grew to 3–4 inches. Victorian ideals of femininity tied heels to allure, though they were still modest compared to later designs.

20th Century: High Heels as Fashion Icons

  • 1900s–1920s: Heels became a staple of women’s fashion. The stiletto’s precursor, a slender 2–3-inch heel, appeared with pointed-toe pumps. Designers like André Perugia experimented with heel shapes, emphasizing elegance.
  • 1930s–1940s: Hollywood glamour boosted heels’ popularity. Platforms returned, and wedge heels (invented by Salvatore Ferragamo) offered stability. Wartime shortages led to creative materials like cork and wood. Heels ranged from 2–5 inches.
  • 1950s: The stiletto heel, a thin, 4–8-inch heel reinforced with metal, was perfected by Roger Vivier and popularized by stars like Marilyn Monroe. It became a symbol of femininity and sexuality, though it sparked debates about health and practicality.
  • 1960s–1970s: Fashion diversified. The 1960s saw chunky heels and platforms (up to 6 inches) alongside stilettos, reflecting youth culture. The 1970s embraced platforms and block heels, with disco culture amplifying bold, high styles.
  • 1980s–1990s: Power dressing brought back stilettos for professional women, often 3–5 inches, paired with sharp suits. Designers like Manolo Blahnik and Christian Louboutin (with his iconic red soles in 1992) elevated heels as luxury items. Platforms also resurged in the 1990s with “Spice Girls” chunky heels.

21st Century: Versatility and Debate

  • 2000s–2010s: Heels remained central to fashion, with stilettos, kitten heels (1–2 inches), and platforms all popular. Designers pushed extremes, like Alexander McQueen’s 10-inch “Armadillo” heels (2010). Comfort became a focus, with brands like Cole Haan integrating cushioning.
  • 2010s–2020s: Feminist critiques questioned heels as symbols of oppression, citing health issues (back pain, bunions) and workplace mandates. Some women embraced flats or sneakers, but heels persisted, with “block heels” and lower styles offering comfort. Sustainable materials and inclusive sizing also emerged.
  • Cultural Shifts: Red carpet events and influencers kept stilettos iconic, but casual fashion normalized mixing heels with jeans or athleisure. By 2025, heels are both celebrated for self-expression and scrutinized for practicality, with hybrid designs (e.g., sneaker-heels) gaining traction.

Key Themes

  • Status and Power: Heels historically signaled wealth and authority, later shifting to feminine allure.
  • Technology: Advances like metal-reinforced stilettos and mass production shaped accessibility and design.
  • Cultural Debates: Heels have been both empowering (enhancing confidence) and controversial (health concerns, gendered expectations).
  • Fashion Cycles: Heels oscillate between high and low, slender and chunky, reflecting broader trends.

I must admit artificial intelligence did the research on this topic, utilizing advanced algorithms and vast datasets to analyze and synthesize information efficiently and effectively, thereby producing insights that might have taken humans considerably more time to uncover, leading to a more thorough understanding of the subject matter at hand.

Lessons from President Lincoln

The person I immediately thought of was Abraham Lincoln.

Lincoln led the United States during the Civil War (1861–1865), a time that challenged the nation’s core values and survival. His determination to keep the Union intact while handling numerous political and military obstacles demonstrated strong leadership. Throughout the war, Lincoln encountered significant opposition from both his party and outside forces, but he stayed committed to equality and democracy. He recognized that the conflict was about more than just winning battles; it was also about ending slavery and healing the nation. Through impactful speeches, key decisions, and adapting his strategies, Lincoln inspired hope and ensured that the principles of liberty and justice would survive beyond the war’s turmoil.

Born into poverty in a small log cabin, Lincoln was determined to educate himself. He read many books and discussed ideas, eventually becoming a respected lawyer. His journey from such humble beginnings to political power shows resilience and grit. He faced personal struggles and led a divided nation with compassion and integrity. His story of perseverance can inspire anyone who values determination, proving that hard work can help overcome significant challenges to achieve success.

His speeches, like the Gettysburg Address, clearly expressed powerful ideas about democracy and equality, leaving a lasting impact on history and society. He conveyed a message that touched people’s hearts and minds, encouraging them to think about their values and responsibilities, while fostering hope for a future where everyone is treated with dignity and respect. During times of conflict, his words acted as a guiding light, promoting unity and justice, and inspiring generations to support the principles of freedom and human rights for all.

Lincoln wasn’t flawless. He wrestled with his own views on race, faced criticism for suspending habeas corpus, and made tough calls that weren’t universally popular. His ability to grow, listen, and adapt while staying true to core principles makes him relatable and human.

That is why I immediately thought of Abraham Lincoln, a leader renowned for his wisdom and unwavering commitment to unity during one of the most tumultuous times in American history. His ability to navigate through conflicts and bring people together, despite their differing views, serves as a powerful reminder of the importance of empathetic leadership in today’s world.

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Who is your favorite historical figure?

National Flip Flop Day June 20th

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National Flip Flop Day is celebrated annually in the United States to embrace the carefree spirit of summer and the iconic footwear known as flip-flops. Originally observed on the third Friday in June, the date was changed in 2023 to the Wednesday after Memorial Day to better align with the onset of warmer weather and the bustling activities of the summer season. This shift reflects a growing awareness of consumer habits, as many individuals eagerly anticipate the warmer days of summer, looking forward to beach outings, barbecues, and leisurely strolls. The date for 2025 was set for Wednesday, May 28, as it falls on the Wednesday after Memorial Day, following the updated schedule established by Tropical Smoothie Cafe in 2023 that encourages everyone to celebrate the joys of summer. The day serves not only as a reminder to don your favorite flip-flops but also as an occasion to gather with friends and family, sharing laughter and creating lasting memories. The AI I used did not know about the update, highlighting the fact that technology, while incredibly advanced, is not infallible and is continually evolving to keep up with the changes in our world.

Founded in 2007 by Tropical Smoothie Cafe to mark their 10th anniversary, celebrate summer, and show appreciation for their customers.

The term “flip-flop” comes from the slapping sound the sandals make when walking, an onomatopoeia used in American and British English since the 1960s. Flip-flops have ancient origins, with evidence of similar footwear in Ancient Egypt around 4,000 BC, made from materials like papyrus and palm leaves. They were also worn in ancient Greece, Rome, and Mesopotamia, showcasing their enduring nature across cultures and epochs. It is interesting to note that these early variants were often adorned with decorative elements, reflecting the wearer’s status and style. The design and function of flip-flops evolved over centuries, influenced by both social changes and advancements in materials. In addition, Japanese zori sandals, traditionally crafted from rice straw and tatami mats, influenced modern flip-flops in the U.S. after World War II, as returning soldiers brought back these unique styles, leading to their widespread popularity in American beach culture. Today, flip-flops are not only a staple of casual summer wear but also a symbol of relaxed, carefree living, enjoyed by people of all ages around the world.

Wear your favorite flip-flops and share photos on social media with #NationalFlipFlopDay to celebrate this fun and relaxed occasion. Take the time to shop for new flip-flops, including eco-friendly options from reputable brands like Rainbow or Hari Mari, which prioritize sustainability and style. To really embrace the spirit of the day, consider hosting flip-flop-themed events like lively beach parties, friendly flip-flop races, or engaging craft activities using old flip-flops for art projects that can be both fun and eco-conscious. If you find yourself far from a Tropical Smoothie Cafe, you can still indulge your taste buds by making or enjoying delicious smoothies at home using fresh fruits and ingredients, allowing everyone to gather and celebrate in comfort and relaxation.

I may be late, but I enjoyed learning about Flip Flop Day.

My First Crush

The night of April 11th, 2010, I had a strange dream. This involved a girl, (woman) I have not thought about for 68 years. This was Sandra. I went to grade, junior, and high school with her. In grade school Sandra and I were very close. The first time we met we were attracted to each other. That was over sixty years ago, and I can’t say that I can remember that much about that time. We did make it a point to be next to each other and would look for each other when there was a gathering. I do remember one event that still is important to me. During that time there were tables the size where two individuals sat at the table. We always made it a point to sit at the same table if we were able to. Anyway, the teacher was rambling on, and I was on the left Sandra was on the right. Our arms were resting on the table, and they were barely touching each other. I was starting to get this tingling feeling from my elbow down to my wrist where our arms were interacting. This felt great! I can still feel the tingling going up and down my arm. Sandra was having the same response. She looks at me and smiles. I will never forget this moment. This was before sex ever became involved or thought about. One could say she was my first girlfriend, maybe even my soul mate and didn’t realize it.  

We went on to high school and began to drift apart. My teenage years were very hard for me. I was angry and mad. I didn’t like myself. I didn’t like the feelings and thoughts I was having. Those apparent hormones were doing a number on me. I had a loving family, All the things a teenager could expect. Driving at sixteen, a part time job and money in my pocket. Looking back at those times, I would say I was a jerk. Because of this I killed the relationship between me and Sandra. We went our separate ways, and I didn’t think of her until April 11, 2010. 

 In this dream Sandra came to me and said, “Tom, I was meant (created) for you. However, you rejected me. Our lives would have been totally different if you would not have rejected me.” This dream was a visual and moving dream. This bothered me because I wondered why I dreamt of Sandra after not seeing or hearing about her for over fifty years or more. Finally, on April 18th I thought I would search for some information about Sandra.  

Going to my yearbook newsletters I found out she was married to Ed. I did a Google search and came up with an obituary stating that Sandra passed away April 8, 2010. That was only three days before I had my strange dream. This really shocked me and leaves me with more questions than answers. Was this a visit from someone who recently died. Would my life have been different? Would it have been better or worse? I will never know. I have had a good life, and I feel I have made more good decisions instead of bad decisions. Did this change my outlook? Yes, it did. I have never been a strong religious person even though I was born and raised a Catholic. They teach that there is life after death. But I always had in the back of my mind, that may be wrong. However, after this dream I am convinced that yes, there is something after death. This dream occurred in 2010, and the dream relieved me of that thought ever since. death is not final. You can come to your own conclusion. Life is one large teaching experience. From birth until death, you are learning.  

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Write about your first crush.

Why Are We Here? Exploring Our Purpose

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Have you ever thought about why you are spending time on this earth?

