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Opposites Attract: A Tale of Love and Resilience

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Jane was a whirlwind of chaos, her laugh loud enough to drown out thunder, her curly hair always escaping its braid like wild vines reaching for freedom. She thrived on spontaneity, her life a chaotic collage of half-finished art projects and impulsive road trips that often took her to places she had never intended to visit. Her friends often described her as a comet streaking through the sky—brilliant and unpredictable. Steve, on the other hand, was a fortress of order, embodying the calm in the eye of the storm. His days were ruled by meticulously crafted schedules, his apartment a study in minimalism, where every book was alphabetized, and each item had a designated place. He found solace in routine and stability, a stark contrast to Jane’s vibrant turbulence. They lived in the same apartment building, their lives parallel, but had never exchanged more than polite nods—until the storm hit, changing everything and swirling their worlds into an unexpected collision.

The hurricane warning came late, catching the coastal town off guard. Power lines fell, streets flooded, and the building’s residents huddled in the damp basement shelter, their faces illuminated by the flickering light of a single flashlight. Jane arrived with a backpack stuffed with snacks, a ukulele, and a flashlight she’d painted with glow-in-the-dark stars, her vibrant personality a welcome contrast to the distress around them. She offered peanut butter sandwiches and granola bars while strumming a few chords, hoping to lift spirits with her cheerful melodies. Steve carried a first-aid kit, a notebook for logging supplies, and a scowl at the disorder around him, his mind racing with thoughts of what they might need in case things took a turn for the worse. When the lights flickered out, Jane strummed her ukulele, coaxing nervous laughter from the group as they clung to the music like a lifeline. Steve muttered about “unnecessary noise,” yet his eyes kept drifting to her, captivated by her ability to bring a sense of calm amidst the chaos, secretly wishing he could join in and forget the storm outside.

The crisis deepened when the basement door jammed, trapping them inside. Panic rippled through the group as the dim light flickered, casting shadows that danced ominously on the concrete walls. Steve took charge, organizing a plan to pry the door open, his calm voice cutting through the chaos like a lifeline. He shouted instructions, his authority rallying everyone around him as they grabbed makeshift tools—a crowbar, a sturdy chair, anything they could find. Jane, restless and ever observant, noticed a crack in the wall letting in water, a small trickle that quickly began to grow. While Steve barked orders, she grabbed a bucket and started bailing, her energy infectious, igniting a fire of determination among the others. “You’re gonna give yourself a heart attack, Captain Clipboard,” she teased, tossing him a rag to dab his brow, laughter hanging in the air even amidst the tension. He caught it, surprised by the warmth in her grin, which brought unexpected comfort. It was this small moment of levity that reminded them all to keep fighting, to hold onto hope, as the sound of water felling echoed around them, each wave a chilling reminder of their urgent plight.

They worked side by side, Steve’s precision balancing Jane’s improvisation. He calculated how long their supplies would last, meticulously jotting down figures in a weathered notebook; she rallied the group with vibrant stories and enchanting songs that ignited their spirits. Hours passed, and in a quiet moment, they sat against the wall, sharing a granola bar from Jane’s stash, savoring its sweetness amidst the uncertainty. “You’re not as boring as you look,” she said with a playful nudge that broke the tension. He smirked, raising an eyebrow. “And you’re not as reckless as you seem,” he replied, which only made her chuckle more. Their laughter felt like a small rebellion against the storm, a defiance woven into the fabric of their camaraderie and hope, echoing through the desolate surroundings as they forged an unbreakable bond in the midst of adversity.

When the door finally gave way, revealing dawn’s light spilling into the dimly lit room, the group cheered with a renewed energy, their excitement palpable as the fresh air brushed against their skin. Steve and Jane lingered, suddenly shy amid the jubilant atmosphere, their faces flushed with both anticipation and uncertainty. “Coffee, maybe?” she asked, her bravado faltering as she fidgeted with the hem of her sweater, revealing a hint of her nerves. He nodded, a smile breaking across his face as he pulled out a pen, scribbling his number in her sketchbook with a flourish. “Only if you promise not to bring that ukulele,” he teased lightly, remembering how she had strummed it earlier, its jovial notes echoing off the walls, filling the space with an almost magical essence that seemed to linger in the air between them.

