memories, events

The Lives We Didn’t Experience

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When Tom drifts into sleep one ordinary night, he’s pulled into a vivid dream where Sandra—his grounded, quietly magnetic gradeschool companion he hasnt thought of in forty yearsappears exactly as she was in high school. She shows him three lives they might have lived together, each one tender, unsettling, and impossibly real. Shaken awake, Tom searches for her only to discover she died three days earlier. What follows is a decadeslong reflection on connection, timing, and the mysteries that refuse to fade. Three Days After Sandra is a haunting, heartfelt novella about the questions we never knew we asked, the lives we never lived, and the quiet ways the past sometimes reaches forward—not to change our path, but to remind us that it mattered.

CHAPTER ONE — THE NIGHT BEFORE

Tom didn’t go to bed expecting anything unusual. It was just another quiet night in early winter, the kind where the house felt too still and the clock seemed to tick louder than usual. He brushed his teeth, turned off the hallway light, and let the darkness settle around him like a blanket he wasn’t sure he wanted.

He lay there for a while, staring at the faint glow of the streetlamp leaking through the blinds. His mind wandered the way it sometimes did when the day had been unremarkable — drifting to old memories, old faces, old versions of himself. And for reasons he couldn’t explain, a name floated up from the deep end of his mind.

Sandra.

He hadn’t thought about her in years. Not really. Not in the way that mattered. But suddenly he could see her as clearly as if she’d just walked out of the room: the girl who was always grounded, always steady, always more real than the chaos around her. The one he’d done everything with in grade school — projects, recess games, walking home, talking about nothing and everything. They’d had that quiet kind of attraction that kids don’t have words for yet, the kind that just makes two people orbit each other naturally.

He smiled at the memory without meaning to. Then he closed his eyes.

And the moment he did, the world shifted.

He wasn’t in his bedroom anymore. He was standing in a hallway that made no logical sense — part grade school, part high school, part something else entirely. The lockers were the wrong color, the floor tiles mismatched, the air humming with that strange dream‑logic familiarity.

Then he heard footsteps.

Soft ones. Confident ones. Ones he somehow recognized before he even turned around.

“Tom,” a voice said behind him — warm, steady, unmistakably hers.

He turned.

Sandra stood there, exactly as she had been at twelve and seventeen and some impossible age in between. Down‑to‑earth as ever, but glowing with a kind of presence that made the dream feel more real than waking life.

She smiled, and it hit him like a memory he’d forgotten he missed.

“Tom,” she said again, stepping closer. “If we would have ended up together… our lives would have been totally different.”

CHAPTER TWO — THE FIRST LIFE

Sandra didn’t rush him. She never had. Even in childhood, she had that grounded way of standing — like she was planted, like she belonged wherever she was. And here, in this impossible hallway stitched together from two different schools and a memory he didn’t know he still had, she looked exactly as she did at seventeen.

Same hair.
Same eyes.
Same calm.

It was that calm that shook him the most.

“Come on,” she said softly. “Let me show you something.”

She turned, and the hallway stretched out in front of them, shifting as they walked — lockers dissolving into doorways, doorways into open fields, fields into a small apartment he didn’t recognize but somehow knew belonged to them.

He felt a strange pressure in his chest.
A life he never lived, but one that felt… possible.

Sandra walked ahead of him, touching the back of a chair, a stack of books, a framed photo of two people who looked like them but older, settled, familiar. Tom stared at the picture. He didn’t look like himself — not the version he’d become. This Tom looked freer. Softer. Less burdened by expectations he’d carried for so long he’d forgotten they were there.

“This is one way it could have gone,” she said.

He swallowed. “We never even dated.”

“I know.” She smiled, but it wasn’t a happy smile. “You pulled away.”

He felt heat rise in his face — embarrassment, regret, something deeper. “I had to. My family… my church… they had ideas about who I was supposed to end up with.”

“I know,” she repeated, and this time her voice held no judgment. Just understanding. “But that doesn’t mean the connection wasn’t real.”

He looked around the apartment again. The life was simple, ordinary, but it had a warmth that made his throat tighten. He didn’t know if it was longing or grief.

“Why are you showing me this?” he asked.

Sandra stepped closer. She smelled like she did in high school — something clean, something familiar, something that shouldn’t have survived forty years of forgetting.

“Because you wondered,” she said. “Even if you never said it out loud.”

He opened his mouth to argue, but the words died. Because she was right. He had wondered. Not often, not obsessively, but in those quiet moments when life felt like a series of choices made for him rather than by him.

Sandra reached out and touched his hand — warm, real, impossibly real.

And then the apartment flickered.

The walls dissolved into the hallway again. The lockers hummed. The lights buzzed overhead.

Sandra looked at him with an expression he couldn’t read.

“There’s more,” she said. “If you want to see it.”

Tom hesitated. Something in her tone — something gentle but urgent — made his stomach twist.

“Why now?” he asked. “Why after all these years?”

Sandra’s eyes softened. “Because time doesn’t work the way you think it does.”

Before he could ask what she meant, the hallway shifted again, pulling them into another life, another possibility.

And for the first time, Tom felt a flicker of fear.

Not of her.
But of what he might learn.

CHAPTER THREE — THE SECOND LIFE

The hallway shifted again, but this time the change felt heavier, like the air thickened before the world rearranged itself. Tom blinked, and suddenly he was standing in a small kitchen — not the warm, lived‑in apartment from before, but a place that felt sharper, colder, more adult.

Sandra stood by the window, looking out at a street he didn’t recognize. She was still seventeen, impossibly unchanged, but the world around her wasn’t. The contrast made his stomach twist.

“What is this?” Tom asked.

She didn’t turn around. “Another way things could have gone.”

He stepped closer. The kitchen was neat, almost too neat. A single mug on the counter. A calendar with no plans written on it. A silence that felt like it had been there for years.

“This doesn’t look like a happy life,” he said quietly.

Sandra finally turned. “Not every path is.”

He felt something tighten in his chest. “Did we… stay together in this one?”

“For a while,” she said. “Long enough to try. Long enough to learn that love isn’t always enough to overcome everything else.”

He didn’t need her to explain. He knew exactly what “everything else” meant — the expectations, the rules, the invisible lines drawn by family and religion. The pressure he’d felt even as a teenager, the pressure that had made him pull away from her in real life.

In this version, he hadn’t pulled away soon enough.

Sandra walked past him and touched the back of a chair. “You tried to make everyone happy,” she said. “But you couldn’t. And it wore you down.”

Tom swallowed hard. He could see it — a version of himself trying to balance two worlds, failing at both, losing pieces of himself in the process.

“And you?” he asked. “Were you unhappy too?”

Sandra hesitated, and that hesitation hurt more than any answer.

“I didn’t want you to change for me,” she said. “But I also didn’t want to be the reason you felt torn apart.”

He felt a wave of guilt, irrational but overwhelming. “I never wanted to hurt you.”

“I know,” she said softly. “You never did. Not really. But sometimes the things we don’t choose still leave marks.”

The room flickered again — a brief, disorienting pulse of light — and for a moment Tom thought he saw something else behind her. Not another life, not another room, but something like a shadow of time itself. A sense of distance. A sense of loss.

He blinked, and it was gone.

Sandra stepped closer, her expression unreadable. “There’s one more,” she said. “One more life you need to see.”

Tom felt a chill run through him. “Why do I need to see it?”

She looked at him with an intensity that made the dream feel too real, too sharp.

“Because it’s the one that explains why I’m here.”

His breath caught. “Sandra… what does that mean?”

But she didn’t answer.

The kitchen dissolved around them, the walls peeling away like paper in a strong wind. The hallway returned for a heartbeat — lockers humming, lights buzzing — and then even that vanished.

Tom felt himself falling forward into the next possibility, the next truth, the next unanswered question.

And Sandra’s voice followed him, soft and distant:

“Just remember… not everything ends when you think it does.”

CHAPTER FOUR — THE THIRD LIFE

Tom landed on solid ground, but the world around him was dimmer than before — not dark, just muted, like everything had been washed in twilight. He stood in a small park he didn’t recognize. The trees were taller than they should’ve been, the sky too still, the air too quiet.

Sandra stood a few steps ahead, her back to him.

This time, she didn’t speak right away.

Tom approached slowly, feeling a heaviness he couldn’t explain. “Where are we?”

Sandra turned, and her expression was different now — softer, sadder, almost… older, even though her face was still seventeen. It was the eyes. They carried something the rest of her didn’t.

“This,” she said quietly, “is the life where we never crossed paths again.”

Tom frowned. “But that’s what actually happened.”

She shook her head. “Not exactly.”