The world is not a friendly place. There is bad weather, disease, and pain, all of which contribute to a pervasive sense of distress. It seems that there is constant war somewhere on the earth, threatening lives and displacing countless individuals from their homes. In some parts of the world, starvation is a serious problem, with entire communities struggling to find enough food to survive each day. The anguish of those suffering from hunger is compounded by a lack of access to medical care and basic sanitation, leading to a cycle of despair and hopelessness. I could go on and on about how this earth is not a friendly place for millions who have spent time on this planet, enduring hardships that often seem insurmountable, leaving them to wonder if there is any reprieve in sight.

How many faiths and religions have been or are currently attempting to explain the profound question of your presence on this earth? Each belief system, whether ancient or modern, carries unique stories and teachings that reflect humanity’s quest for understanding its place in the universe. From the monotheistic teachings of major world religions to the polytheistic perspectives found in various traditions, countless voices have sought to articulate the meaning of life and existence. Through rituals, sacred texts, and communal practices, these faiths aim to provide answers to our deepest yearnings and questions about purpose, identity, and the ultimate nature of reality.

The earth is just a small speck in this gigantic universe, a tiny oasis amidst the vastness of space that stretches infinitely in all directions. I do not know how many planets have been discovered that may be suitable for forms of life to survive, but scientists tirelessly search for those celestial bodies that might harbor the conditions necessary for life, such as the right temperature, atmosphere, and presence of water. Each new discovery ignites the imagination, prompting wild speculations about the myriad possibilities for life beyond our own world, raising questions about our place in the cosmos and whether we are truly alone in this grand expanse.

What if your time is a form of penance or punishment from another civilization located in the gigantic universe, a celestial courtroom beyond our comprehension? Are we paying for something that we did in another planet, shackled by the weight of our past mistakes, and time on earth was the sentence imposed upon us? Perhaps the very fabric of our existence is governed by unseen forces, orchestrating our lives in a manner we cannot fully understand. I often find myself pondering these perplexing ideas, questioning whether the mundane trials we endure are mere trivialities or echoes of a cosmic judgment. I don’t know where these crazy thoughts come from, but they linger like shadows in my mind, provoking a sense of wonder and questions about the true nature of our reality and our place within this vast, enigmatic universe.

Is this just me, or do you ever wonder about your purpose and time on this earth?
It seems that, at various points in our lives, we find ourselves pondering the deeper meanings of our existence, searching for answers to questions that often feel too complex to grasp.
We reflect on the choices we’ve made, the experiences we’ve had, and the dreams we once chased, all while considering how they shape our identity and future.
In a world that is constantly changing, it’s natural to seek clarity about our roles and the impact we leave behind, as we navigate the delicate balance between fulfilling personal aspirations and contributing to the greater good.

This question will remain unanswered until after our time on earth; it lingers like a whisper in the wind, provoking thought and curiosity in those who consider its meaning. As we navigate life’s complexities and mysteries, we often struggle with the uncertainties that shape our human experience. Whether through philosophy, spirituality, or science, the answers we seek may be out of reach, prompting us to reflect on our beliefs and values as we move through life. Ultimately, we may only discover the truths that have been hidden from us once we rise beyond our earthly limits.

Celebrate National Splurge Today

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National Splurge Day, celebrated annually on June 18th, encourages people to set aside their usual frugality and indulge in a little luxury, whether it’s a lavish meal, a spa day, or a significant shopping spree. Founded in 1994 by Adrienne Sioux Koopersmith, dubbed “America’s Premier Eventologist,” this holiday was created to offer a much-needed break from constant budgeting and to boost the economy through strategic spending that can stimulate local businesses. Koopersmith chose late June, post-tax season, when individuals might have extra cash on hand to treat themselves or their loved ones, creating an opportunity for joyful spending and the enjoyment of life’s pleasures. The day serves as a reminder of the importance of self-care and indulgence, inviting people to reflect on what they truly desire and encouraging a balance between saving and enjoying the fruits of one’s labor.

Splurging doesn’t mean reckless spending; it’s about enjoying something special without breaking the bank. For some, it might involve treating themselves to a fancy dinner at a celebrated restaurant, indulging in a luxurious spa day complete with massages and relaxation, or investing in a stylish pair of new shoes that complements their wardrobe. On the other hand, for others, it could simply be a small treat like adding whipped cream to a latte or purchasing a decadent dessert to savor. The day promotes mindful indulgence, encouraging experiences that create lasting memories, such as attending a lively concert, going on a weekend getaway with friends, or even participating in a fun workshop that sparks creativity. Koopersmith later shifted the holiday’s focus in 2017, urging people to splurge on helping refugees or shelter animals, reflecting a more altruistic approach that not only enhances one’s own well-being but also supports those in need, fostering a sense of community and compassion in the process. Ultimately, splurging can be a multifaceted experience that balances personal enjoyment with the joy of giving back.

Whether it’s buying a luxury item, enjoying a decadent meal, or donating to a cause, National Splurge Day is about balance—celebrating life’s pleasures while staying financially responsible. It’s a day to break away from the mundane routines and immerse yourself in experiences that bring joy and fulfillment. Share your splurge on social media with #NationalSplurgeDay to inspire others, showcasing both the small delights and the grand gestures that make life richer. So, on June 18th, take a moment to treat yourself or someone else to something special, whether it’s a lavish spa day, an exquisite piece of art, or simply a thoughtful gift. Celebrate the joy of indulgence done right, and remember that it’s the little things that can make a big impact in our lives and the lives of those around us. Embrace this day as an opportunity to reconnect with what truly matters to you, creating lasting memories that elevate your spirit and enhance your well-being.

Watergate June 17, 1972: A Cautionary Tale of Political Corruption

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The Watergate scandal, a seismic debacle that shook the very foundations of American politics, erupted in the early 1970s, culminating in the disgraceful resignation of President Richard Nixon. It laid bare a shocking tapestry of power abuses, illegal machinations, and a brazen cover-up that utterly obliterated public trust in government. What follows is a daring exploration of this political theater, its explosive moments, and the indelible scars it left on the nation’s conscience.

On June 17, 1972, five men were arrested for breaking into the Democratic National Committee (DNC) headquarters at the Watergate office complex in Washington, D.C. The burglars, equipped with wiretapping devices and cameras, were caught attempting to bug the DNC offices. They were later linked to the Committee to Re-elect the President (CRP), Nixon’s campaign organization, raising suspicions of political espionage.

The break-in was not an isolated incident but part of a broader campaign of dirty tricks orchestrated by Nixon’s aides to undermine political opponents. This insidious strategy involved a series of coordinated efforts that extended far beyond the infamous Watergate Hotel break-in. It included wiretapping not only of the rival Democratic Party but also of journalists and activists who were critical of the administration. Harassment tactics were employed against prominent figures, intimidating them into silence or compliance. Furthermore, the campaign aimed to spread false information about Democratic candidates during the 1972 presidential election, which effectively sowed discord and mistrust among the electorate. These deceptive practices were designed to manipulate public perception and tilt the election outcome in favor of Nixon, showcasing a blatant disregard for democratic principles and the integrity of the electoral process.

The burglary initially received little attention, but investigative reporting by Washington Post journalists Bob Woodward and Carl Bernstein kept the story alive. Their work, aided by a confidential source known as “Deep Throat” (later revealed to be FBI Associate Director Mark Felt), uncovered connections between the burglars and high-ranking officials in the Nixon administration.

A Senate investigation, led by the Senate Watergate Committee in 1973, further exposed the scandal. Key revelations included The existence of a secret White House taping system that recorded Nixon’s conversations. Testimony from former Nixon aide John Dean, who detailed a cover-up orchestrated by the administration. Evidence of illegal campaign contributions, slush funds, and misuse of government agencies like the FBI, CIA, and IRS to target Nixon’s enemies.

The discovery of the White House tapes became pivotal. Nixon initially refused to release them, citing executive privilege, but the Supreme Court ruled unanimously in United States v. Nixon (1974) that he must comply. The tapes revealed Nixon’s direct involvement in obstructing justice, including discussions about halting the FBI’s investigation into the break-in.

On August 8, 1974, facing certain impeachment and conviction for his role in the Watergate scandal, President Richard Nixon announced his resignation in a televised address, becoming the first U.S. president in history to step down from office under such circumstances. This unprecedented event marked a significant moment in American political history, as it raised questions about ethics and accountability in government. Following Nixon’s resignation, Vice President Gerald Ford assumed the presidency, navigating a deeply divided nation grappling with the fallout of the scandal. In a highly controversial move that polarized the public, Ford pardoned Nixon just a month later, sparing him from any criminal prosecution. This decision sparked widespread outrage and debate, as many felt that it undermined the rule of law and set a troubling precedent for future administrations, leaving a lasting impact on public trust in government institutions.

The scandal led to the indictment of 69 people, with 48 convictions, including key Nixon aides like John Mitchell, H.R. Haldeman, and John Ehrlichman. It also spurred significant reforms, such as: The Federal Election Campaign Act Amendments (1974), tightening campaign finance laws. The Freedom of Information Act amendments, strengthening government transparency. Increased oversight of intelligence agencies.

Watergate profoundly eroded public trust in government, contributing to widespread cynicism about politics. The suffix “-gate” became synonymous with political scandals. The scandal also elevated the role of investigative journalism, with Woodward and Bernstein’s work inspiring future generations of reporters.

The Watergate scandal remains a cautionary tale about the dangers of unchecked power and the importance of accountability in democracy. Its legacy endures in ongoing debates about government transparency, executive authority, and the rule of law.

There has been speculation that events that have happened in the last few years, marked by political turmoil and increasing division, will make the Watergate scandal look like child’s play. This comparison stems from a series of unfolding controversies and allegations that have captured the public’s attention and raised serious concerns about the integrity of our institutions. Only time will tell whether these events will indeed reshape our understanding of political accountability and governance, or if they will fade into the annals of history as just another chapter of discord.

Avoiding Financial Pitfalls in Retirement

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How do you want to retire?

Retirement is an important time in life. After many years of work, the goal is to enjoy your later years in comfort. It’s part of the American dream, achievable with careful planning and saving. A bit of luck is also needed for everything to align for a successful retirement.

Since I retired nineteen years ago, I will share how I managed my finances for a comfortable retirement. First, I paid off all my credit cards, ensuring I only had monthly expenses that were paid off completely. I checked my social security benefits and the small pension we would receive. I assessed the condition of our vehicles to determine when they would need replacing. Then, I created a budget to see if our retirement income could cover our monthly expenses, with entertainment costs coming from our savings. We decided to retire, hoping our finances would last as long as we did.