Days later, they sat in a cozy café, Jane doodling whimsically on a napkin while Steve meticulously folded his into a perfect square, each crease sharp and precise. Their differences sparked animated debates—her love for chaos and spontaneity clashed remarkably with his inherent need for order and control—but despite these contrasts, the pull between them only grew stronger. She playfully dragged him to a vibrant street fair, where the air was filled with the laughter of children and the enticing aroma of various foods; he patiently taught her to organize her paints, showing her how to create color palettes that reflected both their personalities. Each little compromise felt not just like a victory, but a new layer added to their deepening connection, as they learned to appreciate each other’s worlds, with Jane discovering the beauty in structure, while Steve slowly embraced a bit of delightful chaos.

The storm had faded, but it left something behind: a spark neither could ignore, a tangible reminder of the tempest that had once been. Jane’s mess, the whirlwind of emotions and clutter that surrounded her, softened Steve’s usually sharp edges, turning him into a gentle force of nature, while his steadiness, like a sturdy oak, grounded her, making her feel secure in the midst of chaos. They were opposites, yes, contrasting in temperament and strategy, but in the crisis they’d experienced together, they’d found an unexpected rhythm—a melody of resilience that promised to outlast the rain. Each drop that fell felt like a heartbeat in their newfound connection, echoing the unspoken promise that they would navigate whatever storms lay ahead, together, in perfect harmony.

The moral of this tale is that you never know where a spark of romance and the deep-seated need for each other may arise; it can come unexpectedly in the most ordinary of situations, surprising you when you least expect it. This serendipitous encounter can set the stage for something beautiful to blossom, ultimately evolving into a long-lasting loving relationship that adds richness and meaning to your life. Each moment shared, from laughter and joy to trials and tribulations, helps to weave a tapestry of shared experiences, strengthening the bond between individuals as they navigate the journey of love together.

My Legacy 2nd Edition

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On May 21, 2024, I posted this blog. I have been interested in AI (artificial intelligence) lately and I thought I would try something. The first section is the original post and the second is the same post, but I used AI to enhance the post.


ORIGINAL

I never thought much about a legacy until after my near-death experience in February of 2023. My Bloodclot (Podcast). After the event I started to reconcile my life and thought, “why was I given a second chance?” I must have some unfinished business to do before my journey is over. I am just a mere mortal. I do not jump over tall buildings or stop speeding bullets. All I have is over eighty years of life on this earth. Searching for the purpose of a second chance I have decided to write about events and experiences in my life. Last August I remembered I had a site on WordPress and became active in the site. Since then, I have posted many events. Is this the purpose for the second chance? Who knows for sure.

The legacy I want to leave behind is, He was a good man. He tried to do the right thing. He was fair and didn’t take advantage of his fellow man. His faith of God and life after death was strong.

I hope my two sons remember me as a good father who did what he thought was right and necessary so they can live a good and productive life.

I hope my spouses do not regret that the years they spent with me was good years together and do not regret the years together.

I hope my stepchildren do not regret that I came into their lives and can call me stepdad with pride.

I hope all the other people I have come in contact with can say, “he was a good man!”


This is the same posting but was enhanced with AI.

I never thought much about a legacy until after my near-death experience in February of 2023. My Bloodclot (Podcast). After the event, I started to reconcile my life and thought, “why was I given a second chance?” This profound question resonated within me, leading me to reflect deeper on the moments that shaped my existence. I must have some unfinished business to do before my journey is over, some stories yet to tell. I am just a mere mortal, trying to navigate the complexities of life. I do not jump over tall buildings or stop speeding bullets; rather, I face each day with the wisdom that only comes from lived experience. All I have is over eighty years of life on this earth, each year contributing to my understanding of joy, sorrow, triumph, and loss. Searching for the purpose of a second chance, I have decided to write about events and experiences in my life, hoping that sharing my journey might resonate with others facing their own trials and tribulations. Last August, I remembered I had a site on WordPress and became active in the site, driven by a newfound sense of urgency to connect and share. Since then, I have posted many events that reflect my growth and transformation. Is this the purpose for the second chance? Who knows for sure, but I am committed to exploring this path, whatever it may reveal about my legacy and the impact I can have on others.

The legacy I want to leave behind is, He was a good man. He tried to do the right thing in all situations, often putting others’ needs before his own. He was fair and didn’t take advantage of his fellow man; rather, he stood up for justice and compassion in the community. His unwavering faith in God and life after death was strong, providing him with the strength to face life’s challenges with grace. He inspired those around him to reflect on their own values and encouraged them to pursue a path filled with kindness and integrity, leaving a mark that would remind everyone of the importance of living a life rooted in love and morality.

