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My Favorite people

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First, My wife Dee. We have been together since the early eighties and decided to marry in 1995. We were both going through divorces, feeling the weight of our pasts, yet somehow, we managed to pick each other up and help each other understand that there is indeed life after an unplanned life-changing event. Through the ups and downs, we became each other’s support system, navigating the complexities of our emotions, and finding solace in our shared experiences. We have been one for over forty years now, creating a tapestry of memories woven from countless trips across the nation and two unforgettable journeys to Italy during those four decades. Each adventure brought us closer, as we explored new places together, indulging in the local cuisine and appreciating the beauty of different cultures. Now, as we embrace our senior years, we continue to enjoy being together, finding joy in the simple moments, and enduring the various events that life presents at this stage. The best part of all these years is that we have allowed each of us to be ourselves, fostering an environment of authenticity. We have built a relationship where there are no false fronts, no role-playing—just the freedom to be myself and her as herself. This genuine connection has made our lives profoundly fulfilling. Life has been great since Dee, and I cherish every moment we share, knowing that our love is a testament to resilience and companionship.

Second, is my two sons, Jeff and Adam, and my four stepchildren, Rick, Rob, Rita, and Renee. They have all been blessings in our lives, filling our days with joy and laughter. Each of them has forged their own unique paths and built wonderful families of their own, and I truly enjoy when we gather together to reminisce about past memories and celebrate upcoming milestones. These family reunions are particularly special, as they create a warm atmosphere where stories are shared, and laughter echoes. With them comes their families—loving partners, enthusiastic children, adorable grandchildren, and even great-grandchildren who bring an extra layer of joy to our gatherings. They are bonuses that we have been blessed with, enriching our lives in ways that words cannot fully capture, and reminding us of the importance of family bonds that transcend generations.
Every moment spent together is a treasured gift, creating a tapestry of love and connection that we are fortunate to share.

Third, are friends that have crossed our paths and enriched our lives in meaningful ways. I enjoy Dolores and her daughter Darlene, who bring a warmth and joy to every gathering. They are cherished church friends whom we met on one of our many enriching trips. Tom, Dolores’s husband, has passed on, leaving behind fond memories that we often share in his honor. After church services, they host delightful coffee and snacks in the fellowship hall, where I eagerly participate, as it gives us the chance to connect and share events in our lives that shape our experiences. There’s always a new story to tell or a laugh to be shared, deepening our bond not just as friends but as a community. Can’t forget Chuck, who is another good friend from a different church setting. A group of 10 to 12 men get together once a month for breakfast, a tradition that I look forward to immensely. I always attempt to sit next to Chuck, as his insights and humor make our conversations engaging; we take the time to reflect on what is happening in our lives, whether it’s personal milestones or challenges we face. Finally, there is Gary, an old-time friend with whom I enjoy the occasional meet-up to discuss politics and the current events that shape our world. Our discussions often dive deep into our differing perspectives yet are underpinned by mutual respect and understanding. It is strange how you can click with some individuals and genuinely enjoy being around them, as if they were meant to be part of your journey, adding richness and depth to the fabric of our lives.

Unfortunately, Stan, Jack, Len, and others have passed on, leaving a profound void in my life. Their laughter, wisdom, and friendship will always be cherished and remembered fondly. I will always remember them, not just for the moments we shared but for the invaluable lessons they imparted, shaping who we are today. Their spirits continue to inspire me, reminding me to celebrate life and the connections we form with those we hold dear.

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Not Much to Remember Today

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Title: The Quiet Day: When Nothing Very Important Happened on February 11th

February 11th has had its share of headline-making moments throughout history, but let’s take a moment to appreciate the quieter side of this date. Today, we’re not here to delve into the monumental events or the groundbreaking discoveries; instead, we’re celebrating the ordinary, the mundane, and the blissfully uneventful.

A Day Like Any Other

Imagine waking up on February 11th to find the world much as you left it the day before. No major political upheavals, no scientific breakthroughs announced, just the regular hum of daily life. The sun rises, people go to work, birds chirp, and life ticks along at its usual pace. It’s comforting in its predictability, isn’t it?

The Beauty in the Mundane

There’s something inherently beautiful about days when nothing very important happens. It’s a reminder that not every day needs to be marked by history. Sometimes, the most significant event of the day might be the first bloom of spring, a quiet walk in the park, or the simple joy of a shared meal with family or friends. These are the moments that make up the fabric of our lives, woven together with threads of routine and simplicity.

Local News and Daily Life

On this day, local news might consist of a cat stuck in a tree being rescued by firefighters, a community garden project getting new volunteers, or a high school sports team winning a local match. These snippets of life are the heartbeat of our communities, reminding us of the connections we share and the small stories that matter deeply to those involved.

The Uncelebrated Heroes

February 11th might also be a day where unsung heroes shine. Perhaps a teacher went the extra mile to help a struggling student, or a neighbor quietly shoveled the snow off another’s driveway. These acts of kindness don’t make headlines, but they are the quiet forces that keep the world turning with compassion and empathy.