Everything was going well until the financial crash of 2008, which caused our portfolio to show losses over half its value. We had to decide whether to sell the stocks and realize those losses. Since I didn’t need the money, I chose to keep the stocks until they returned to their purchase price before selling. We didn’t earn any money, but we also didn’t lose anything. It took about seven years to recover our original investments. These were challenging times, and I decided to withdraw from the stock market entirely and invest only in secure options because I was too old to handle the stress. Since then, we have been financially stable.

As we age, health problems can affect our retirement plans, often putting vacations and trips on hold. We have enjoyed over nineteen years of a comfortable retirement and feel lucky to have had this time. We hope for many more years ahead.

The Whispering Ink 

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Bill Graves was used to writing in silence, his words shaping worlds for others while his name remained absent from their covers. He was a ghostwriter—a specter in the literary shadows, crafting narratives that thrived in the minds of readers, yet remained anonymous to the public eye. His latest project was different, however, stirring something within him that had long been dormant. The request had come in a faded envelope, scrawled with a single name: Barry Carrol. Unlike the countless other clients whose stories he had brought to life, Carrol’s reputation resonated like a haunting echo from the past, invoking curiosity and a sense of urgency. As Bill held the envelope, he felt an unusual thrill; the chance to reveal the truth behind Barry Carrol ‘s enigmatic persona filled him with excitement. The shadows felt a bit brighter, and the silence around him buzzed with potential as he prepared to delve into a world that promised both challenge and discovery. 

Barry Carrol had been a celebrated novelist, known for his haunting prose that lingered in the minds of readers long after the last page was turned. His works, filled with deep emotion and intricate storytelling, captivated literary critics and audiences alike, earning him numerous accolades and a loyal following. Then, years ago, he vanished without a trace. There were no more books, no more interviews, just distant whispers of him retreating into solitude, lost in a world of his own making. Friends and colleagues speculated about his disappearance, while fans mourned the abrupt end to a brilliant career. Now, in an unexpected turn of fate, Bill had been hired to complete Carrols’s unfinished manuscript, a daunting task that came with immense pressure and a profound sense of responsibility, as he aimed to honor the late author’s voice while infusing the narrative with his inspiration. 

The pages arrived in bundles, sent by an unnamed editor, each package wrapped tightly as if to contain the energy within. Bill expected fragments of ideas, skeletal outlines that would require his creative touch to flesh out. But what he received was unsettling, almost haunting. The words were alive, pulsating with a rhythm that seemed to seep into his very being. Characters spoke in voices that echoed in his mind, their emotions so vivid that he could almost feel their breaths against his skin. As he delved deeper into their stories, he found himself ensnared in their struggles and triumphs, each turn of phrase igniting a spark of inspiration within him yet also leaving him with an unsettling sense of responsibility for their fates. 

As he wrote, something strange happened. He would wake in the night, startled by the sound of scribbling, only to find new passages written in his own hand. Words he hadn’t drafted appeared on the pages, eerie and unmistakably Carrol’s style, flowing like a river that had burst its banks. Each time he turned the pages, he felt a shiver run down his spine, not from fear but from an inexplicable thrill of realization—the book was writing itself, crafting a narrative that seemed to transcend his own consciousness. It was as if the voice of an unseen muse had taken hold of him, channeling ideas and scenarios that felt both foreign and deeply personal. As he read the newly inscribed lines, he wrestled with the notion that perhaps he was not just an author but a vessel for something more profound, a connection to an otherworldly source of creativity that was beyond his understanding. 

One evening, unable to shake his unease, Bill scoured old news archives with a sense of mounting dread. He found an article detailing Carrol’s mysterious disappearance, claiming he’d died in solitude, shrouded in an unsettling silence that made the hairs on the back of his neck stand up. The official story was vague, leaving many questions unanswered, but there was something chilling about the timeline that seemed to dance in the shadows of his mind, suggesting deeper secrets lingering just out of reach. As he delved deeper into the sparse details, a sense of foreboding washed over him, igniting a flicker of curiosity mixed with dread about the truth behind Carrol’s last moments. 

His trembling fingers turned to the final pages of the manuscript, each delicate turn amplifying the mix of anxiety and anticipation gnawing at his insides. It was nearly done—yet he hadn’t consciously written the ending, leaving a void that felt as vast as the empty pages themselves. He scanned the paragraphs, heart pounding like a drumbeat in the stillness of the room, each word echoing with uncertainty and hope. His mind raced with the possibilities of what could unfold; the characters he had nurtured, their struggles laid bare, seemed to gaze back at him, pleading for closure. The last line struck him like a jolt of lightning: “Some stories never truly end. They only wait for a new hand to tell them.” In that fleeting moment, he realized that perhaps his journey as a storyteller was just beginning, and the ink of his pen was merely a bridge to the countless tales yet to be woven. 

Bill dropped the pages in frustration, letting them scatter across the floor as he reached for his phone, intending to call the editor for guidance on the pressing issue at hand. However, just as he was about to press the call button, his screen flickered dramatically, momentarily illuminating the dim room in an eerie glow. In that brief instant, the reflection that appeared wasn’t his own, but rather a shadowy visage that sent a chill down his spine, making him question whether he was truly alone in the room or being watched from an unseen presence lurking in the darkness. 

Barry Carrol’s thin, knowing smile stared back at him, a subtle hint of mystery dancing at the corners of his lips, as if he held secrets that only he understood; the kind of smile that suggested he had seen things others could only imagine, experiences etched into his features like a map of a complex journey, inviting curiosity yet holding back the truths he might reveal. Each curve and line of his face seemed to tell a story, layered with depth and intrigue, leaving the observer not only captivated but also yearning to unveil the enigma that surrounded him. His eyes sparkled with a glimmer of mischief, possibly hinting at laughter shared in quiet moments or whispers of adventures taken under the moonlight, which made the beholder wonder about the paths Barry had walked and the memories that lingered, enticing them to delve deeper into the psyche of the man behind that enigmatic expression, to unravel the tapestry of experiences that shaped him into the person he was today.

Father’s Day June 15, 2025

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Father’s Day in the United States is celebrated on the third Sunday of June, which is today. It’s a day to honor fathers, grandfathers, stepfathers, and father figures for their roles in family and society. This occasion involves giving gifts, writing cards, and spending time together, allowing families to show appreciation and love. Many also take this time to think about the lessons and values taught by their fathers, acknowledging their important influence on lives and communities. Celebrations can vary, with some families enjoying big gatherings or barbecues, while others prefer a quiet day to relax and reflect.

The idea is often credited to Sonora Smart Dodd, who wanted to honor her father, a Civil War veteran who raised six children alone in a time when single parenting was rare and usually stigmatized. Inspired by the success and sentiment surrounding Mother’s Day, she passionately pushed for a similar day dedicated to celebrating fathers and their vital contributions to family and society. The first Father’s Day was celebrated on June 19, 1910, in Spokane, Washington, where Dodd organized a special church service to recognize fathers, encouraging others to join in and celebrate paternal figures as well. It quickly gained popularity, and though it faced various challenges in gaining widespread acceptance over the years, it became a permanent national holiday in 1972 when President Richard Nixon signed it into law, acknowledging the importance of fathers and father figures in American life. Notably, while Father’s Day had been observed for decades prior, it wasn’t until this official recognition that it became a day of celebration marked across the nation. with, cards, and family gatherings.

Common gifts include tools, gadgets, clothing, or personalized items like mugs or cards, which can show the recipient’s interests. Experiences such as family outings, special meals, or adventurous day trips create lasting memories. Families often spend the day together, whether grilling, fishing, or just relaxing at home. Some honor fathers with heartfelt letters that express love and appreciation, making the day more meaningful. While the U.S. celebrates on the third Sunday of June, other countries have different dates, each with their unique traditions. For instance, Australia and New Zealand celebrate on the first Sunday of September, adding a cheerful springtime vibe. Many cultures also include various rituals that enrich the celebration of fatherhood, showcasing the bond between fathers and children worldwide.

In 2025, Americans are projected to spend a record $24 billion on Father’s Day gifts, reflecting a growing appreciation for paternal figures and the importance of celebrating them in our lives, up from $22.4 billion in 2024, according to the National Retail Federation (NRF). This increased spending illustrates a noteworthy trend where more families are choosing to honor their fathers with meaningful gifts, experiences, and gatherings. The average person plans to spend about $199.38 on gifts and celebrations, highlighting a willingness to invest in personal and heartfelt gestures that make the day special. From gourmet dinners to unique gadgets, the variety of gifts available has expanded significantly, allowing individuals to choose presents that resonate deeply with their father’s interests and hobbies.

Finally, have a happy, fun and peaceful Father’s Day.

From Death’s Door to New Beginnings

My favorite moment in my life happened February 7, 2023. This is the day I had a near-death experience that profoundly changed my perspective on life. I was laying on the operating table, feeling a wave of panic as I couldn’t inhale or exhale. In that moment, I surely thought that my time was over and that I would never see my loved ones again. Suddenly, I passed out and went somewhere beyond the bounds of my earthly existence. With a massive blood clot between my lungs. The doctors said they had better results if the patient stayed awake, so I went with that option. About 30 minutes after the start, I was really feeling horrible. I was having trouble getting a breath, at this time, I experienced PEACE, TOTAL PEACE like I had never known before. It enveloped me, washing away all fears and worries, transcending the chaos of my thoughts. It was an overwhelming sense of serenity that I will never forget, a stark contrast to the medical environment I had just left behind. I find myself reflecting on this experience frequently, and I look forward to experiencing this PEACE, TOTAL PEACE after my time on this earth is over, knowing now that there is a beauty in the unknown that goes beyond life itself.

This is the day I dodged death. I was standing in front of death’s door, and Doctor Death was holding the door open for me to enter, beckoning me with a chilling smile. Surprise! I survived! The moments that followed were surreal, almost dreamlike, as I wrestled with the reality of my existence. I found out later that the survival rate of that type of clot is only 3 to 5 percent, making my escape feel like a miracle. I beat the odds and emerged from that harrowing experience with a newfound appreciation for life. Now, I have experienced over 2 1/2 years of bonus years on this earth, filled with laughter, adventure, and moments I never thought I’d take for granted again. Waking up each day has transformed into one of my favorite moments, a celebration of existence where every sunrise is a reminder of my strength and resilience. Each breath I take is infused with gratitude, pushing me to make the most of this unexpected lease on life.