I hope my two sons remember me as a good father who did what he thought was right and necessary, always striving to be a positive influence in their lives. I want them to recall the moments we spent together, the lessons I tried to impart, and the values I hoped to instill in them so they can live a good and productive life filled with integrity, kindness, and perseverance. It’s my wish that they carry forward the teachings of hard work and compassion, using these principles as their foundation in navigating the complexities of the world as they grow older and make their own decisions.

I hope my spouses do not regret that the years they spent with me were good years together, full of fond memories and shared experiences, nurturing our bond as a family and building a solid foundation for our future. I wish for them to reflect on the moments of joy, laughter, and even the challenges we faced, knowing that all of it contributed to a rich tapestry of life we created together, and that they look back at our time together with a sense of fulfillment and appreciation, rather than any sense of regret.

I hope my stepchildren do not regret that I came into their lives and can call me stepdad with pride, knowing that I am committed to being a positive and supportive presence in their journey. My aim is to build a strong bond with each of them, filled with love, trust, and respect. I want them to feel comfortable sharing their thoughts and dreams with me, fostering an environment where they can grow and thrive. As we create lasting memories together, I aspire to be someone they can rely on, offering guidance and understanding as they navigate the complexities of life.

I hope all the other people I have come in contact with can say, “he was a good man!” Throughout my life, I have strived to embody kindness and integrity in everything I do, making a concerted effort to lend a helping hand or offer a listening ear when needed. It’s my desire that those who crossed paths with me will remember not just the surface-level interactions, but the genuine compassion and understanding I aimed to share with them. In reflecting on my journey, I hope they can recall moments of laughter, heartfelt conversations, and the small gestures that made a difference, ultimately leading to the sentiment that I was indeed a good man.


What do you think? I noticed that the podcasts have more than doubled in length. That is understandable because it has been difficult for me to enumerate on a topic.

Daily writing prompt
What is the legacy you want to leave behind?

My Favorite people

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First, My wife Dee. We have been together since the early eighties and decided to marry in 1995. We were both going through divorces, feeling the weight of our pasts, yet somehow, we managed to pick each other up and help each other understand that there is indeed life after an unplanned life-changing event. Through the ups and downs, we became each other’s support system, navigating the complexities of our emotions, and finding solace in our shared experiences. We have been one for over forty years now, creating a tapestry of memories woven from countless trips across the nation and two unforgettable journeys to Italy during those four decades. Each adventure brought us closer, as we explored new places together, indulging in the local cuisine and appreciating the beauty of different cultures. Now, as we embrace our senior years, we continue to enjoy being together, finding joy in the simple moments, and enduring the various events that life presents at this stage. The best part of all these years is that we have allowed each of us to be ourselves, fostering an environment of authenticity. We have built a relationship where there are no false fronts, no role-playing—just the freedom to be myself and her as herself. This genuine connection has made our lives profoundly fulfilling. Life has been great since Dee, and I cherish every moment we share, knowing that our love is a testament to resilience and companionship.

Second, is my two sons, Jeff and Adam, and my four stepchildren, Rick, Rob, Rita, and Renee. They have all been blessings in our lives, filling our days with joy and laughter. Each of them has forged their own unique paths and built wonderful families of their own, and I truly enjoy when we gather together to reminisce about past memories and celebrate upcoming milestones. These family reunions are particularly special, as they create a warm atmosphere where stories are shared, and laughter echoes. With them comes their families—loving partners, enthusiastic children, adorable grandchildren, and even great-grandchildren who bring an extra layer of joy to our gatherings. They are bonuses that we have been blessed with, enriching our lives in ways that words cannot fully capture, and reminding us of the importance of family bonds that transcend generations.
Every moment spent together is a treasured gift, creating a tapestry of love and connection that we are fortunate to share.