The park shimmered, and suddenly Tom saw flashes — not full scenes, just impressions:

A grocery store aisle.
A crowded graduation ceremony.
A bus stop on a rainy afternoon.
A hospital waiting room.
A street fair.
A library.
A parking lot.
A church foyer.
A crosswalk.

Moments where two people could pass within feet of each other and never know.

“You don’t remember these,” Sandra said, “but they happened. Or they could have. Or they almost did. Time is strange like that.”

Tom felt a chill. “Are you saying we… almost met again?”

Sandra stepped closer. “More than once.”

He swallowed hard. “Why didn’t we?”

She looked down at her hands. “Because you weren’t ready. And I wasn’t either.”

The park flickered again — a brief pulse of light — and suddenly Tom saw a version of himself sitting alone on a bench, older, tired, staring at nothing. Sandra watched him from a distance, her expression unreadable.

“Why didn’t you go to him?” Tom whispered.

Sandra’s voice was barely audible. “Because I didn’t know if he wanted to see me.”

The scene dissolved, leaving only the two of them in the twilight park.

Tom felt something tighten in his chest — grief, regret, longing, confusion, all tangled together. “Sandra… why are you showing me this now?”

She looked up at him, and for the first time since the dream began, he saw something like fear in her eyes.

“Because this is the life closest to the truth,” she said. “The one where we lived our separate stories. The one where we didn’t get answers. The one where things were left unfinished.”

Tom’s breath caught. “Unfinished?”

Sandra nodded. “Some connections don’t end just because the world says they should. Some stay open. Waiting.”

He felt the ground shift beneath him — not physically, but in that deep, internal way where understanding begins to form but refuses to fully reveal itself.

“Sandra,” he said softly, “what happened to you?”

She closed her eyes.

And for a moment — just a moment — she didn’t look like a dream version of herself. She looked like someone carrying the weight of a life lived, a life ended, a life remembered by someone who hadn’t thought of her in forty years until the night she appeared.

When she opened her eyes again, they were bright with something he couldn’t name.

“Tom,” she whispered, “I didn’t come to answer your questions.”

He felt his heart drop. “Then why?”

She stepped closer, so close he could feel the warmth of her presence.

“I came because you asked one without knowing you asked it.”

The world around them began to fade — the trees dissolving, the sky dimming, the ground slipping away like sand.

Tom reached out instinctively, but Sandra only smiled — a sad, knowing smile.

“Not everything ends when you think it does,” she said again, her voice echoing as the dream unraveled.

And then she was gone.

CHAPTER FIVE — WAKING

Tom woke with a gasp.

Not the slow drift into morning, not the groggy confusion of a normal dream fading — this was a jolt, a full‑body shock, as if someone had pulled him up from deep water. His heart hammered against his ribs. His hands were shaking. The room felt too bright, too sharp, too real.

For a moment he didn’t move. He just lay there, staring at the ceiling, trying to breathe through the weight pressing against his chest.

Sandra.

Her name hit him like a physical blow.

He hadn’t thought of her in forty years. Not once. Not in passing. Not in nostalgia. Not in the quiet moments when old memories sometimes drifted up uninvited. She had been sealed away in a part of his life he never revisited — not because she didn’t matter, but because the world he grew up in told him he couldn’t.

So why now?

Why her?

Why a dream so vivid it felt like a memory he’d lived instead of imagined?

He sat up slowly, rubbing his face with trembling hands. The details were still there — the hallway, the apartment, the park, her voice, her eyes, the way she looked exactly seventeen. Dreams weren’t supposed to stay that clear. They weren’t supposed to feel like conversations.

They weren’t supposed to leave you with the sense that something unfinished had just brushed past you.

Tom swung his legs over the side of the bed. His feet touched the floor, grounding him, but the unease didn’t fade. If anything, it deepened.

He whispered her name again, testing it, tasting it, feeling the strange familiarity of it after so many years.

Sandra.

It didn’t feel like remembering.
It felt like being reminded.

He stood, walked to the kitchen, poured a cup of coffee he didn’t really want. His hands were still unsteady. He kept replaying her last words in the dream:

“I came because you asked a question without knowing you asked it.”

What question?
When?
How?

He paced the kitchen, trying to shake the feeling, but it clung to him like static. Finally, almost without thinking, he sat down at his laptop.

He hesitated.

This was ridiculous.
People dream about old classmates all the time.
It didn’t mean anything.

But the thought didn’t convince him. Not even a little.

His fingers hovered over the keyboard.

He typed her name.

Sandra + hometown.
Sandra + high school.
Sandra + maiden name.

He hit Enter.

The search results loaded slowly, as if the universe itself were reluctant to show him what came next.

And then he saw it.

An obituary.

His breath caught in his throat.

He clicked it with a hand that suddenly felt numb.

There she was — older, smiling, the same eyes he’d seen in the dream but carrying decades he hadn’t witnessed. The obituary was short, simple, the kind written by families who don’t know how to summarize a life in a few paragraphs.

But one line stood out, sharp and cold:

She passed away three days ago.

Tom stared at the screen, unable to move.

Three days.

Three days before the dream.
Three days before she appeared in that impossible hallway.
Three days before she showed him the lives they never lived.

His coffee had gone cold. His hands had stopped shaking, replaced by a stillness that felt worse.

He whispered, barely audible:

“What were you trying to tell me?”

But the room stayed silent.

And for the first time in years — maybe ever — Tom felt the weight of a question that had no answer, a question that would follow him long after the dream faded.

A question that had already waited forty years to be asked.

CHAPTER SIX — THE AFTERMATH

For the rest of the day, Tom moved through his house like someone walking underwater. Everything felt slowed down, muffled, distant. He kept replaying the dream in his mind, trying to find the seams — the places where it should’ve unraveled, the places where it should’ve revealed itself as nothing more than imagination.

But it didn’t unravel.

If anything, it tightened.

Every detail stayed sharp: the way Sandra stood in the hallway, the warmth of her hand, the sadness in her eyes when she showed him the life where they drifted apart. Dreams weren’t supposed to hold together like that. They weren’t supposed to feel like conversations you could quote.

He sat at the kitchen table long after the sun went down, staring at the obituary on his screen. He read it again and again, as if the words might change, as if the date might shift, as if the universe might offer him some kind of explanation.

Three days.

Three days before the dream.

He whispered the number under his breath, as if saying it aloud might make it less impossible. But it didn’t. It only made the room feel smaller.

He closed the laptop and leaned back in his chair, rubbing his eyes. He wasn’t a superstitious man. He didn’t believe in signs or messages or visitations. His life had been shaped by rules, by certainty, by the idea that everything had an explanation if you looked hard enough.

But this… this didn’t fit anywhere.

He stood and walked to the window. Outside, the street was quiet, the world moving on as if nothing unusual had happened. But inside, something had shifted. Something he couldn’t name.

He thought about high school — about the way he’d pulled away from Sandra, not because he wanted to, but because he’d been told he should. He thought about the quiet ache he’d buried so deep he forgot it existed. He thought about the way she looked in the dream, unchanged, unaged, as if time had never touched her.

And he thought about the question she said he’d asked without knowing.

What question?

What longing had he carried all these years without realizing it?

He sat back down, feeling the weight of the silence around him. The dream had cracked something open — not a wound, exactly, but a door. A door he didn’t know how to close.

He whispered her name again, softer this time.

“Sandra.”

It didn’t feel like calling out to the past.
It felt like acknowledging something that had been waiting.

He didn’t sleep well that night. Every time he closed his eyes, he saw her standing in that twilight park, her expression full of something he still couldn’t decipher. Not sadness. Not regret. Something else.

Something unfinished.

When morning came, he felt no closer to understanding. If anything, the questions had multiplied. But one thing was clear — the dream wasn’t fading. It wasn’t dissolving the way dreams were supposed to. It was settling in, becoming part of him.

And he knew, even then, that this wasn’t something he would forget in a week or a month or even a year.

Some moments don’t leave.
Some questions don’t answer themselves.
Some connections don’t end just because life moves on.

Tom didn’t know what the dream meant.
He didn’t know why it came when it did.
He didn’t know why Sandra appeared after forty years of silence.

But he knew one thing with absolute certainty:

He would never be the same.

CHAPTER EIGHT — WHAT REMAINS

Years passed, and the dream settled into Tom’s life the way certain memories do — not fading, not demanding attention, but living quietly in the background, like a book on a shelf he never opened but never forgot was there.

He built a life he was proud of.
A life he chose.
A life that, despite its twists and imperfections, felt right in a way that didn’t need comparison to anything else.

He didn’t regret the path he walked.
Not for a moment.

He loved the people in his life.
He valued the experiences that shaped him.
He felt gratitude — deep, steady gratitude — for the years he’d lived and the person he’d become.

The dream didn’t change that.
It didn’t make him wish for a different past or a different partner or a different version of himself. It didn’t pull him backward.