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Describe one of your favorite moments.

Pocket Calculators

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When pocket calculators rose to prominence in the early 1970s, they encountered significant skepticism and opposition, particularly from educators and traditionalists. A range of negative criticisms and excuses emerged during this period, grounded in the historical context of the time.

Many educators argued calculators would make students lazy, reducing their ability to perform mental arithmetic or master basic math concepts, which are crucial skills for everyday life. Teachers feared students would rely too heavily on machines instead of learning multiplication tables or long division, leading to a generation that struggles with fundamental mathematics. This reliance could hinder their problem-solving abilities and critical thinking, skills that are not only essential in academics but also in real-world scenarios where quick calculations may be necessary. Furthermore, the concern extended beyond just academic performance; it encompassed a broader issue regarding the potential erosion of cultural literacy in mathematics, as students might miss out on the satisfaction and confidence that come from mastering these essential skills through practice and understanding. As a result, many educators advocated for a balanced approach, incorporating calculators in a manner that would enhance learning rather than undermine it.

Schools worried that calculators would allow students to bypass learning fundamental mathematical concepts by quickly computing answers during tests, thereby undermining the educational process and making it hard to assess true understanding. These concerns highlighted a deeper issue: the fear that reliance on technology could lead students to become overly dependent on devices for simple calculations, stunting their ability to think critically and solve problems independently. Educators emphasized the importance of grasping the underlying principles of mathematics, suggesting that without a solid foundation, students might struggle in higher-level courses. Moreover, there was a growing debate about how to effectively integrate technology into the curriculum without diminishing the value of traditional learning methods. As a result, schools began re-evaluating their policies on calculator use, seeking a balance that would encourage both technological advancement and comprehensive learning.

Critics pointed out that early calculators were prone to errors, had limited functions, and relied on batteries that could fail, making them less dependable than manual methods or mechanical adding machines. These devices often produced incorrect calculations due to their rudimentary technology, which did not account for more complex computations. Furthermore, the reliance on batteries posed a significant drawback; users frequently found themselves without a functioning calculator when power ran low, particularly in critical situations where reliable calculations were essential. The maintenance costs and the need for constant battery replacement added to the overall inconvenience, leading many to prefer the tried-and-true methods of manual calculation or the reliability of mechanical systems. This skepticism about early calculators also reflected a broader hesitation within the industry to fully embrace electronic devices, as users questioned their long-term viability and accuracy in comparison to traditional techniques.

Slide rule users and accountants argued that calculators would render established tools obsolete, threatening the skills of professionals who relied on manual computation methods. They believed the introduction of these electronic devices would not only diminish the use of traditional tools like slide rules and adding machines but also risk a significant loss of practical skills among workers in the field. Many professionals felt that their expertise, honed through years of training and practice, could become undervalued in a world increasingly dependent on automated solutions. This shift challenged the established norms of education and practice, prompting a debate about the importance of foundational skills in an ever-evolving technological landscape. Furthermore, there was a concern that an over-reliance on calculators might lead to a generation of professionals who could struggle with basic numerical reasoning and problem-solving, thus impacting the overall integrity and accuracy in fields where precision is paramount.

Some saw calculators as a gimmick, claiming they didn’t teach problem-solving or critical thinking, just button-pushing, which was viewed as less intellectually rigorous. These critics argued that relying on technology for basic computations could lead to a decline in essential mathematical skills. They believed that the traditional methods of learning, which emphasized manual calculations and deep understanding of mathematical concepts, were being undermined by the convenience of calculators. Furthermore, they expressed concerns that students might become overly dependent on such devices, potentially stunting their ability to approach more complex problems with creativity and confidence. In the long run, they feared that this reliance could result in a generation of learners who lacked the foundational skills necessary for advanced studies or real-world applications.

Do these criticisms sound similar to the ones you hear about artificial intelligence (AI)? It sure does to me. Many people express concerns about the rapid advancement of technology and its implications for society, often raising questions about ethical considerations, job displacement, and the potential for bias in AI systems. Just as the advent of the internet sparked debates about privacy and information overload, the rise of AI brings forth similar discussions about its role in our daily lives and the long-term effects it may have on humanity. These parallels highlight a recurring theme in our relationship with technology: the need for careful scrutiny and responsible development to ensure that progress benefits everyone.

Meeting in Dreams 

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Every night, Bernadette and George met in a dreamworld where gravity bent, colors bled into impossible hues, and buildings pulsed like living things, resonating with a heartbeat that felt both foreign and familiar. They were strangers in waking life, unaware of each other’s existence, yet in this surreal realm, they were constant companions, bound by threads of fate that transcended the ordinary. As they explored the ever-shifting landscapes, laughter and whispered secrets filled the air like a melody, intertwining their souls in a dance of dreams. The first time they locked eyes, standing on a glass bridge over a sea of stars that shimmered with the essence of forgotten dreams, they both felt it—a jolt of recognition, though they’d never met, as if the universe had conspired to weave their destinies together in this ethereal space where the laws of reality faded into the backdrop of their shared imagination.

Bernadette, a quiet barista in Seattle, had dreamed of this enchanted place since childhood, her imagination ignited by tales of magic and wonder. George, a seasoned carpenter in Dublin, had been wandering its shifting landscapes for years, seeking solace and inspiration in a world that seemed to echo his innermost thoughts. The dreamworld was vast and mesmerizing, with forests of liquid light that shimmered like jewels and rivers that whispered secrets of forgotten lore. They’d find each other instinctively, drawn like magnets across the ethereal expanse. At first, they explored in silence, marveling at floating islands suspended in mid-air, or the playful dance of shadows that brought life to the otherwise still surroundings. Then, as curiosity overcame their initial shyness, they began to share their thoughts—discussing the dreamworld’s whimsical rules, its breathtaking beauty, and their own lives that felt burdensome in the waking world. In that surreal haven, the barriers of reality faded away, and neither questioned why they shared this extraordinary space; it felt not just coincidental but profoundly inevitable, as if the universe had conspired to unite their souls in this sanctuary of dreams.

One night, under a sky of spiraling fractals, Bernadette asked, “Why us? What’s connecting us?” George, carving intricate patterns into a glowing tree, paused and looked up, pondering her question with a faraway gaze. “Maybe we’re two halves of something,” he said, his voice barely above a whisper but carrying the weight of their entwined fates. They pieced together clues, reflecting on their journeys: both had lost someone—a parent for Bernadette, a brother for George—and both carried a peculiar loneliness, a profound sense of being unmoored in a world that seemed to move on without them. In the silence that followed, they shared unspoken fears and dreams, realizing that their paths had diverged only to converge in this ethereal space. The dreamworld, they theorized, was not merely a random occurrence but a bridge between their minds, forged by shared grief and collective healing, a frequency only they could tune into, where the memories of their loved ones lingered like echoes, guiding them through their solitude.

They grew close, sharing stories on dreamlit cliffs that seemed to stretch endlessly beneath the vast, starry sky. Bernadette described Seattle’s rain, how it fell gently like whispered secrets upon her skin, while George mimicked Dublin’s pub songs, his voice echoing the lively spirit of the city. They laughed, their joy ringing through the air, argued about whimsical topics, and even danced once on a field of mirrored grass that glimmered under the moonlight. The dreamworld felt more real than their waking lives, each moment vibrant and full of emotion, as if they could touch the very fabric of their dreams. But neither could find the other outside the dream—no names to call out in the waking world, no addresses to search for, just fragments of a bond that lingered like the sweet, haunting melodies of the songs they shared. Their connection, though ephemeral, shone brightly within their hearts, leaving an imprint that would always tie them to those fleeting moments of pure magic.

Then George stopped appearing. The first night, Bernadette wandered alone, calling his name as the dreamworld dimmed, its colors muted, as if the very essence of her dreams had faded with him. Days turned into weeks, blending together in a hazy confusion, leaving her feeling isolated and lost. The once vibrant landscapes she would traverse grew brittle, crumbling under the weight of his absence, the trees sagging as if mourning the loss of their companion. Without George’s presence, the joyful laughter they shared echoed in her mind like distant memories, leaving an ache in her heart. Bernadette’s dreams became erratic and disjointed, sometimes filled with strange images that made no sense, while other times they formed empty voids that swallowed her whole. In waking life, her desperation deepened as she scoured the internet, spending countless hours posting vague descriptions of him on forums, hoping against hope that someone, somewhere might have seen him or could offer a clue. Yet, despite her efforts and the plethora of messages she sent into the digital abyss, she found nothing but silence, each reply further fueling her despair.

Unknown to her, George lay in a Dublin hospital, in a coma after a catastrophic work accident that had left everyone in shock. His mind, once a beacon in their shared dreamworld, was silent and unreachable, shrouded in darkness. Without his consciousness to anchor it, the dreamworld, once vibrant and full of life, began to crumble under the weight of uncertainty. Bernadette felt it fading around her, like a cherished memory slipping away from the grasp of her mind. Desperate to maintain a connection to him, she clung to sleep each night, where she sketched the dreamworld’s landscapes with all the vivid details she could muster, drawing rivers that sparkled under imaginary moons and forests that whispered secrets. Each stroke of her imagination was a lifeline to the beauty they had created together a world teeming with colors and emotions that felt almost tangible. But with each passing night, as George remained adrift in his silent slumber, less and less of that precious world remained, transforming into shadows of what once was, leaving Bernadette increasingly anxious and lonely.

One night, the dreamworld vanished entirely, slipping through her fingers like sand. Bernadette woke sobbing, feeling as if a piece of her soul had been ripped away, the loss as sharp as losing a home where she had built countless memories. In Dublin, miles away yet connected by invisible threads, George’s monitors flatlined, their steady beep replaced by an ominous silence. Their connection, born of shared sorrow and a strange cosmic alignment, dissolved with his final breath, leaving an emptiness that echoed through both their lives. Bernadette never learned his name, yet she carried the dreamworld’s echoes within her, painting its impossible colors on the canvas of her heart, searching for him in every stranger’s face she passed in the bustling streets, wondering if the universe would ever align their paths again in a way that could rekindle the bond they had unknowingly forged in the dreamscape. The world outside seemed less vibrant, a mere shadow of the brilliance they had shared in those fleeting moments, and she longed for a sign, a whisper from the cosmos that he might still be out there, dreaming alongside her in some parallel realm, waiting for the moment when their destinies could intertwine once more.