A Reflection on Nothingness

In a world often obsessed with achievement and spectacle, there’s a lesson in embracing the days where nothing very important happens. It teaches us to find joy in the present moment, to appreciate the peace that comes with uneventfulness, and to recognize that every day doesn’t need to be extraordinary to be meaningful.

Conclusion

So, here’s to February 11th, a day in the annals of time where we can take a breath, look around, and appreciate that sometimes, the absence of monumental events is an event in itself. It’s a day to celebrate the ordinary, to enjoy the tranquility of routine, and to find beauty in the quiet moments that make life truly rich. Here’s to the days when nothing very important happens – they are, in their own way, as noteworthy as any other.

Clutter Reduction


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To reduce clutter in your life, consider these areas:

  1. Physical Space:
    • Home: Start with one room at a time, focusing on decluttering surfaces, closets, and storage areas. Donate, sell, or recycle items you no longer need or use.
    • Workplace: Organize your desk, digital files, and office supplies. Implement a system for incoming and outgoing documents.
  2. Digital Clutter:
    • Email: Unsubscribe from newsletters you don’t read, use folders to categorize important emails, and delete or archive old messages.
    • Digital Files: Organize your computer desktop, documents, and downloads. Regularly back up important files and delete duplicates or outdated information.
    • Apps and Social Media: Uninstall apps you rarely use and unfollow or mute accounts on social media that don’t add value to your life.
  3. Mental Clutter:
    • Tasks and Commitments: Evaluate your commitments. Say no to obligations that don’t serve you or your goals. Use a planner or app to manage tasks efficiently.
    • Information Overload: Limit time on news or social media if it feels overwhelming. Choose quality information sources over quantity.
  4. Time Management:
    • Routine: Develop routines for daily activities to reduce decision-making fatigue.
    • Prioritization: Focus on what’s important by using methods like the Eisenhower Box to categorize tasks by urgency and importance.
  5. Emotional Clutter:
    • Relationships: Reflect on relationships that drain your energy. It might be helpful to set boundaries or spend less time with those who add stress.
    • Past Issues: Sometimes, mental clutter comes from unresolved issues. Consider journaling or speaking with a therapist to process these feelings.

Your interests in writing, decluttering your workspace where you write could significantly boost your productivity and creativity. Organizing your digital writing tools and perhaps setting up a minimalist writing environment might help in focusing better on your craft.

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My Eyes are Killing Me.

It is that time of the year again. Spring allergies have attacked me full force. A couple of days ago my nose started to run and I looked around and sure enough, the trees were starting to leaf up and the fruit trees were all filled with blossoms. I thought, oh no, it is the time of year for itchy, scratchy, red eyes.

Before I turned fifty, I didn’t have allergies, but as I got older, they started to attack me and the older I age the worse they get. I read that this is a characteristic of the aging process in some people. I guess I am stuck with the problem. Fortunately, it only lasts a couple of weeks and once the trees are finished doing their thing, I am ok.

Over the counter medication such as Alavert and Claritin work for the runny nose discomfort and the runny nose can be tolerated. The itchy, burning, running eyes are another issue. I don’t know how many eyes drops and ointments I have tried and to no relief. The best that has worked for me at the moment is Thera Tears and Pataday. Unfortunately, my itchy eyes bother me for about two weeks. I have learned to not rub my eyes no matter what. That only makes it worse. It sure has been difficult to refrain from an automatic response.

I have talked to eye doctors, and they just told me allergies are caused by your immune system and it thinks the pollen is a threat to your eyes and attempts to protect your body from infection. Apparently, they do not have any suggestions for the discomfort. one consolation is that it only lasts a couple of weeks, and it will all be over.

Time to go back being uncomfortable and grouchy.

Retirement Years

 

The big day came in September of 2006. That big day was retirement. I had good thought and bad thoughts. For example, the absence of the stress of a responsible job will be good. I won’t have to get up or be at work at a specified time. I can plan and do things that I never took time to do when I was working. I could go on and on about the benefits of reaching and being able to enjoy retirement. 

On the other hand, I had reservations about retirement. Will my financial planning be adequate? Will I fall into the rut of being bored and not have enough interest in my idle times? I also thought about that I am now on the downside of my life and the inevitable will happen sooner than later. Also, will my health remain to be good? 

In reality, I am enjoying retirement very well. over seventeen years since I retired and people ask me, “what do you do?’ I respond, “I am recuperating from the last forty-five years. Sure, I still have stress in my life and things don’t go as expected. I have had two medical issues in retirement. The first happened in 2018. I had an eleven-millimeter kidney stone in my right kidney and had to be removed by going up from the basement. I peed chocolate milk for twelve hours after the procedure. The next issue was a large pulmonary saddle embolism (blood clot) between my lungs. I thought I was going to breath my last breath during the removal. But I survived and it has been over a year now since that event with no long-term effects. (LINK TO MY BLOOD CLOT)

However, every day is Saturday and what I don’t get done today I can do tomorrow. My outlook remains to be good, and I pray that I retain this outlook as retirement and the later years of my life evolve.