If anything, it made him more aware of how precious the life he did live truly was.

But the mystery remained.

Not as a wound.
Not as a longing.
As a question.

A quiet, persistent question that lived in the spaces between moments.

Sometimes, when he was out for a walk or sitting alone on the porch at dusk, he would think about Sandra — not with regret, not with sadness, but with a kind of gentle curiosity. A wondering about the strange intersection of dream and reality, about the timing, about the way she appeared exactly as she had been, untouched by the years.

He would think about the three lives she showed him.
Not as alternatives he wished he’d lived, but as reflections — mirrors held up to the person he once was and the person he became.

He would think about the life where they tried and struggled.
The life where they drifted apart without ever reconnecting.
The life where they built something warm and simple.

And he would think about the life he actually lived — the one that mattered most — the one that shaped him, challenged him, fulfilled him.

The dream didn’t diminish that life.
It illuminated it.

It reminded him that choices have weight, that paths diverge for reasons we don’t always understand, and that sometimes the past returns not to rewrite anything, but to acknowledge what was left unsaid.

One evening, nearly twenty years after the dream, Tom sat outside watching the sky shift from gold to blue. The air was cool, the world quiet. He felt content — deeply, honestly content — in a way that didn’t need explanation.

And yet, as the first stars appeared, he felt that familiar presence again. Not a voice. Not a vision. Just a sense — a soft awareness, like a memory brushing past him.

He didn’t speak aloud.
He didn’t need to.

Some connections don’t end.
Some questions don’t resolve.
Some moments stay with us not because they demand answers, but because they remind us that life is larger, stranger, and more interconnected than we ever realize.

Tom leaned back in his chair, breathing in the cool evening air.

He didn’t regret anything.
He didn’t wish for anything different.
He simply carried the dream the way one carries a story — not to change the past, but to honor the mystery of it.

And somewhere, in a place beyond explanation, he felt that was enough.

CHAPTER NINE — MEANING

Tom never tried to force an explanation.

In the early years, he’d wondered — of course he had. Anyone would. But as time passed, the dream settled into a different place inside him. Not a puzzle to solve. Not a message to decode. Something gentler. Something quieter.

Something that simply was.

He learned to live with the mystery the way one lives with a distant star — aware of it, occasionally drawn to it, but not needing to touch it to appreciate its light.

Every so often, usually in the stillness of late evening, he would think about Sandra. Not with longing. Not with regret. Just with a kind of soft recognition, like remembering a song from childhood that still stirs something unnamed.

He would think about the girl she was — grounded, steady, someone he felt naturally connected to before the world told him who he was supposed to be. He would think about the boy he was — earnest, conflicted, trying to navigate expectations he didn’t yet understand.

And he would think about the man he became — someone who built a life he valued, someone who found meaning and love and purpose in the path he actually walked.

He didn’t wish for a different life.
He didn’t wish for a different partner.
He didn’t wish for a different past.

But he did sometimes wish he understood why the dream had come when it did.

Not to change anything.
Just to know.

He would sit with that thought for a while, letting it rise and fall like a tide. And then, almost always, he would feel a quiet acceptance settle in — the understanding that some experiences aren’t meant to be explained. They’re meant to be carried.

One evening, years after the dream, Tom found himself flipping through an old yearbook. He hadn’t opened it in decades. The pages smelled faintly of dust and time. He turned them slowly, not searching for anything in particular.

And then he saw her.

Sandra.
Seventeen.
Smiling in a way that felt both familiar and impossibly distant.

He traced the edge of the photo with his thumb, not touching the page, just hovering above it. He didn’t feel sadness. He didn’t feel regret. He felt… gratitude.

Gratitude that she had been part of his story, even briefly.
Gratitude that she had appeared in that dream, whatever it was.
Gratitude that some connections, however fleeting, leave marks that last a lifetime.

He closed the yearbook gently and set it aside.

As he sat there, the room quiet around him, he realized something he hadn’t been able to articulate before: the dream wasn’t about the life he didn’t live. It was about the life he did live — and the way the past sometimes reaches forward to remind us of who we were, who we became, and the invisible threads that tie those selves together.

He leaned back, letting the thought settle.

Meaning didn’t always come in answers.
Sometimes it came in questions that stayed with you.
Sometimes it came in the simple act of remembering.

And sometimes — just sometimes — it came in the form of a dream that arrived three days after someone left the world, carrying a message you could feel but never fully understand.

Tom breathed in, slow and steady.

He didn’t need to understand it.
He only needed to honor it.

And he did.

CHAPTER TEN — THE QUIET MOMENT

It happened on an ordinary afternoon.

Not a birthday.
Not an anniversary.
Not a day marked by anything special.

Just a quiet, unremarkable moment in a life Tom had grown into with gratitude — a life he valued, a life he wouldn’t trade for any of the paths he’d glimpsed in that dream so many years ago.

He was sitting on a bench outside a small café, sipping a cup of coffee and watching people pass by. The sun was warm. The breeze was soft. The world felt steady in that comforting way it sometimes does when you’re older and have lived enough to appreciate the simple things.

He wasn’t thinking about Sandra.
He wasn’t thinking about the dream.
He wasn’t thinking about the past at all.

And then, without warning, a feeling washed over him — subtle, gentle, unmistakable.

A presence.

Not physical.
Not visible.
Just… there.

The same quiet awareness he’d felt in the dream.
The same sense of being seen, somehow.
The same warmth that didn’t belong to memory or imagination.

He didn’t turn his head.
He didn’t look for anything.
He simply sat with it, letting the moment unfold without trying to name it.

A young couple walked by, laughing.
A child tugged at her mother’s sleeve.
A dog barked at a passing bicycle.
Life moved on, ordinary and beautiful.

And in the middle of it, Tom felt something settle inside him — a calm he hadn’t expected, a clarity he hadn’t asked for.

He realized, in that moment, that the dream had never been about answers.
It had never been about regret.
It had never been about rewriting the past.

It had been about connection.
About acknowledgment.
About the strange, quiet truth that some people leave marks on us that time can’t erase — not because we cling to them, but because they shaped us in ways we didn’t understand until much later.

He closed his eyes for a moment, letting the warmth of the sun rest on his face.

He didn’t speak aloud.
He didn’t need to.

Whatever had happened all those years ago — whatever the dream was, whatever it meant — it had become part of him. Not a burden. Not a mystery to solve. Just a thread woven into the fabric of his life.

A reminder that the past is never as far away as we think.
A reminder that some stories don’t end, they simply change shape.
A reminder that meaning doesn’t always come in explanations — sometimes it comes in presence.

When he opened his eyes again, the feeling had faded.

But the peace remained.

Tom finished his coffee, stood up, and walked home — content in the life he lived, grateful for the paths he chose, and quietly aware that somewhere, in a way he would never fully understand, a connection from long ago had found its way back to him one last time.

Not to change anything.
Not to reopen old doors.
Just to say that it mattered.

And that was enough.

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Do a Grouch a Favor Day

Today is Presidents Day and everyone knows about that holiday. However, there is another event to celebrate.

Do a Grouch a Favor Day is observed every year on February 16 (which in 2026 falls on a Monday.

It’s a lighthearted, unofficial holiday dedicated to showering kindness on the grumpiest of your friends—think of it as a mission to bring a smiles to that cranky coworker who’s perpetually one bad coffee away from a meltdown, the family member who’s convinced the universe has it out for them, the neighbor who treats every day like a grouchy competition, or even that stranger whose face is locked in a permanent frown. The aim? Pull off the ultimate nice act to brighten their day and, just maybe, flip that permanent scowl into a bewildered grin!

The exact origins aren’t well-documented (like many fun “national days,” it likely emerged from calendars or online lists in recent decades), but it’s often linked to:

The classic Sesame Street character Oscar the Grouch — that trash-can-dwelling, grumbling green monster who’s famously anti-cheerful. Some sources jokingly suggest Big Bird might have “invented” it to cheer Oscar up!

A playful salute to all the curmudgeons, grumps, and professional sourpusses out there! We’ve all donned that cranky crown at some point—often after a day that feels like it won the award for ‘Most Agonizing’ or when the winter blues hit harder than an uninvited relative at the holidays.

How to Celebrate

The spirit is simple: perform a small act of kindness toward someone who’s acting grouchy. Ideas include:

  • Hold the door, offer a genuine smile, or say something positive when they least expect it.
  • Bring them coffee, a snack, or a funny note/meme to lighten the mood.
  • Help with a small task (like carrying something heavy or listening without interrupting their rant).
  • Pay it forward anonymously if the grouch is a stranger (e.g., cover their coffee at a drive-thru).
  • If you’re feeling self-reflective, do yourself a favor—treat your own inner grouch with some self-kindness!