A Journey to Oshkosh: Reconnecting Family

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This is how it started.

My wife, Dee and I were over at Jeff my son’s house for a delightful Christmas time meal, where the warm atmosphere and festive decorations sparked a nostalgic thought within me. “Maybe my Jeff would be willing to take us to Oshkosh, Wisconsin, so we could visit my brother Jack, who I haven’t seen for over twenty years,” I pondered, feeling a wave of emotion. It’s been far too long since I shared precious moments with my sibling. At over eighty years old, and with my brother Jack being five years my senior, I often reflect on the fleeting nature of time and the importance of family connections. Unfortunately, due to my declining health and mobility, I felt apprehensive about embarking on such a trip alone. So, gathering my courage, I approached my son with my request. I asked him if he and his wife Jennifer would consider taking the journey with us. Jeff paused for a moment, contemplating the idea before he responded, saying that he would think about it and let me know, leaving me filled with hope and anticipation for the possibility of reconnecting with my brother after all those years apart.

Two weeks later, Jeff calls with excitement in his voice, saying he would be willing to assist us in this venture to Oshkosh, which filled me with joy and anticipation. I was elated at the thought of reuniting with my brother, cherishing the precious moments together before time on this earth is over for me or Jack. The connection we share is something I hold dear, and I imagined all the stories and memories we could create. After serious consideration, Dee informs me that due to her ongoing medical conditions and the age factor, she feels that she shouldn’t make the trip for her own well-being. I understood her concerns, as her health must come first. Therefore, I call Jeff and informed him to just make plans for me, him, and Jennifer, hoping that this adventure would strengthen our bonds even further while honoring Dee’s decision.

The following evening, Jeff calls me with an intriguing suggestion that Jennifer had proposed. Instead of her attending the trip, she thought it would be a great idea to invite Adam, who happens to be Jeff’s brother, to join us instead. I found this suggestion quite interesting, as Adam, Jeff, and I have not spent some quality time together for many years. So, I decided to call Adam directly to discuss the idea, He responded enthusiastically, saying he would first talk to his wife to see if he could get off work for that weekend, which made me hopeful for a positive outcome. A few days later, I received a call from Adam, excitedly informing me that he had indeed managed to secure the time off, making it possible for him to join us. This development was fantastic news! With this confirmation, Jeff immediately set to work planning the details of our trip, Final arrangements were made for us to leave the evening of Thursday, May 15th, filled with anticipation for the adventure ahead, and return on Sunday morning, May 18th, looking forward to creating some unforgettable memories together. Ensuring our reunion would be one for the books.

On May 15th, Jeff worked in the morning and then picked me up at noon since I live conveniently between where he worked and his home. We decided to have a bite to eat at his home. Then, Mina, took us to the light rail station for the trip to DIA airport. I had never experienced this mode of transportation to DIA before, but Jeff had done this many times and seemed quite knowledgeable about the whole process. I am not a big fan of light rail since the stations are always in a remote area that feels disconnected from the bustling city life, and I don’t feel very comfortable waiting there. Additionally, there is that small number of people you encounter who make you uneasy with their actions or just their general demeanor. Despite my apprehensions, we arrived at DIA without any problem, and as we stepped off the train, I felt a wave of relief wash over me, grateful for the smooth trip and Jeff’s company.

Jeff commented that the security wait during this time of day should be short. Wrong! It took about 40 minutes to get through security, which felt like an eternity with our bags weighing us down. The hustle and bustle of the airport only added to the stress of the afternoon. Finally, we met Adam at the gate to board the plane, relief washing over us as we spotted him in the crowd. The plane to Appleton was a small plane with just 3 seats across, and it was not very comfortable; each bump in the air seemed magnified in such a tiny cabin. Leaving Denver around 5:30 pm, we sat quietly as the sun dipped below the horizon, arriving at Appleton sometime after 10, accompanied by a growing sense of fatigue. After disembarking, we quickly made our way to the rental car, eager to leave the airport behind, and we drove to Oshkosh, arriving about 30 minutes later. As we pulled in, Jack met us, greeted us warmly, showed us to our rooms, and then promptly crashed, utterly exhausted. It has been a long, stressful day, filled with the anticipation of reunion and the weariness of travel.

On Friday we met Jack at 8 am, and his welcoming demeanor immediately put us at ease. Jack is some authority at The Jesuit Retreat House in Oshkosh, Wisconsin, a serene place known for its tranquil environment, where individuals come to seek peace and reflection. That is where we are staying for the weekend, surrounded by the picturesque landscapes that make this retreat house so special. Ironically, this weekend there is not a retreat going on, allowing us to enjoy the facilities more freely without the usual schedule of structured activities. it worked out well that the trip was planned without knowing there would be no retreat this weekend, as it provided us with a unique opportunity to explore the grounds and engage in meaningful conversations with Jack.

We then went to Oshkosh for breakfast, which is about 5 miles away from our place. Jeff, who is an early riser, decided to exercise at a fitness site in Oshkosh. He stumbled upon this charming little restaurant named Good Yolk that caught his attention. Intrigued by its inviting atmosphere, we collectively decided to give it a try, eager to see what breakfast delights awaited us. Jack, always the pragmatist, warned us that in this area, the food portions are normally large, a fact that often accompanies hearty breakfast cultures. He was indeed correct; our plates were overflowing with delicious options. Despite the overwhelming size of the meals, it was all exceptionally good, filled with flavors that made it a memorable experience we were glad to share together.

After breakfast, we drove back to the retreat house, a charming haven nestled in a picturesque setting, where Jack eagerly provided a grand tour of the facilities. It is truly a stunning place, characterized by its serene location on the shimmering shore of Lake Winnebago, surrounded by lush, meticulously maintained grounds that enhance its natural beauty. As we strolled through the property, I was captivated by the breathtaking views. From a cozy lounge area, you have a panoramic view of the lake, where the water sparkles under the sunshine like a blanket of diamonds. They had binoculars available, allowing us to observe the delightful birds flitting about as well as the various activities taking place on the water, such as boats and fishing, adding to the lively atmosphere of this idyllic retreat.

Then after lunch, Jack wanted to take us to Waupaca, Wisconsin, which is an hour away from Oshkosh. They have a facility there where priests go during the summer for resting and relaxing, providing a serene escape from their daily responsibilities. It is only utilized during the warmer months, transforming into a tranquil haven away from the busyness of the outside world, a place where peace reigns, and nature’s beauty captivates hearts. Jack really likes the area and apparently goes there every summer, always returning refreshed and rejuvenated after his visits, sharing stories of his experiences that resonate with a deep sense of connection to this idyllic setting. The drive to the facility is quite scenic; it is isolated, where you navigate down a narrow gravel road for maybe half a mile to reach your destination, surrounded by towering trees that seem to stand as guardians of this retreat. As you drive through this heavily wooded area, the anticipation builds, and you arrive at a location nestled near a beautiful lake, where the calm waters reflect the surrounding nature and cradle the silence that fills the air. Unfortunately, that day, the weather was not our friend, as the wind was blowing hard, rustling the leaves ominously and casting an eerie atmosphere that made our hearts race. On the way back, while navigating down the narrow gravel road, we discovered that a tree had blown over and blocked our path, an unexpected challenge that increased the tension among us. Fortunately, the main trunk did not fall across the road, creating an obstacle we couldn’t ignore. Or we would have been stranded there, with no way to return to civilization. We quickly assessed the situation and were able to move the smaller branches, while Jeff skillfully maneuvered the car around the larger tree trunk, showcasing his adept driving skills. Adam and I worked together to hold back the branches that we couldn’t break away from the trunk, each crack of the branches above adding to the tension, instilling a growing concern that another tree might take a tumble while we were precariously navigating this situation. It was a moment filled with both anxiety and exhilaration, the adrenaline coursing through us as we worked together to overcome this obstacle, but ultimately, we got out unscathed. Yes, that is indeed an ideal place to get away and disconnect from the chaos of everyday life, where one can truly immerse themselves in nature’s embrace, allowing the soothing sounds of the lake and the forest to wash over the soul. We then got a bite to eat. We returned to the retreat house to spend an evening of talking and sharing events in our lives, where laughter echoed against the walls, and the warmth of friendship enveloped us like a comforting blanket.

Saturday, we met at the same time and went for breakfast in Oshkosh at The Mineshaft. This is primarily an evening restaurant, known for its vibrant nightlife and bustling atmosphere after dark. However, to our pleasant surprise, we discovered that they have a very reasonable breakfast menu priced at only seven bucks, which is quite a steal for the quality offered. The menu features a variety of delicious options, from fluffy pancakes to hearty omelets, catering to all breakfast lovers. You can tell that most of their profits are generated from drinks at night and the young crowd that flocks there for the lively energy and socializing. Despite its evening focus, the breakfast experience was enjoyable and filled with the friendly chatter of early risers, making our visit a delightful start to the weekend.

Driving by, we stumbled upon an intriguing establishment, the Military Veterans Museum, which piqued our curiosity, prompting us to make an impromptu visit. The museum showcased a comprehensive display of military conflicts throughout history, featuring an impressive array of vehicles and equipment that have played pivotal roles in combat. Adam and I, being veterans ourselves, felt a deep connection to many of the items and stories on display, as they echoed our own experiences and sacrifices. Jack and Jeff, were equally captivated by the exhibits, sharing their insights and memories as we walked through the museum. After thoroughly exploring, we heard about the EAA Museum of Flight, which was highly recommended by several locals, and decided it warranted a visit. To our amazement, we quickly discovered that EAA was far larger than we had anticipated; it was a treasure trove of aviation history where one could easily spend an entire day taking in the detailed exhibits and aircraft on display. After 2 or 3 hours of exploration, however, the older members of the group were feeling fatigued and agreed it was time to call it a day. Before heading back to the retreat house, we made a stop at a charming Japanese restaurant that Jack had enthusiastically recommended. The food was delicious, providing a delightful culinary experience that was perfect after a day of adventure. Since it was late afternoon, we decided to return to the retreat house to unwind and spend another evening reconnecting with each other. We shared countless tales and stories, reminiscing about the last twenty years we had spent apart. Each narrative was filled with laughter and nostalgia, creating a warm atmosphere that allowed us to strengthen our bonds. This experience was not just enjoyable; it was a memory that we would all cherish forever.