Third, are friends that have crossed our paths and enriched our lives in meaningful ways. I enjoy Dolores and her daughter Darlene, who bring a warmth and joy to every gathering. They are cherished church friends whom we met on one of our many enriching trips. Tom, Dolores’s husband, has passed on, leaving behind fond memories that we often share in his honor. After church services, they host delightful coffee and snacks in the fellowship hall, where I eagerly participate, as it gives us the chance to connect and share events in our lives that shape our experiences. There’s always a new story to tell or a laugh to be shared, deepening our bond not just as friends but as a community. Can’t forget Chuck, who is another good friend from a different church setting. A group of 10 to 12 men get together once a month for breakfast, a tradition that I look forward to immensely. I always attempt to sit next to Chuck, as his insights and humor make our conversations engaging; we take the time to reflect on what is happening in our lives, whether it’s personal milestones or challenges we face. Finally, there is Gary, an old-time friend with whom I enjoy the occasional meet-up to discuss politics and the current events that shape our world. Our discussions often dive deep into our differing perspectives yet are underpinned by mutual respect and understanding. It is strange how you can click with some individuals and genuinely enjoy being around them, as if they were meant to be part of your journey, adding richness and depth to the fabric of our lives.

Unfortunately, Stan, Jack, Len, and others have passed on, leaving a profound void in my life. Their laughter, wisdom, and friendship will always be cherished and remembered fondly. I will always remember them, not just for the moments we shared but for the invaluable lessons they imparted, shaping who we are today. Their spirits continue to inspire me, reminding me to celebrate life and the connections we form with those we hold dear.

Daily writing prompt
Who are your favorite people to be around?

Just A Mere Mortal

As the days and years go by, I have come to the conclusion that I am just a mere mortal. Am I going to do anything or write anything that leaves a lasting impression on this world? I kind of doubt it.

I have had a good life experience. I was raised by loving parents and did not have to suffer any hardships and tragedies in my growing up years. I was able to work and provide for the two sons I fathered. I served my country with time in the army. Marriage and family life have entered my life twice. I am still experiencing my second marital journey. Over eighteen years of retirement life and I sense more years of this journey on this earth.

Over a year ago I survived a medical near-death experience. During the recuperation period I thought that there must have been a reason for surviving. It has been over a year now and I am still searching for the reason. I am beginning to think the only reason I survived was to experience and learn from that near death encounter.

With that said, I am just a mere mortal and will do what mere mortals do and that is to attempt to live a good life.

Daily writing prompt
If humans had taglines, what would yours be?

I Have Been So Blessed

As I reflect on my life, I have concluded that I have been so blessed. Compared to millions of others my life has been easy.

I was born into a loving family. My parents loved me and protected, fed, and taught me in my young years. I fell on a broken bottle and seriously cut my arm from the wrist to the elbow. It was a blessing that the main artery was not severed. If it was I more than likely would have bled out at that young age.

I elected to not to continue on to college after high school when many said without a college degree you will not experience the American dream. I have been blessed with a comfortable financially stable life. I do not have millions, but I have more than enough to sustain the American dream.

I was drafted into the army during the Vietnam era. I was blessed to spend my enlistment in Germany whereas the seven I was drafted with went to Vietnam. I did not have to suffer the pain and violence of armed conflict.

I became married and the blessing of two great children was generated from this relationship. Unfortunately, one must experience hurt and pain in parts of their lives. This relationship came to an end after eleven years. However, we are now able to talk to each other. The hurt and anger has been shelved and that is another blessing.

I was blessed with another loving relationship, and this brought me four stepchildren which I truly love their mother and her children. We are still together and enjoying and spending our final days together. Trust and allowing each other to be themselves is a gift and a blessing to experience.

A little over a year ago I experienced a life-threatening medical issue. There was a point where thought I was taking my last breath. I thought, “Here I am Lord!” I believe, for a short period of time I had a preview of time after death. I experienced such peace during that time, it was unexplainable. This was a time I will never forget. I am ready to experience this peace again.

In conclusion, as you can see that I have experienced more blessings than hurt and pain. I thank the Lord many times for the blessings I have received. I am just a mere mortal, but I firmly believe that time after death is going to surprise everyone.

My Legacy

I never thought much about a legacy until after my near-death experience in February of 2023. My Bloodclot (Podcast). After the event I started to reconcile my life and thought, “why was I given a second chance?” I must have some unfinished business to do before my journey is over. I am just a mere mortal. I do not jump over tall buildings or stop speeding bullets. All I have is over eighty years of life on this earth. Searching for the purpose of a second chance I have decided to write about events and experiences in my life. Last August I remembered I had a site on WordPress and became active in the site. Since then, I have posted many events. Is this the purpose for the second chance? Who knows for sure.