Even if the grouch acts like a grumpy cat in a bath, the simple act of kindness is like waving a magic wand of positivity. As one wise philosopher put it: “Doing a favor for a prickly pal might just flip their frown like a pancake, and let’s be honest, who doesn’t enjoy a good pancake moment?”

Celebrating Abraham Lincoln: Legacy and Traditions

February 12 commemorates the birth of Abraham Lincoln, the 16th President of the United States, born in a log cabin in Hodgenville, Kentucky, on February 12, 1809. Lincoln is widely regarded as one of America’s greatest presidents for preserving the Union during the Civil War, issuing the Emancipation Proclamation (freeing enslaved people in Confederate states), and delivering iconic speeches like the Gettysburg Address.

The tradition of observing Lincoln’s birthday dates back shortly after his assassination in 1865. The first congressional commemoration occurred on February 12, 1866, with a memorial address by historian George Bancroft. Early efforts to establish it as a formal holiday included campaigns by Julius Francis, a Buffalo, New York shopkeeper, who organized public celebrations starting in the 1870s and lobbied Congress (though unsuccessfully for a federal holiday). By the early 20th century, it was observed in many states, often with parades, speeches, and readings of Lincoln’s writings.

In 1909, the centennial of Lincoln’s birth saw widespread celebrations, including the founding of the NAACP on that date to honor his legacy in advancing equality.

However, Lincoln’s Birthday has never been a federal holiday. In 1971, the Uniform Monday Holiday Act shifted Washington’s Birthday (February 22) to the third Monday in February for a long weekend, leading most states to combine observances into what is commonly (but unofficially) called Presidents’ Day. The federal holiday remains named Washington’s Birthday, though many people use the day to honor both Washington and Lincoln—or all presidents.

How It’s Celebrated Today

Observances are more commemorative than festive, focusing on Lincoln’s legacy of leadership, emancipation, and unity:

  • Wreath-laying ceremonies — Annual events at key sites, such as:
  • Abraham Lincoln Birthplace National Historical Park in Hodgenville, Kentucky (often with flag-raising or kid-friendly activities like building log cabins from popsicle sticks).
  • The Lincoln Memorial in Washington, D.C. (organized by groups like the Lincoln Birthday National Commemorative Committee, including readings of the Gettysburg Address).
  • Lincoln’s Tomb in Springfield, Illinois.
  • Events at museums and historic sites — Free admission days, symposia, banquets, or programs (e.g., at the Abraham Lincoln Presidential Library and Museum in Springfield, IL, or local forest preserves with hands-on activities like quill pen writing or tasting Lincoln’s favorite foods).
  • Educational and community activities — Schools in some areas hold readings, discussions, or reenactments; organizations host talks on his life and achievements.
  • In states where it’s a holiday, government offices and courts may close, but it’s not a widespread day off like federal holidays.

How I Discovered My Dream Home in Lakewood Colorado

Here is a video of our dream home. These are photos that was on the agents listing.

Back in 2016 my dream came true. For about two years prior we have been looking for a new home. A medical emergency prompted us to do a home search since the EMT’s was not able to get their gurney down the hallway. We looked at many building sites in the Denver Metro area and was not having much luck finding our dream home. We were about to give up the search and started to accept that the home would not be found. 

One night around eight PM we were driving down this street we have been down many times in the past. I was going east and happened to see this for sale sign in a residential neighborhood. I asked my wife, “would you like to tour a home I just saw a for sale sign?” She said, “might as well, it doesn’t look like we will find a new home.” When we got home, I made an internet search and got the address and listing. It was just put on the market Thursday one day ago. Contacted our agent and she made an appointment for Saturday afternoon. We went Saturday and signed a contract the following Sunday.

The house was built in 1998 and the original owner was moving to Phoenix and was selling his home. It was all I ever wanted in a home. A two-car garage that didn’t need to be used for storage space. A large master bedroom larger than the 10 x 12 one we are used to. The laundry room is on the first floor, one of the requirements since we are becoming seasoned citizens. The HOA takes care of the lawn, trash pickup, snow removal, gutter cleaning, and other items. The basement is finished, and it has a workshop. something I have always been dreaming about. This was the final straw. I wanted this house.

To this day I still do not know how I saw the for-sale sign. It was dark and four houses down the side street. My wife says, “it was the Holy Spirit at work and this home was meant for us”. One will never know. We have been here for eight years and will more than likely spend the rest of our lives here.

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National Cream Cheese Brownie Day

Every year, February 10th ambushes us with a surprise dose of sweetness: National Cream Cheese Brownie Day! It might not be the loudest holiday vying for our attention, but trust me, it’s one of the tastiest. Seriously, who can resist the magic of rich chocolate meeting tangy cream cheese? It’s like a delicious tug-of-war in your mouth, offering a sweet embrace that’s less “cuddle” and more “stick a fork in me, I’m done!”

Cream cheese brownies are the kind of treat that strut around like they’re the lovechild of dessert and a nostalgic memory. Maybe it’s the way the kitchen smells while they’re baking, wafting that warm chocolate aroma through the house like a siren call to snack-happy souls. Or perhaps it’s that first bite — the fudgy brownie revealing its creamy, smooth layer on top like a magician unveiling their best trick. It’s a combo that shouldn’t work as well as it does, kind of like wearing socks with sandals, yet somehow it always manages to impress!


What to love most about this day is how wonderfully unexciting it is. No pressure, no planning, no elaborate decorations that would make Martha Stewart raise an eyebrow. Just a reminder to chill out and savor something as small as a brownie — because honestly, if you’re rebelling against the chaos of life with a chocolate snack, that’s a solid strategy! In a world that zooms by like a caffeinated squirrel, choosing to kick back with dessert is practically an Olympic sport in choosing joy over the madness!

Cream cheese brownies are like little time machines crammed into a dessert! They whisk us back to those glorious days of bake sales, potlucks, and family gatherings, where calories didn’t count and no one could resist volunteering to bring “just one more” mouthwatering batch. They’re the kind of treats that vanish faster than you can say “seconds, please,” not because our bellies are crying for help, but rather because our taste buds are throwing a party and everyone wants to RSVP with “just one more piece!”


So today, whether you whip up a batch from scratch with more flour on your face than in the bowl, snag one from your favorite bakery (hey, no judgment!), or just daydream about it while staring at a picture, take a moment to celebrate. Life’s all about the little joys, and a cream cheese brownie — with its delightful swirl of chocolate that knows how to make your taste buds do a happy dance — is definitely worthy of a slow clap and an extra fork!


Happy National Cream Cheese Brownie Day.

The Nature of True Peace

AUDIO PODCAST 3 minutes

There’s a kind of peace people write about, pray for, imagine in their quietest moments—but I actually brushed against it. Not the earthly version, the one that comes and goes with weather and circumstance, but the real thing. The kind that doesn’t flicker. The kind that doesn’t depend on breath or heartbeat. The kind that waits on the far side of fear.

When I had my near‑death experience, I stepped—just for a moment—outside the noise of being human. And in that space, I felt something no language can fully hold. It wasn’t calm the way we describe calm here. It wasn’t relief. It wasn’t even joy. It was total peace, the kind that doesn’t need a reason to exist. The kind that simply is.

For that brief stretch of time, I wasn’t carrying anything. No memories tugging at me. No unfinished business. No ache in the chest that comes from being alive and trying so hard. Everything that had ever weighed on me—every worry, every question, every moment of doubt—fell away like it had never belonged to me in the first place.

And the astonishing thing is how familiar it felt. Not foreign, not strange, not like stepping into someone else’s dream. It felt like remembering something you’d always known but had forgotten in the rush of living. A peace so complete it didn’t need your participation. You didn’t have to hold onto it. It held you.

Coming back from that kind of peace is its own kind of shock. The world feels louder. Heavier. More complicated. But it also feels more precious, because I saw the contrast. I glimpsed the quiet behind the curtain. I know that beyond all the motion and striving and beautiful mess of this life, there is a stillness waiting that makes everything here feel like a rehearsal for something larger.

And maybe that’s the gift of what I experienced. Not a longing for what’s beyond—because I am content with the life I am living—but a deeper understanding of what peace really is. Not the fragile, fleeting kind we chase on earth, but the kind that exists untouched, unbroken, and eternal.

I carried a piece of that back with Me. Even if it’s small, even if it’s quiet, it’s there. A reminder. A compass. A whisper of the peace I once stepped into, and the peace that will one day welcome me home again.


February 7, 2023, is a day, three years ago, I will never forget. That is the day I experienced peace, total peace. This changed my life, outlook of life, and time after life on this earth.