Sunday, we met at 5:45 am to have a small bite to eat, eager to fuel ourselves for the day ahead. After indulging in two days of large, hearty meals, a modest breakfast felt both satisfying and refreshing, a welcome change that allowed us to ease our way into the morning. At 6:30, with a mix of nostalgia and anticipation, we said our goodbyes to Jack, who had been an incredible host throughout our stay. We then drove to Appleton, where the excitement grew as we approached the airport. We managed to get on the plane somewhere around 8:30, and as we took off, I looked out the window at the ever-changing scenery below. The flight was smooth, and I was filled with thoughts of the past few days until we landed at DIA around 10:30. Stepping into the terminal, I was just astonished by the sheer number of travelers bustling around the airport, a vibrant mix of voices and energy. I also couldn’t help but notice that there were very few older travelers in sight; most were young, hurried individuals, all with destinations calling. After navigating through the crowd, Tara, Adam’s wife, picked us up with a warm smile. She took me home first, engaging in light conversation about our trip, followed by a detour to drop off Jeff, wrapping up what had been a memorable journey.

In conclusion, this has been a very memorable experience for me, one that I will cherish forever. I am incredibly glad that it all worked out well for everyone involved, as these moments are truly precious. I feel fortunate to have had the opportunity to visit Jack before our time is up on this earth. These visits remind us of the importance of connection and the bonds we share with our loved ones. Additionally, the time spent with my two sons was absolutely priceless; it filled my heart with joy and gratitude. It has been many years since we made the effort to reaffirm the love and the unbreakable bond a father and his sons share, a connection that will never fade away. Those moments together, filled with laughter and storytelling, not only reignited our familial ties but also allowed us to appreciate the present and the memories we create together.

Am I starting to show my age?

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Recently I went to Home Depot to buy a replacement connector for a hose, a task that seemed straightforward enough. I find what I need, a sturdy little connector that would serve its purpose well, and head to the self-checkout with a sense of accomplishment. I scan the item and get ready to pay, feeling rather pleased with my efficient shopping. However, as I reach into my front pocket for the money, I receive the shock of my life. My billfold and money are not there! PANIC! Where are they? My heart races as I search my other pockets, but there’s nothing. No wallet, no cash, nothing to complete my purchase. I feel a wave of embarrassment wash over me as I finally have to summon the clerk, my cheeks burning with the realization that I’ve forgotten my money. I inform her, awkwardly, that I can’t pay for the five-dollar purchase because of my carefree negligence. She kindly voids out the purchase, a small relief amid my distress, and I rush to my car, my mind racing with thoughts of where I might have lost my wallet, as I hurry home, vowing to be more careful in the future.

The trip is about ten minutes to home, but it feels like an eternity as I replay the events in my mind. All the time I am thinking about what could have happened to my billfold and cash, the weight of worry growing heavier with each passing moment. Did it fall out of my pocket during my hurried walk? Impossible! I can’t bear the thought of having lost such an important item. I start trying to retrace my tracks, mentally revisiting the last place I remember having it—each location sparks a flicker of hope but also despair. Maybe someone took it at breakfast yesterday, though I truly don’t believe that, as this is precisely why I carry my billfold in the front pocket to thwart pickpockets. I had different pants on yesterday, a pair with more pockets but perhaps a looser fit. Maybe I left it in yesterday’s pants, tucked away in a pocket I didn’t think to check. That is possible, isn’t it? The thought gives me a glimmer of optimism, as I urge myself to maintain hope while counting down the blocks until I reach home.

As I drive home, I can’t shake off the feeling of dread as I imagine the worst-case scenarios—what if it is gone for good, lost among the countless other items in my car, or worse, stolen by someone who has no regard for the inconvenience they cause? My mind races through the exhausting process I will undoubtedly have to face, reporting my credit cards to prevent any unauthorized charges, replacing my driver’s license along with my health insurance card, which is a nuisance I could do without. This situation brings back vivid memories of a particularly distressing day when my wife’s purse was lifted off her shopping cart during our grocery run, a simple act that spiraled into a massive headache as we navigated the chaos of getting everything replaced. The discomfort and frustration we endured were overwhelming, turning a mundane shopping trip into a stressful ordeal that seemed to take forever to resolve. I can’t help but wish we had taken extra precautions then, as this experience serves as a painful reminder of the vulnerability, we all face in our daily lives.

I finally get home and rush in the house, hurrying toward the closet where I had left yesterday’s pants, my heart racing with anxiety and anticipation. RELIEF! It is there, waiting for me like a long-lost friend. Apparently, in my flustered morning rush, I took out all the other items from the pocket and meticulously placed them in the replacement pocket, but inadvertently put the billfold back in yesterday’s pants, thinking I had checked everything thoroughly. As I hold the familiar fabric in my hands, a wave of embarrassment washes over me, reminding me of how forgetful I can be these days. It seems like little mishaps like this are becoming a routine, making me acutely aware of how I’m growing older, and I can’t help but chuckle at my own forgetfulness, wishing I could easily dismiss these moments as mere quirks rather than signs of aging.

Unlocking Your True Self: A Journey to Authenticity

After close to sixty years of my life I discovered that allowing me to just be myself instead of what others say I should be was the most impactful realization in my over eighty years of time on this earth.

Being yourself unlocks purpose by letting you live in alignment with what lights you up. It creates meaning by making your life a unique expression of who you are, not a copy of someone else’s. This authenticity allows you to explore your passions and reflect on your values, leading to greater self-awareness and fulfillment. It’s liberating but not always easy—it requires courage to defy expectations and patience to uncover who you truly are beneath the layers of societal pressure and external influences. The journey of self-discovery can be fraught with challenges, yet each step taken towards being your genuine self strengthens your resolve and resilience. The reward is a life that feels like yours, where purpose flows naturally from doing what’s true to you, enriching your experiences and creating deeper connections with others who resonate with your authentic spirit.

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What are the most important things needed to live a good life?

A Bond Built Over 40 Years

This is a no brainer. The love of my life is the person I spend most of my time with, sharing moments that weave the fabric of our story together. We met over forty years ago and immediately realized there was an attraction that could not be restrained, a magnetic pull that drew us closer despite the world around us. Through countless adventures, laughter, and even the challenges that life threw our way, our bond has only grown stronger. Every shared glance and gentle touch tells a story of resilience and deep connection, and I cherish each day that we spend together, grateful for the enduring love that has transformed our lives into a beautiful journey.

Married in 1995, we share an inseparable bond that has only grown stronger over the years. We sleep together, eat together, and go to church together, nurturing our spiritual connection and values. Attending meetings together helps us support each other professionally and personally, while our frequent visits to restaurants allow us to explore new cuisines and make delightful memories. We watch movies together, immersing ourselves in various genres that reflect our tastes and spark our discussions. Engaging in countless other activities, we often find ourselves enjoying the simplest pleasures of life, like taking long walks. It truly feels like we are connected at the hip, understanding each other’s thoughts and emotions without needing words. Our deep companionship suggests that we will probably experience the full journey of life together, cherishing each moment until the end.

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Who do you spend the most time with?

D-Day, June 6, 1944

Do you remember D-Day June 6, 1944? I do. I was only 2 years old when the event happened, so I must say I learned about D-Day through the stories and historical accounts shared by those around me in the years that followed. In my opinion, this day stands as one of the most significant turning points in history, marking not only a pivotal moment in World War II but also a crucial step towards the liberation of Europe from Nazi occupation. If this day hadn’t happened, it is plausible to think that the United States might have found itself in a dramatically altered world, perhaps speaking German and living under a very different historical narrative. The bravery demonstrated by the Allied forces on that fateful day continues to inspire generations, reminding us of the sacrifices made for freedom and the importance of standing against tyranny when it arises.

Because of D-Day, I spent almost two years in Germany in the US Army, where I dedicated myself to protecting Germany and NATO nations from the ever-looming Soviet threat during the tumultuous 1960s. This was a significant period in my life, filled with a myriad of experiences that shaped my understanding of global affairs and the importance of camaraderie among allied forces. The friendships I forged with my fellow soldiers, alongside the local German populace, created a rich tapestry of memories that I will never forget. I cherish the adventures we embarked upon, from routine drills to engaging in cultural exchanges, all of which deepened my appreciation for the resilience of those living in a divided Europe at that time. The echoes of history resonate within me, reminding me of the sacrifices made and the bonds formed in the face of challenge.

I will always remember D-Day as long as I am spending time on this earth, not only for the sheer scale of the events that unfolded but also for the profound impact it had on the course of history and the lives of countless individuals involved. The bravery exhibited by the soldiers who stormed the beaches that day exemplifies courage in the face of overwhelming odds, forever etching their sacrifice into the annals of history. Each time I reflect on that pivotal moment, I am reminded of the resilience of the human spirit and the importance of honoring the legacy left behind by those who fought valiantly for freedom and peace.

Portraits Come to Life: A Midnight Debate

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In the attic of a crumbling New Jersey house, Zach the painter worked by flickering light, creating portraits that glowed with uncanny realism. His subjects—nobles, merchants, and waifs—stared from their canvases with eyes that seemed to follow you, their expressions filled with stories untold. By day, they were silent, frozen in oil and pigment, mere reflections of a time long past. But at midnight, when the town clock tolled, the attic became a cacophony of complaints, their whispers weaving together like a haunting melody, echoing through the dusty eaves. Each brushstroke Zach applied appeared to bring their personalities to life, and it was as if the very walls of the attic held their breath in anticipation, yearning for the secrets and sorrows of these long-forgotten souls to be set free. The atmosphere thickened with an electric charge, urging him to listen closely, and awaken their hidden tales.

Zach discovered this one moonless night when he crept upstairs to retrieve a forgotten brush, one that had remained tucked away in the dusty corner of his art studio for far too long. As the clock struck twelve, the air shimmered as if charged with a mysterious energy, and the portraits stirred to life with an eerie grace. Lady Beatrice, adorned in her opulent gown complete with a powdered wig and pursed lips that held secrets of the past, was the first to speak. “My nose is entirely too sharp!” she snapped, glaring at her canvas neighbor, a ruddy-cheeked merchant named Cornelius who had long been the subject of her disdain. “And you, sir, your doublet is garish! Zach has no taste,” she continued, her voice dripping with aristocratic indignation, while a murmur of agreement rippled through the other portraits, each one keen to join in on the fantastical debate that had unexpectedly unfolded in the stillness of the night. Cornelius adjusted his collar defiantly, preparing to deliver a retort, but the room was abuzz with anticipation, ready to witness the clash of artistic tempers beneath the pale moonlight that dared not shine.