The legacy I want to leave behind is, He was a good man. He tried to do the right thing. He was fair and didn’t take advantage of his fellow man. His faith of God and life after death was strong.

I hope my two sons remember me as a good father who did what he thought was right and necessary so they can live a good and productive life.

I hope my spouses do not regret that the years they spent with me was good years together and do not regret the years together.

I hope my stepchildren do not regret that I came into their lives and can call me stepdad with pride.

I hope all the other people I have come in contact with can say, “he was a good man!”

Daily writing prompt
What is the legacy you want to leave behind?

Mother’s Day May 12,2024

Today is Mother’s Day and a couple of days ago I realized that it has been over forty years since mom passed away. I was in her body for nine months. She nourished me, kept me warm and protected me while I was just growing inside her. I am sure I created her a lot of pain since she commented to me that I was a large baby.

From birth until my twenties, she fed me, protected me, taught me many things about living and life. As I look back at my life, I was a handful during my young years. One time while standing in the grocery store behind this lady. The lady turned around and said to me, “you little snot!”. My mother asked her what the problem was, and the lady replied. “Your son just pinched me on the butt!” I then received the lesson that you don’t pinch ladies’ butts.

The teenage years were very difficult for me which today I still do not know why. I was angry at the world and didn’t like myself. I took everything for granted and gave my mother many trying times in those years. I got involved with the wrong crowd of teenagers and was very fortunate I didn’t get arrested or paid long term for any deeds we did. My mother continued to love me and never left my side.

When I was drafted into the army, she faithfully wrote me a letter every week If it wasn’t for the letters from mom, I would have received very few letters from home during military times. I had very few friends at that time. I am the type of person that does not attempt to continue a friendship.  

Coming home from the military my parents welcomed me back into their home and allowed me to live there until marriage came into my life. I did have to pay room and board while I lived there though. It was good for me because I needed to realize in this world nothing is free. Mom loved me just a much as she did when I was young.

Through marriage, a divorce, living alone mom was always beside me. Her love never faulted. I now regret that I took this love for granted and I wish I would have done more and showed more appreciation for this everlasting love. I am sure mom is looking down at me now and saying, “Tom, I still love you”.

Mom, I love you. I am sorry it took me so long to realize how much I love you.  

I Avoid the Kitchen

This was Friday’s prompt, and I had a senior moment and failed to publish it. So, here it is!

As you can see from the title the kitchen is not one of my favorite places. I try not to cook. I never learned how to cook. I was raised with a mother and grandmother who did all the cooking. My mother was a homemaker and did not work outside of the home. My grandmother was with us until she passed on when I was fifteen. I don’t remember if my mother offered to show me how to cook or I did not have any interest. Also, grandma needed something to do, and she helped mom cook. The era I grew up the mother and the father had specific duties. The father worked and brought home the bacon. The mother was the home keeper and raised the children. The most I remember about my dad was him coming from work and sitting in the living room reading the daily newspaper and waiting until dinner was ready. After supper he would continue reading the paper or magazines until bedtime.

I lived at home until I was drafted into the army. No cooking lessons there. Unless you want to say peeling potatoes and cleaning pots and pans is a cooking lesson. Meals and food were provided by the army. After my tour was over, I returned home.

I lived with my parents until I married. I married a woman that was some years younger than me. she just graduated from beautician school and didn’t have a job. She needed something to do so she started doing the cooking and worked for a temp service. Pregnancy came soon after marriage vows. This marriage lasted about ten years.

You are what you are exposed to. I grew up in the atmosphere where the husband works, and the wife is the homemaker and child raiser with very little crossing of these duties. I think this was part of the problem in the marriage. During that time, I didn’t see it, but, as I age, I am seeing things differently.

Here I am divorced, living in an apartment by myself with very little cooking skills to my name. Me and millions of others are the reason fast food, frozen dinners, microwaves are so popular. Who wants to come home from work dead tired and cook something so you can eat alone. Those years were the hardest years in my life.

I then met a great woman who was willing to take on the challenge of me. We have been together for over forty years and was married in 1995. My cooking skills are still very limited, but I am willing to cross over the line and help. I also clean up after a meal and put the dishes in the dishwasher and other duties around the kitchen.

In conclusion, the kitchen is not my favorite room. There are times when I wish I would have learned more about the kitchen and cooking.

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Daily writing prompt
What’s your favorite thing to cook?