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Honoring Holocaust Victims

International Holocaust Remembrance Day (also known as the International Day of Commemoration in Memory of the Victims of the Holocaust) is observed annually on January 27. This date commemorates the liberation of the Auschwitz-Birkenau Nazi concentration and extermination camp by Soviet troops on January 27, 1945.

The United Nations General Assembly officially designated January 27 as this day in 2005 through Resolution 60/7. The observance honors the memory of the approximately 6 million Jews murdered during the Holocaust, as well as the millions of other victims—including Roma, disabled people, Poles, Soviet prisoners of war, Jehovah’s Witnesses, homosexuals, and political dissidents—persecuted and killed under the Nazi regime and its collaborators.

Key goals of the day include:

Remembering and honoring the victims is a profound act that goes beyond mere remembrance; it serves as a vital reminder of the fragility of life and the importance of social cohesion. Each victim represents a unique story, a life that was filled with dreams, aspirations, and loved ones who mourn their absence. By commemorating these individuals, we not only acknowledge their suffering but also reinforce our commitment to preventing future tragedies. It is essential that we gather in unity, reflect on the lessons learned from past events, and strive to create a world where everyone can live in safety and dignity. Through acts of remembrance, we pay tribute to their legacy, ensuring that their memories inspire change and foster resilience within our communities.

Promoting Holocaust education, research, and remembrance is crucial for ensuring that the lessons of this dark chapter in history are not forgotten. By integrating Holocaust studies into educational curricula at all levels, we can foster a deeper understanding of the impact of hatred, bigotry, and intolerance, encouraging critical thinking and empathy among students. Additionally, supporting research initiatives that focus on survivor testimonies, historical analysis, and the socio-political context of the Holocaust can help to create a comprehensive narrative that honors the victims and empowers future generations to stand against injustice. Remembering the Holocaust through memorial events, museum exhibitions, and public discussions reinforces the collective responsibility to combat antisemitism and discrimination today, reminding us that the past must serve as a guide for a more just and equitable future.

Combating antisemitism, Holocaust denial, racism, and other forms of intolerance is crucial for fostering a society rooted in respect and understanding. It requires a collective effort to educate individuals about the historical implications and consequences of these prejudices, ensuring that the horrors of the past are never repeated. Engaging in open dialogues, promoting awareness through community outreach, and implementing strong anti-discrimination policies can significantly contribute to eradicating these harmful ideologies. By standing united against all forms of hate, we not only honor the memories of those who suffered but also create a safer, more inclusive environment for future generations.

Preserving Holocaust sites (like former camps) as memorials is crucial not only for honoring the memory of the victims but also for educating future generations about the atrocities that occurred during this dark chapter in history. These sites serve as powerful reminders of the consequences of hatred and intolerance, and they provide a place for reflection and mourning for families and communities affected by these events. By maintaining and restoring these sites, we ensure that the lessons learned are not forgotten, and we foster a deeper understanding of the Holocaust’s impact on our world. Additionally, structured guided tours and educational programs at these memorials can enhance awareness and promote discussions surrounding human rights, thus preventing similar atrocities in the future. Ultimately, these preserved sites become essential tools in the fight against anti-Semitism and discrimination, making them invaluable for both remembrance and education.

Encouraging reflection on human rights to prevent future atrocities is essential, as understanding past injustices allows societies to learn from their mistakes. By fostering a culture of awareness and education regarding human rights, we empower individuals to recognize the signs of oppression and stand up against inequality. This reflection not only honors the victims of past atrocities but also paves the way for dialogue and healing within communities. Such discussions can inspire collective action, ensuring that the value of human dignity is upheld and protected for future generations. Ultimately, a commitment to remembering the past is crucial in cultivating a future where human rights are universally respected and preserved.

While in the army stationed in Nuremburg, Germany in 1965, I visited Dachau, Germany. This was a very sobering experience, one that profoundly impacted my understanding of human history and morality. Walking through the gates of the former concentration camp, I felt an overwhelming sense of dread and disbelief. How can humans resort to treating other humans in such a horrific manner? The sheer scale of suffering and despair that took place there is beyond my comprehension. It is an event that will be etched in my mind as long as I live, serving as a constant reminder of the depths of cruelty people can reach when hate and discrimination take root. This must never be allowed to be erased from the history books of the world, for acknowledging these atrocities is essential to ensuring that they are never repeated and that we honor the memories of those who suffered.

Three Days of Deep Winter

My body can’t take this cold weather.

Saturday set the tone with scattered flurries and a high that barely reached the mid‑20s. The day never really warmed up, hovering around 24°F with overcast skies and humidity that clung to the air like a heavy coat. Light winds added just enough bite to make the cold feel sharper than the thermometer suggested.

Sunday kept the chill going. Snow showers drifted through the metro area, and the cold air deepened as a winter weather advisory took effect. By mid‑afternoon, temperatures sat in the low twenties, with wind chills dipping below zero. Even the brief breaks in cloud cover didn’t offer much relief.

By Monday, the storm had moved on, but the cold lingered. Morning temperatures hovered in the single digits, and although the sun finally returned, the air stayed crisp and unforgiving. It was the kind of day where the sunlight looks warm from indoors but feels like a trick the moment you step outside.

What stands out about this stretch isn’t just the numbers—it’s the mood. Streets were quieter. People moved a little faster between doorways. Seniors know cold, but this was the kind that settles in your bones and makes you appreciate every warm pocket of the city.

And now, as temperatures begin their slow climb back toward something more forgiving, there’s a small sense of triumph in the air. We made it through another deep freeze—together, layered up, caffeinated, and already swapping stories about just how cold it really was.

A Dream Turned into a Tale

Somewhere after I retired, I had a vivid and lifelike dream. It was a dream that I will never forget and the implications. I took that dream and made it into a story. Here is the introductory paragraph.

When Tom drifts into sleep one ordinary night, he’s pulled into a vivid dream where Sandra—his grounded, quietly magnetic grade‑school companion he hasn’t thought of in forty years—appears exactly as she was in high school. She shows him three lives they might have lived together, each one tender, unsettling, and impossibly real. Shaken awake, Tom searches for her… only to discover she died three days earlier. What follows is a decades‑long reflection on connection, timing, and the mysteries that refuse to fade. Three Days After Sandra is a haunting, heartfelt novella about the questions we never knew we asked, the lives we never lived, and the quiet ways the past sometimes reaches forward—not to change our path, but to remind us that it mattered.

The small paper back is available on Amazon, and the Kindle edition will be available January 9th.

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Happy Birthday Dad!

Today, December 26th, is my dad’s birthday, a day that holds both joyful and bittersweet memories for our family. Born in 1907, he witnessed a rapidly changing world until he moved on in 1985. Celebrating his birthday the day after Christmas often meant that his special day was intertwined with the holiday festivities; he would receive a combination present of birthday and Christmas gifts, which sometimes felt like a double-edged sword. I wonder if that arrangement bothered him on some level, yet he brought it up often, sharing stories of how he tried to carve out his identity amidst the holiday cheer. Despite the potential overshadowing of his birthday by Christmas celebrations, he always managed to find joy in the season, ensuring that those around him felt the warmth and happiness that came with the holidays. His unique birthday has left a lasting impression on me, reminding me each year of the importance of celebrating not only special occasions but the individuality that each person brings to those moments.

Happy Birthday Dad, thank you for everything you did for me and I love you!

Thomas Edison’s Christmas Lights

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In the tapestry of holiday traditions, few moments shine as brightly as when Thomas Edison, the wizard of Menlo Park, illuminated the first string of electric Christmas tree lights on December 22, 1882. This wasn’t just a festive experiment; it was a moment that would redefine holiday celebrations for generations to come.

Back in 1882, Christmas decorations were predominantly made of candles, which, while beautiful, posed a significant fire hazard. Imagine the scene: the glow of candles on evergreen branches, a sight both enchanting and dangerous. Enter Thomas Edison, who had already made headlines with his incandescent light bulb. Edison’s associate, Edward H. Johnson, took the idea a step further. On December 22, 1882, Johnson, an inventor in his own right and Edison’s partner, adorned his Christmas tree in his New York City home with 80 hand-wired red, white, and blue electric bulbs. This wasn’t just for show; it was a demonstration of what electric lights could do for safety and aesthetics in holiday decor.

The spectacle was reported in the Detroit Post and Tribune, describing how “one can hardly imagine anything prettier.” This wasn’t just a novelty; it marked the beginning of a new era for Christmas decor. Edison’s electric lights were safer than candles, reusable, and didn’t require the constant attention to prevent fires. However, the technology was initially too expensive for the average household. A string of lights could cost as much as a month’s salary for many workers.

But as with many of Edison’s inventions, the price came down over time, and the idea caught on. By the early 20th century, electric Christmas lights had become more accessible, thanks to innovations in manufacturing and a growing electrical infrastructure. Companies like General Electric started producing pre-wired sets, making it easier for families to illuminate their celebrations.