Cornelius bristled, his painted mustache twitching in indignation as he glared at the critic. “Garish? At least I don’t look like I’ve sucked a lemon! My complexion is vibrant and alive, unlike that washed-out version of yourself! And my hands—look at these sausage fingers! They’re proof of my hard work and passion for life’s culinary delights! He’s made me a caricature, a mere shadow of the flamboyant personality I embody! How dare he reduce my vibrant spirit to a cheap joke! There’s more to me than this absurd representation; I am a tapestry of experiences and flair waiting to be unveiled.”

From a corner canvas, a waif named Lila, with tangled hair and wide eyes that sparkled with a mix of hope and despair, piped up. “You’re both lucky! He painted me in rags, with dirt smudged on my face, a stark contrast to the delicate dreams I hold inside.” Her voice cracked, brimming with emotion as she folded her painted arms tightly across her chest. “I wanted to be a princess, adorned in flowing gowns that shimmer in the light, with a crown of glistening jewels resting upon my head. To dance in grand ballrooms and be the envy of all, not trapped in this frame, where all anyone sees is a beggar!”

The arguing grew louder, each portrait vying to list their flaws, as if attempting to outdo one another in this absurd contest of self-deprecation. A knight grumbled about his dented armor, claiming it made him look cowardly, and lamented how the battle he fought was not just against foes but against the relentless judgment of others. A duchess wailed that her emerald necklace was “dull as river mud,” asserting that no light could ever capture its once-vibrant gleam, and she declared that without it, her elegance was utterly lost. Even a stern magistrate, usually stoic and composed, muttered about his receding hairline being exaggerated, insisting that it made him look older than his years, a victim of time’s unkind grip. The attic vibrated with their bickering, a chorus of vanity and discontent, as dust motes danced in the air, bearing witness to an age-old struggle where pride and insecurity collided in this peculiar gallery of whispers.

Zach, hidden behind a precarious stack of canvases, listened in horror as their sharp words sliced through the air like a knife. He’d poured his soul into each meticulous stroke, believing that his work truly captured their essence—their joys, sorrows, and intricacies, all woven into the fabric of each portrait. Yet here they were, tearing it apart piece by piece, ridiculing the very creations he had invested his heart and spirit into. As he observed their disdainful gestures, a wave of desperation washed over him. He stepped forward, his heart pounding in his chest like a war drum, refusing to let them dismiss his passion any longer. “Enough!” he shouted, his voice echoing in the room, creating a tense silence. The portraits, suspended in their own world, seemed to freeze, their painted eyes wide with shock and disbelief. “I painted you as I saw you—flaws and all. That’s what makes you real!” he continued, his voice now steadied by the heat of conviction. “True beauty lies in authenticity, and it’s time you see that.”

Lady Beatrice scoffed. “Real? You’ve made us laughingstocks!”

“No,” Zach said, voice steady. “Your sharp nose shows your wit, Beatrice. Cornelius, your hands tell of hard-earned wealth. Lila, your rags hold your resilience. I painted your stories, not perfection.”

The portraits fell silent, their expressions softening as if draw to the depths of Lila’s heart, where emotions roiled beneath the surface. Lila’s eyes glistened with unshed tears, reflecting not just sadness but a fierce determination and vulnerability. “My resilience?” she whispered, her voice barely audible, yet heavy with meaning. Cornelius nodded slowly, the corners of his mouth hinting at a rare smile. “Perhaps the hands aren’t so bad, after all,” he mused, contemplating the weight of their shared struggles. Even Beatrice sniffed, adjusting her wig with a thoughtful frown. “Well, I suppose wit is something,” she finally conceded, her gaze shifting back to Lila, as if recognizing that laughter amidst adversity was indeed a gift worth treasuring.

As the clock chimed one, the portraits stilled, their arguments fading into the night like echoes dissipating in the cool air. Zach smiled, picking up his brush with a sense of purpose and anticipation. He’d paint them again tomorrow, flaws and all, knowing they’d bicker again at midnight, just as they always did, animatedly debating the very essence of art and identity. But maybe, just maybe, during those late-night discussions, they’d start to see themselves as he did—beautifully, gloriously imperfect—flawed yet vibrant reflections of humanity, filled with stories and experiences that shaped their essence. Each stroke of his brush, he hoped, would slowly unveil their hidden beauty, urging them to understand that imperfections were not mere faults but rather the unique traits that made them truly remarkable.

Comparing 1990 Technology to Today’s Technology

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Back in 1990, many conveniences didn’t exist or were not widely available. Here’s a rundown of key differences, based on technological and societal changes:

Cell phones existed but were bulky, expensive, and mostly for voice calls, making them a luxury that only a select few could afford. Smartphones were just a dream on the horizon of technological advancement. During that time, these devices were simply referred to as mobile phones, and they came without features that we consider standard today: there were no touchscreens, apps, or internet access to broaden their capabilities. Communication on the go was a challenge; people often resorted to using payphones or landlines, which were conveniently located in public spaces but required coins for use or were limited to the confines of home. The lack of portable connectivity meant that keeping in touch with family and friends was often dependent on finding a phone booth, leading to planning ahead and sometimes even waiting for hours until one could reach someone. In hindsight, this era marked a significant moment in communication history, setting the stage for the rapid evolution that would follow as technology progressed.

The World Wide Web was in its infancy. The first website launched in 1991. Most people didn’t have internet at home, and dial-up was just starting. No Google, social media, or streaming. Most computers used floppy disks, and modems were slow (e.g., 300 baud). Data was stored on floppy disks or hard drives. No Dropbox or Google Drive for easy file access. Downloading a single image could take minutes. Email existed but was mostly for academics or businesses. No Gmail or widespread personal email accounts.

Netflix, Spotify, or YouTube was not available during that era. Entertainment meant physical media like VHS tapes, CDs, or cassette tapes, which you would carefully store on shelves and handle with care, as they could easily become damaged. You rented movies from Blockbuster, where the excitement of browsing the aisles to find the perfect film was part of the experience, or watched scheduled TV broadcasts that brought families together at specific times each week, creating shared moments of joy and anticipation. The allure of movie nights, complete with popcorn and cozy blankets, highlighted the value of these tangible formats, making each viewing a memorable event.

Navigation relied on paper maps or written directions, which often required careful planning and a good understanding of geography. Car GPS systems were rare and expensive during this era, making them difficult for the average consumer to acquire, and even the few available options were not very user-friendly. As a result, drivers often found themselves grappling with large, unfolded maps while attempting to decipher complicated routes, leading to confusion and, at times, frustrating detours.

Amazon didn’t exist until it was founded in 1994, a time when the internet was still in its infancy and online shopping was merely a concept. Back then, shopping was mostly in-person at malls or stores, where customers would browse physical aisles and interact directly with sales staff. The closest alternative to in-store shopping was the use of mail-order catalogs, which allowed consumers to select products from glossy pages and place orders through the postal service, though this method often involved long waiting times for delivery. This shopping landscape was drastically different from today, where online platforms like Amazon have fundamentally transformed the retail experience, making it more convenient and accessible than ever before.

Platforms like Facebook, X, or Instagram didn’t exist; social interactions were vastly different back then. Connecting with friends and family meant making phone calls, writing letters, or organizing in-person meetups, often involving careful planning and anticipation. The experience of waiting for a response to a letter brought a sense of excitement and patience, creating a tangible connection that was cherished. Face-to-face gatherings allowed for rich conversations and the warmth that could only come from being physically present with others, fostering deeper relationships in a way that many today might overlook amid the convenience of modern technology. The simplicity of these interactions cultivated meaningful bonds and a distinct sense of community that shaped social lives in profound ways.

No Uber, Lyft, or DoorDash. You hailed taxis or cooked and ate out without app-based delivery options, relying instead on the traditional ways of getting around and enjoying meals. This meant planning ahead for your outings, flagging down a yellow cab on the bustling streets or waiting patiently for a taxi to arrive. When it came to food, the lack of delivery apps encouraged you to explore local restaurants more deeply, discovering hidden gems you might have otherwise overlooked. Cooking at home became an opportunity to try new recipes and share hearty meals with family and friends, creating lasting memories over the dining table. While the convenience of technology was absent, it fostered a sense of community and engagement that often felt more rewarding.

Cameras used film, and you waited days to develop photos, creating an exhilarating anticipation for the images captured. The process involved carefully loading film rolls and manually adjusting settings, ensuring every shot counted. No instant previews or sharing online meant you had to savor the memory of each moment before finally seeing the results, often leading to delightful surprises or unexpected disappointments. This slower pace fostered a deeper appreciation for photography as an art form, as each photograph represented a unique story, frozen in time to be cherished later.

No Siri, Alexa, or smart home tech—home automation was once purely the stuff of science fiction, not reality. In the past, the concept of a fully automated home seemed like a distant dream, captured only in movies and novels. People imagined a world where machines could perform everyday tasks seamlessly, making life easier and more efficient. However, as technology has advanced rapidly in recent years, this vision has begun to materialize, transforming our living spaces into interconnected ecosystems of convenience and innovation.

TVs were bulky CRTs, taking up significant space in living rooms, and cable or satellite services offered a limited selection of channels, often leaving viewers longing for more variety. There was no Roku or smart TVs available, which meant that options for streaming content were virtually nonexistent; families relied heavily on scheduled programming and occasional VHS rentals for their entertainment needs. As a result, evenings were typically spent gathered around the television, flipping through the few available channels and enjoying whatever shows happened to be on, fostering a sense of togetherness despite the limitations of the technology.

Books were physical, tangible items that filled our shelves and sparked our imagination, and tablets like the iPad weren’t around to provide a digital alternative. Laptops were heavy and costly, cumbersome to carry and often reserved for those who needed them for work or study, limiting access to technology for many. In a world where the convenience of e-readers and portable devices was merely a dream, the joy of flipping through pages and feeling the weight of a book in hand remained unparalleled, creating a unique connection to the written word that modern technology seldom replicates.

No WhatsApp, Zoom, or Skype. Long-distance communication was expensive via phone or slow via mail, often requiring days or even weeks for a simple message to reach its destination. Friends and family could find themselves separated by vast distances, unable to share in daily experiences or urgent news without incurring hefty charges. Letters had to be meticulously crafted and sent off, leaving an anxious wait for replies, while missed phone calls would linger in the mind, a reminder of the disconnect and longing for connection that technology today has all but erased.