This invention did more than just light up trees; it influenced how we celebrate and remember Christmas. The warm glow of electric lights became synonymous with the holiday spirit, symbolizing joy, warmth, and togetherness. It transformed the Christmas tree from a fire hazard into a centerpiece of safety and celebration. Over the years, the tradition evolved with colored lights, blinking patterns, and eventually, LED technology, which brought energy efficiency into the mix.

Today, when we string up our lights, whether they’re classic incandescent, energy-saving LEDs, or even smart lights that dance to music, we’re participating in a tradition that began with Edison and Johnson’s pioneering demonstration. It’s a reminder of how innovation can create enduring cultural practices. Each twinkle of a light on a Christmas tree is a nod to human ingenuity, turning a simple act of decoration into a celebration of progress and festivity.

In conclusion, Thomas Edison’s contribution to Christmas traditions in 1882 goes beyond mere decoration; it was a beacon of innovation that has continued to evolve. As we plug in our lights each year, we’re not just decorating for the holidays; we’re partaking in a legacy of light, safety, and joy that began with a single, bright idea over a century ago. This year, as you look at your twinkling tree, remember the spark of genius that made it all possible.

The Beauty of a Quiet Morning

Audio Podcast 4 1/2 minutes

As I sat on my front porch, the morning air crisp and the coffee steaming in my mug, I watched the world wake up, relishing the tranquility of this serene moment. The street was quiet, save for the soft chirping of sparrows flitting between the trees, their lively songs weaving a soft symphony that filled the stillness. Dew glistened on the grass, catching the first rays of sunlight like scattered diamonds, creating a shimmering carpet that invited the day to unfold. In the distance, the faint rustling of leaves hinted at the gentle breeze, carrying with it the aromatic scent of blooming flowers and freshly cut grass, making each breath a reminder of nature’s rejuvenation. I felt a sense of peace wash over me as I took a sip from my mug, savoring the warmth that matched the gentle glow of dawn, and in that moment, I understood the beauty of simply being present.

Across the road, old Mr. Roberts shuffled out in his plaid slippers, retrieving his newspaper with a habitual grunt that echoed softly in the morning air. He paused for a moment, squinting at something in his garden, his brow furrowing in curiosity. I followed his gaze and saw it—a small, scruffy fox, its russet fur damp from the night’s dew, nosing cautiously around his rosebushes, clearly searching for something to eat. The creature seemed oblivious to the world around it, its attention wholly absorbed in its task. Suddenly, it froze, locking eyes with Mr. Roberts, who had been tending to his own garden nearby, the sunlight reflecting off his watering can. The fox stood still, tense and alert, before it made a split-second decision and darted off, a streak of fire vanishing into the hedge, leaving only the faint rustle of leaves and a lingering sense of wonder in the crisp morning air.

Moments later, a delivery van rumbled by its tires humming on the asphalt as if eager to explore the winding streets of our neighborhood. The driver, a young woman with a bright pink cap that seemed to glow under the afternoon sun, hopped out with a sense of urgency, dropping a package—carefully wrapped in cheerful brown paper—at the neighbor’s door. She waved at me with a friendly gesture, her smile quick but warm, before hastily getting back into her vehicle and speeding off, disappearing around the corner. A gentle breeze stirred, carrying the enchanting scent of blooming lilacs from Mrs. Pomeranian yard next door, where her tabby cat, Whiskers, prowled the porch railing with an air of feline authority, eyeing the sparrows with lazy menace, as if plotting a playful ambush while soaking up the golden rays of sunlight pouring down.

Then, something peculiar caught my attention. At the end of the street, where the pavement met the woods, a solitary figure stood—a child, perhaps ten years old, clad in a bright red hoodie that starkly contrasted with the muted hues of twilight. Clutched tightly in their small hand was a single blue balloon, vibrant and buoyant, swaying gently in the evening breeze. The balloon appeared almost luminescent against the backdrop of the encroaching darkness, an ethereal symbol of childhood joy and innocence. They remained motionless, their gaze fixed intently down the road, as if anticipating something or someone, an unwritten story unfolding in their young mind. The air was thick with the scent of damp earth and fallen leaves, and the sounds of the evening—a distant rustle of branches, the soft chirping of crickets—seemed to fade into a hush around this moment. The balloon bobbed softly, reflecting the waning sunlight and drawing my gaze like a signal, as though it held secrets waiting to be discovered. I blinked, and in that brief moment of darkness, they were gone, as though they had slipped into the mist that clung to the trees, disappearing into the encroaching shadows. I sipped my coffee, its warmth anchoring me amidst the surreal nature of the scene, contemplating whether I had conjured the vision or if the child had indeed existed, a fleeting specter lingering at the edge of my awareness, a haunting reminder of the fragile line between reality and the ethereal whispers of a fading day.

The morning rolled on, ordinary yet alive with small mysteries, each moment a thread in the tapestry of the day, weaving together the subtle scents of dew-kissed grass and the gentle rustle of leaves as the breeze danced through the trees. The sun, cautiously peeking above the horizon, painted the sky in hues of orange and pink, inviting the world to awaken from its slumber, while birds serenaded the dawn with their cheerful melodies, hinting at the adventures that lay ahead. Each tick of the clock echoed like a heartbeat, amplifying the feeling that life was teeming with possibilities, as the coffee brewed its rich aroma in the background, inviting those willing to savor the fleeting beauty of the morning.

This is a short story from Tales of TOMT 2.0 Book Two Can be purchased at Amazon. Link

Who Is TomT2.0? Discover His Journey

Just a refresher of who is TomT2.0?

https://tomt2.com/about-tom-t2-0/

Some may ask, who is Tom T 2.0? I was 2tts and I am sure not very many know the story behind Tom T 2.0. Therefore, I will give you a brief biography.

Born and raised in Denver Colorado, a long time ago. I was in my mother’s womb when Pearl Harbor was attacked by the Japanese. I lived in the same home until after high school. Grandma, my mother’s mother lived with us and a brother. It was a small house, 864 sq ft. But it was home, and we all loved the home.

After high school I got a job with the company who was building the Titan ICBM missile for the government. There was the military draft during that time and was drafted maybe three or four years later. I then became a Viet Nam era veteran. I don’t know how this happened but the seven men I was drafted with went to Viet Nam and I was sent to Germany. I’m still proud that I served the country during that time.

After my military service I started working for a large television and electronics manufacturing company in their distribution of the products arm. I met my future wife, got married and have two sons with this relationship. Life was what every normal healthy male dream of. Unfortunately, this dream only lasts about eleven years. I became divorced and my job disappeared because the company was sold and closed thirteen distributing warehouses across the nation. Here I was mid-life, divorced and out of work.

For about five years I had many jobs, mostly temporary employment mainly because the unemployment rate was around seven percent. My parents also passed away during that time also. First, my mother with cancer and two years later my father from a heart attack. This was a tough period in my life.

Finally, I found permanent work in a high-tech environment where they used lasers to cut micro components used in the electronic industry. This was a very interesting position and I enjoyed working there. During that time, I also met my future wife and have been happily married for over thirty years now. We met after childbearing years, but she blessed me with two stepdaughters and two stepsons. I love them as much as my biological sons.

Around thirteen years later it was time to retire. That was seventeen years ago. Since my parents both passed away in their mid-seventies, I thought I would follow the legacy. I have passed this legacy by over five years, and I predict I will have many more years now since I experienced a near death experience around six months ago and survived. The doctors and lab tests all say there appears to be no long-term damage and the chances look good for many more years.

For many years I have been 2tts. After my near-death experience I feel that there is a purpose for this opportunity. Now I am Tom T 2.0. It has been close to eight months since the near-death experience, and I am still searching for the reason. Maybe this site is the opportunity I am looking for.

In conclusion, life has been good. I do not regret any part of my life, even the tough times. In the good times and the bad times, I always think, what did I learn from this experience and how will it make me be a better person?

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Veterans Day.

Audio Podcast 3 minutes.

Celebrated this year on Tuesday, November 11, this holiday honors the significant contributions and sacrifices made by veterans. It is a full holiday for federal offices, banks, and many businesses, resulting in closures that allow individuals to reflect on the importance of service and sacrifice. On this day, no mail delivery occurs, providing a moment of pause for the nation to appreciate the freedoms we enjoy, and various events may be held throughout communities to commemorate and celebrate the bravery of those who have served in the armed forces.

Originally called Armistice Day, proclaimed in 1919 by President Woodrow Wilson to mark the end of World War I on the 11th hour of the 11th day of the 11th month, this significant day was intended to honor the bravery and sacrifices of those who fought in this monumental conflict. Over the years, as the nation recognized the myriad contributions of all its military veterans, it became clear that a broader celebration was necessary to reflect the valor demonstrated throughout various conflicts. This led to its renaming to Veterans Day in 1954 by President Dwight D. Eisenhower, aimed at honoring veterans of all wars, allowing Americans to pay tribute not only to those who served in World War I but also to honor the service and sacrifices of past and current military personnel from every branch of the armed forces. This day serves as a poignant reminder of the cost of freedom and the importance of expressing gratitude to those who have dedicated their lives to serving the nation.

Veterans Day honors all veterans who have served in the military, recognizing their sacrifices and commitment to defending our freedoms; in contrast, Memorial Day, celebrated on the last Monday in May, specifically honors those brave men and women who gave their lives in service to our country, remembering their ultimate sacrifice and the impact they made on our nation’s history, as families and communities gather to pay their respects and express gratitude for the freedoms we enjoy today.

Thank a veteran personally. Being a veteran, I know how much a personal interaction means, as it fosters a sense of connection and appreciation that can sometimes feel absent in the hustle and bustle of everyday life. Taking the time to express gratitude through a simple thank-you or engaging in a heartfelt conversation can have a profound impact. It not only honors their sacrifices but also reinforces their sense of belonging to a community that values their service. Your acknowledgment can uplift their spirits and show them that their contributions are recognized and valued.

Fly the U.S. flag proudly, representing the values and ideals that our nation stands for. It serves as a symbol of the sacrifices made by countless individuals who fought for our freedom and democracy. Whether displayed at homes, schools, or public buildings, the flag reminds us of our responsibility to uphold the principles of liberty and justice for all, uniting us in our shared identity as Americans.

Why Fridays Feel So Special

Audio Podcast 3 minutes

Fridays have a special charm. They mark not just the end of the workweek, but the start of new possibilities. There’s a buzz of excitement in the air as people feel relieved and eager for the weekend. With each passing hour, the mood lifts, as thoughts turn to weekend plans, hanging out with friends, or enjoying some relaxation. This change in energy fosters connections, with shared smiles among strangers and renewed teamwork among coworkers, all ready to embrace the joy the weekend brings. Ultimately, Fridays offer a reminder of hope and the chance to unwind and discover what truly makes us happy.

From the moment we wake up, Friday feels special. The coffee tastes better, filling the air with warmth, while the commute seems easier, as if the world is inviting us to celebrate the weekend. Even the inbox feels less stressful, as we look forward to a break from work. Why? Because Friday represents freedom. It’s a promise of rest, fun, connection, and creativity—a reminder that the week’s stresses are fading away. Plans start to take shape as we think of friends and family, and every conversation shines with excitement for what’s to come. Whether it’s a cozy night in or an impromptu outing, Friday opens the door to new possibilities, allowing our dreams and aspirations to grow.

Friday allows us to relax and get excited for the weekend. It’s a day when we start thinking about our plans, whether that’s taking spontaneous road trips, enjoying cozy movie nights, or simply sleeping in to catch up on rest. As 5 PM approaches, we dream of the adventures ahead, the fun times with friends at happy hour, or the peaceful moments with a good book. It’s a chance to unwind and appreciate the simple pleasures of Fridays, reminding us of the work-life balance we seek.

Fridays remind us that life is not only about work but also about finding balance. They prompt us to reflect on our week, appreciate our progress, and look ahead with hope. It’s a chance to celebrate small achievements, nurture relationships, reconnect with ourselves, practice self-care, and recharge for upcoming challenges with renewed energy and enthusiasm.

Even if the week was tough, Friday offers a reset. It’s proof that time moves forward, and so do we.

Fridays are not just any day—they’re like the grand finale of a week-long soap opera where the coffee is finally strong enough to fry an egg! They come waving a flag that reads, “Joy is just around the corner, folks!” As we throw our calendars in the air, excitement bubbles like a shaken soda can, transforming the mundane into a party. It’s the day where we bench-press our plans and share a feast of laughs over questionable takeout or wild adventures that may or may not involve getting lost. So here’s to the glorious chaos of Fridays: a day that turns our ‘meh’ into ‘heck yeah,’ reminding us to embrace life with open arms, celebrate every tiny win like we just discovered a new pizza topping, and create legendary memories that we’ll forget by Monday!

The Night Airwaves Changed Forever

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November 3, 1956. 7:30 p.m. Eastern Time. A smooth, velvet voice glides through millions of living rooms across America. A Black man in a sharp suit, seated at a grand piano, smiles into the camera and says, “Good evening, ladies and gentlemen. Welcome to The Nat King Cole Show.”

For fifteen minutes every week, the world paused. It wasn’t just a variety show. It was a revolution in prime time. A Voice That Crossed Color Lines. By 1956, Nat King Cole was already a household name. His 1940s hits “Straighten Up and Fly Right”,” The Christmas Song”, “Mona Lisa” had sold millions. He was the first African American artist to top the Billboard charts. His voice was in jukeboxes, on radios, in living rooms from Harlem to Hollywood. But television? That was white space. No Black performer had ever hosted a national network TV series. The closest had been guest spots brief, polite, and always on someone else’s show.

Then came NBC. The Show That Shouldn’t Have Worked. The Nat King Cole Show was simple: Nat at the piano. Guest stars. A small orchestra. No laugh track. No gimmicks. Just music. Just class. The guests were legendary: Ella Fitzgerald trading scat lines with Nat Tony Bennett and Pearl Bailey, Harry Belafonte. Even Frank Sinatra dropped by. White stars, black stars together, on equal footing. And America watched. The Ratings Were Great. The Sponsors Were Not. Here’s the cruel twist. The show was a hit. Critics loved it. Viewers tuned in. But no national sponsor would touch it. Ad agencies feared backlash from Southern affiliates. One executive reportedly said: “We can’t sell toothpaste with a Negro on the screen.” Local sponsors in the North supported it. But without national backing, NBC couldn’t afford to keep it. The End Came Quietly After 64 episodes, Nat King Cole canceled his own show on July 27, 1957. He didn’t rage. He didn’t protest. He just said: “Madison Avenue is afraid of the dark.” That line became legend.

 A Door Cracked Open the Nat King Cole Show lasted only nine months. But it broke the seal. Within a decade: Diahann Carroll starred in Julia (1968) first Black woman in a lead TV role. Bill Cosby co-starred in I Spy (1965) — first Black actor in a dramatic lead. Flip Wilson got his own variety show (1970) and it topped the ratings. None of that would have happened without Nat.  

The Man Behind the Milestone Nat King Cole wasn’t an activist. He didn’t march. He didn’t shout. He just showed up. Sang beautifully. Smiled warmly. And let excellence do the talking. In 1956, that was radical. Today Clips survive on YouTube. Search: Nat King Cole Show 1956” You’ll see him sing “When I Fall in Love” with a smile that could melt ice. You’ll see Ella and Nat riff like old friends. You’ll see America before it was ready.  Legacy in One Line. He didn’t demand a seat at the table. He built the table. And then he sang at it. November 3, 1956, wasn’t just a premiere. It was a declaration. And now, the music still plays. Listen to “Unforgettable” tonight. Thank Nat King Cole. He opened the door and left it wide open.

Contrary to what some say, this country has come a long way in racial acceptance, showcasing significant progress in various aspects of society, including education, employment opportunities, and representation in politics. Over recent decades, we have witnessed a growing acknowledgment of diversity as a strength, leading to more inclusive policies and initiatives that promote understanding among different cultural groups. This evolution reflects a collective effort to confront and dismantle systemic racism, encouraging dialogue and fostering community engagements that embrace the rich variety of backgrounds that define our nation. Despite ongoing challenges, these strides toward acceptance signal a hopeful journey toward unity and equality for all.

One of my favorite songs is “Unforgettable” with Nat and Natalie. They made a terrific song into a priceless rendition. Click for the song

Tale of Two Strangers

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In a dusty Eastern Colorado town, 70-year-old retiree Lulu runs a struggling diner, her days filled with greasy plates and lonelier nights since her husband passed, leaving an emptiness that seems to seep into the very walls around her. Each morning, she wakes before dawn, the familiar hum of the coffee maker breaking the silence of an empty house, a sound that has become a comfort and a ritual, grounding her in a world that feels increasingly alien. After brewing a pot of strong coffee, she heads to the diner where the walls echo with memories of happier times, laughter, and bustling customers, now replaced with the grim reality of only a few loyal patrons who come to escape their lives as much as she does. Across the street, 19-year-old Juan, a graffiti artist with a rap sheet, tags abandoned walls, dodging cops and his own dead-end future, caught in a cycle of choices that often lead him deeper into trouble. He is always searching for a way to express the turmoil within him, the feelings of alienation and frustration that swirl in his soul, causing him to lash out through his art. His nights are spent weaving through the shadows, paint cans in hand, as he transforms the dull grey of the urban landscape with bursts of color and emotion, each stroke telling a story of his struggles and dreams. Their paths cross one fateful afternoon when Lulu unexpectedly catches Diego spray-painting her diner’s back alley, his hands moving deftly as he creates a vibrant mural, brimming with life and energy. Instead of calling the police, she offers him a burger, seeing hunger in his eyes beyond the defiance, recognizing a desperation that mirrors her own loneliness. In that brief encounter, she offers him a fleeting moment of connection amid their contrasting lives, a shared understanding that transcends the barriers of age and experience, revealing the fragile threads that connect them in a world that often feels isolating.