Daily life in 1990 required more planning, physical media, and in-person interactions. Many tasks we now do instantly, like booking flights or checking weather, involved phone calls or manual effort. We are living in a period of technology boom. AI is just beginning. What will we see in the next five years?

However, one concern is that all these conveniences may be destroying social contact, which is essential for healthy human interaction. Since humans are inherently social beings, the need for social interaction is being limited, leading to the possibility of increased feelings of isolation and loneliness. This shift in communication dynamics raises important questions about how this trend will affect the mental health of future generations. The reliance on digital communication over face-to-face interactions might hinder the development of crucial social skills and emotional intelligence. As a result, future adults may struggle to navigate complex interpersonal relationships, potentially leading to heightened anxiety and depression rates. If we do not address these challenges, we may find ourselves facing a society where genuine connections are scarce, leading to further mental health problems that could have long-lasting implications for overall well-being.

The Olive Connection: Ancient Battles and Modern Reflections

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Tom was eating lunch with his wife Dee, the scent of green olives lingering in the air from the jar he’d cracked open. Their briny tang wasn’t just a snack—it was a tether, a pull to a life he swore he’d lived before, a vivid kaleidoscope of recollections intertwining with the present. In his mind’s eye, he wasn’t Tom the retired, but Lucius, a weathered centurion of the Roman Tenth Legion, marching under a merciless sun toward some forgotten battlefield that lay shrouded in the mists of time. Each olive he savored seemed to grow larger in significance, unlocking ancient memories buried deep within his soul, where glory and grit once thrived. The olives, he claimed, were his anchor to that past, their sharp bite conjuring memories of dusty roads, clinking armor, and the camaraderie of warriors who fought side by side. As he closed his eyes briefly, he could almost hear the echoes of battle cries, the rhythm of marching feet, and the distant clash of swords, blending seamlessly with the quiet sounds of his modern life—Dawn’s laughter, the jingle of utensils, and the humming of their old fan.

Lucius’ life, as Tom recounted it, wasn’t glorious. He was no hero of epic poems, just a grunt with a short sword and a heavy shield, trudging through Gaul in 50 BCE. The legion was a machine, and Lucius was a cog, his sandals slapping against endless stone paths that seemed to stretch on forever, each step a reminder of the unyielding discipline expected of them. They’d march for days, rations sparse—hard bread, dried meat, and always, always, a pouch of green olives that became a lifeline of flavor amidst the drudgery. The soldiers would pop them between orders, their salty sting a brief reprieve from the monotony of war, a momentary escape that brought forth memories of home and laughter. Tom could almost feel the weight of the leather satchel at his hip, hear the low banter of his comrades as they shared the olives under a twilight sky that slowly transformed from vibrant hues of orange and pink to a deep indigo blanket dotted with shimmering stars, each flicker a distant reminder of what lay beyond the chaos of their march. That camaraderie, mingled with the scent of earth and impending rain, was a solace, a brief reminder that even in the harshest of landscapes, bonds could be forged, laughter shared, and humanity preserved, if only for a fleeting moment.

Tom’s obsession began with a dream so vivid he woke gasping, the taste of olives on his tongue, an unexpected flavor that lingered, urging him to understand its significance. In it, he saw Lucius kneeling by a stream, his lorica segmentata glinting in the dappled sunlight as he rinsed blood from his hands, a stark juxtaposition of violence and serenity. A battle had ended—against whom, Tom couldn’t say, the details lost in the haze of memory. The enemy was a blur, their faces obscured by time and imagination, but the olives remained distinct and poignant. Lucius ate them methodically, spitting pits into the dirt, each one a small ritual to ground him before the next clash, a moment of calm before the storm of warfare returned once more. He savored the fruit with a mixture of reverence and urgency as if it held the key to his survival. The dream recurred, night after night, an intricate dance of history and yearning, and Tom, captivated by the allure of this vision, started buying jars of green olives, filling his kitchen with their glossy surfaces, chasing that fleeting connection to a life he couldn’t prove but felt deeply woven into the fabric of his existence. Each olive represented a thread that linked him to Lucius, an unbreakable bond that transcended time and space.

In his tale, Lucius wasn’t fearless. He was tired, his knees aching from years of relentless campaigns and battles fought far from his homeland. He’d joined the legion young, lured by promises of glory and the allure of heroism, only to find himself entrenched in mud and staring into the face of death. Yet the olives were a constant in his turbulent life. They stood resilient in the backdrop of blood-soaked fields and haunting memories; they were there when he survived a skirmish in the dense forests, arrows whistling past him like fatal whispers. They were there when he lost Gaius, his closest friend and brother-in-arms, to a spear in the suffocating darkness; that moment etched in his memory like a cruel tattoo. Tom would recount these moments to anyone who’d listen, his voice low and heavy with the weight of nostalgia, as if confessing the sins of a past he could never fully escape. “Lucius didn’t love war,” he’d say, shaking his head at the absurdity of it all, “but the olives? They were home, a reminder of simpler times, of laughter shared under a Mediterranean sun, far removed from the horrors of battle.”

One evening, Tom sat cross-legged on his floor, a map of ancient Rome spread before him. He traced the Appian Way with a finger, imagining Lucius’ legion marching south, their footsteps a rhythmic echo on the ancient stones. The air was heavy with the scent of history, and he could almost hear the clinking of armor and the spirited shouts of soldiers rallying together. He popped an olive in his mouth, the flavor sharp and grounding, a tangy reminder of the past. In his mind, Lucius paused on that road, sharing a handful with a young recruit, both laughing despite the specter of battle that loomed ahead like a distant storm cloud. Tom pictured the warmth of the late afternoon sun casting golden hues over the dusty path, the sounds of camaraderie mixing with the rustling leaves of nearby trees. He smiled, feeling the echo of that bond—those moments of levity in a world filled with tension. Whether Lucius was real or not, the olives tied Tom to something larger—a life of struggle, yes, but also of fleeting joys, each one preserved in brine and memory, connecting him to the timeless stories of those who had walked before him, embodying the spirit of resilience and hope amidst the chaos of war.

Believe it or not, but Tom feels olives are an important part of his current life and the myriads of life experiences he has encountered through various spiritual journeys in the past. These small fruits, with their rich flavors and deep cultural significance, have come to symbolize more than just a culinary delight for him; they represent a connection to tradition, a bridge between generations, and a reminder of the moments when he felt most at peace during his spiritual explorations. Each olive, whether enjoyed in a savory dish or savored on its own, carries a story that resonates with the lessons learned on his path to self-discovery and enlightenment, illuminating his present while honoring the past.

Understanding Declining Birth Rates: Causes and Consequences

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Time and time again you see and hear that the birth rate is declining. In my small world I see an alarming trend with the women who are in childbearing age. Many say they do not want to be a mother. They do not want to be tied down to a husband and family. I see many young women on local broadcasts and notice no wedding rings and search their bio and find most are thirty or older, no children, and not married. It appears that they have chosen a career over raising a family. Many births that have happened around me were not planned. I wonder, what happened to the internal desire to pro create. Researching has shown some reasons for this decision made by childbearing women.

  1. Economic Pressures: High living costs and low wages make raising children difficult. In developed countries, expensive housing and childcare often discourage people from having more children.
  2. Changing Social Norms: More people, especially women, now value education and careers over getting married and having children early. This leads to later marriages and childbirth, shortening the time available for having kids.
  3. Access to Contraception: Availability of birth control helps people choose smaller families or delay having children.
  4. Urbanization: City living, with little space and high expenses, discourages large families unlike rural areas where children used to help with work.
  5. Cultural Shifts: Individualism and lifestyle choices, such as travel and personal freedom, are often prioritized over traditional family structures. Some people decide not to have children (childfree movement).
  6. Environmental and Health Concerns: Worries about climate change, political issues, or health risks (like pandemics) make some people hesitant to have children due to an uncertain future.
  7. Declining Marriage Rates: Fewer people are getting married, often delaying for reasons like education or career goals. This trend correlates with fewer births, as marriage is typically seen as the context for starting families, and societal norms often encourage having children within marriage.
  8. Aging Populations: In countries like Japan and South Korea, low birth rates result in fewer young people, leading to fewer potential parents.

Data backs this up: The global fertility rate dropped from 2.5 children per woman in 2000 to about 2.3 in 2020, per UN estimates. In countries like South Korea, it’s as low as 0.78 (2022).

History doesn’t show a clear, universal pattern where declining birth rates alone lead to the demise of a civilization. However, they often contribute to vulnerabilities when combined with other factors. Here’s a quick look:

  • Examples of decline with low birth rates: The Roman Empire faced population stagnation from the 1st to 4th centuries CE due to economic issues, political instability, and invasions. Low birth rates among the elite and in cities decreased military and labor forces. Similarly, after the Black Death in the 14th century, late medieval Europe experienced population decline, which worsened economic and social issues, though recovery occurred later.
  • Counterexamples: Countries like Japan and parts of modern Europe have low birth rates (e.g., Japan’s fertility rate is about 1.3 children per woman). They sustain their population through immigration and technology. Ancient Athens also experienced declining birth rates in the 4th century BCE, but its decline was mainly due to military defeats.
  • Key factors: Declining birth rates can harm economies and military strength, but civilizations often collapse due to various problems like corruption, outside threats, or lack of resources, not just low birth rates. For instance, the Mayan collapse in the 8th-9th centuries CE was caused by environmental stress and warfare, not only by a decrease in population.
  • Data point: Studies indicate that global fertility rates are decreasing (2.4 in 2020, projected to be 2.2 by 2050). Societies with strong institutions and adaptability, like those in Scandinavia, perform better than those with rigid systems.

In conclusion, low birth rates can weaken a civilization’s resilience, but they’re not a death sentence on their own—adaptability and external pressures matter more. However, it is important to keep an eye on this trend before this trend cannot be corrected.

Simple Daily Ritual That Brings Joy and Hope

One simple thing that has happened every morning so far is waking up to a new day, filled with endless possibilities and the promise of fresh beginnings. Each new dawn invites me to embrace the day ahead, whether it brings challenges to overcome, goals to achieve, or moments of joy to cherish. I am grateful for the chance to experience another day full of potential and hope.

Daily writing prompt
Describe one simple thing you do that brings joy to your life.