/Juan, wary but broke, accepts the unexpected invitation, and they talk—first about nothing, then about everything that matters. Lulu shares vivid stories of her diner’s glory days, reminiscing about the bustling atmosphere and the laughter that filled the air; Juan, drawn in by her enthusiasm, admits he paints to feel alive, a passion that he’s always kept hidden. She sees his undeniable talent; he sees her fierce grit, a contrast that intrigues him. Soon, Juan’s sneaking in after hours to paint a magnificent mural on the diner’s wall—a vibrant prairie scene alive with color that attracts curious crowds from all over town. Lulu teaches him to cook, showing him the delicate art of flipping pancakes and seasoning dishes just right, and in return, he teaches her to laugh again, their banter becoming light and effortless, infused with warmth. Locals whisper about the odd pair, a painter and a diner owner, but the diner’s buzzing with newfound life, and so are they, their connection deepening with each shared moment and stolen glance, weaving a tapestry of hope and healing amidst the backdrop of grease and paint.

When developers threaten to buy Lulu’s land, Juan inspires the town with his art, transforming the diner into a vibrant cause that brings everyone together. They unite enthusiastically, not just for the diner but for the cherished home they’ve built together, a sanctuary filled with laughter, stories, and unforgettable moments. As the townsfolk come together, they create stunning banners and murals, all bursting with color and passion, beautifully reflecting their shared history and joyful memories. In the end, it’s not merely about winning—it’s about the beautiful family they’ve formed in each other, two misfits who turned a rundown joint into a masterpiece, a beacon of resilience and hope, proving that love and community can triumph over corporate greed.

October 11 and Christopher Columbus

October 11 sometimes coincides with Columbus Day, a U.S. federal holiday marking Christopher Columbus’s arrival in the Americas in 1492. Although his landing is traditionally dated October 12, the holiday is observed on the second Monday of October, which occasionally falls on the 11th or days around it, like this year is the 13th.

Columbus Day started as a way to celebrate exploration and discovery, but its significance has changed over time. In the 19th century, Italian American communities introduced the holiday to honor their heritage and combat xenophobia, leading to its federal recognition in 1937. Columbus, an Italian navigator under the Spanish flag, arrived in the Bahamas, marking the start of European colonization in the Americas.

October 11 also encourages reflection, as many in recent years have questioned Columbus’s legacy and highlighted the effects of colonization on Indigenous peoples. This has brought about the emergence of Indigenous Peoples’ Day, celebrated in various states and cities as an alternative or addition to Columbus Day.

The Day Columbus discovered America, it marked not only the beginning of the history of America over 500 years ago, but also a pivotal moment that would forever change the course of global exploration and settlement. This discovery initiated a complex tapestry of cultural exchanges, conflicts, and alliances, laying the groundwork for what would eventually become a diverse nation. Since that monumental beginning, this country has come a long way, evolving through trials and tribulations, from the establishment of colonies and the struggle for independence to the growth of a powerful democracy that champions freedom and innovation.

The Quiet Power of Friendship

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Friendship isn’t always loud. Sometimes, it’s a quiet presence—a text that says, “thinking of you,” a shared laugh over something silly, or just sitting together in comfortable silence.

True friends are the ones who see you at your worst and still choose to stay. They celebrate your wins like they’re their own and remind you of your worth when you forget. They’re the people who make ordinary days feel special, just by being in them.

It’s easy to take friendship for granted in the rush of life. But when we pause and reflect, we realize how deeply these connections shape us. They teach us empathy, resilience, and joy. They remind us of we’re not alone.

So today, reach out to a friend. Send a message. Share a memory. Say thank you.

Because in a world that often feels chaotic, friendship is a steady light. It’s the laughter that echoes long after the joke. The hug that lingers. The comfort of knowing someone’s got your back.

And that’s something worth celebrating.

The biggest regret I have in my life is I did not continue friendship as my life continued. I lost track of school friends, army friends, work friends and family. Once an era of my life was over, I moved on without making any attempt to continue the friendships I earned. I wish I would have valued the friendships more than I did and made an attempt to keep in touch with them.

If you are young, do not make the same mistake I made.

A Long, Long Time Ago

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After church services during fellowship, somehow the subject of stuffed green peppers came up, igniting a lively conversation among our table of eight. This stirred my memory, prompting me to share a recollection from my army time. As I reminisced about those military times, it dawned on me, “I could write a blog about the subject,”


Here is my tale.

It is March 1964. I was recently drafted into the army, and I was in basic training, a whirlwind experience that was both daunting and transformative. I was only there maybe four or five days after I reported to basic, yet it felt like an eternity under the pressure of military life. For a supper meal, they served stuffed green peppers, a dish that would become a symbol of my early days in training. I remember maybe one or two hundred recruits in the basic training company, and everything was rush, rush and do it faster, as if time was a luxury we could not afford. The sergeants barked out commands, and we scrambled to obey, our minds racing to keep up. Also, much of the kitchen duties were done by the recruits that were assigned to KP duty that day, slicing vegetables, peeling potatoes, and washing dishes, trying to maintain a semblance of order amid the chaos.

There were six of us sitting at the table, our plates filled high with the fare provided for our supper, and we were gobbling down our meals in a frenzied race against time because we only had a short period to eat before they would inevitably yell, “Time’s Up!” The recruit next to me was shoveling food into his mouth with reckless abandon, his eyes darting around as if he were trying to savor each bite while also keeping an ear open for the dreaded announcement. Suddenly, he paused mid-chew, his face shifting from one of ravenous delight to horror as he pulled something unwelcome from his mouth, revealing a shocking revelation—a Band-Aid! It was a disturbing sight indeed, as it became clear that one of our fellow recruits from the KP area had been absent-mindedly stuffing green peppers, causing the Band-Aid covering a cut to become dislodged and somehow find its way into our meal. The moment quickly turned from one of unity in our shared dining experience to utter disbelief as the recruits sitting at the table not only saw but heard the revelation, prompting an instinctual response to get up and leave the mess hall in a hurried retreat. What a way to spoil an appetite! My mind raced with questions, wondering, “What am I getting into?” as I looked around at my companions, each of us contemplating the rather unpalatable reality of our situation and what more surprises awaited us in this new chapter of our lives.

One can just speculate that the KP recruit didn’t even realize that the band-aid slipped off his finger, or he knew about it and was afraid to say anything because he didn’t want to experience another shouting conversation with the drill sergeant, which was common in those days, especially during the rigorous training sessions where discipline was paramount. These shouting matches were not unusual; they served as reminders to the recruits of the high expectations placed upon them, often creating an atmosphere thick with tension and anxiety. Or another possibility is that he reported it, and they yelled and screamed at him and didn’t do anything about it, leaving him feeling even more powerless in a situation that already felt overwhelming. It is hard for me to imagine that they would toss out food for one to two hundred troops and start over just because of a missing band-aid, considering the logistical challenges involved in preparing meals for such a large group, coupled with the sheer amount of effort that went into food preparation. In a military environment where resourcefulness and efficiency are crucial, such an action would seem extravagant and illogical. The actual story will be never known, leaving us to ponder the multitude of factors that might have influenced the response to such a seemingly minor incident, yet one that could highlight deeper issues within the structure of military life.

I have other tales to share during my time in the military and someday share other stories that one does not hear often.

Fall: Transitioning into Cozy Days

Today is the first day of fall. The ninety-degree days are over, and with the arrival of this new season, we can finally embrace the cool, crisp air that fills our lungs. Cooler days and nights are ahead, providing the perfect backdrop for cozy sweaters and warm drinks. The leaves are starting to change to their golden color, painting landscapes in hues of orange, red, and yellow, and gracefully falling to the ground like nature’s confetti. As we walk beneath the trees, we might hear the satisfying crunch of leaves underfoot. It’s time to start thinking about the season’s preparations, including the moments when the furnace will go on to take away the morning chill in the home, wrapping us in warmth as we enjoy the comforting aroma of pumpkin spice and freshly baked pies wafting through the air.

The word “fall” derives from Old English “feallan,” meaning to fall, and it specifically refers to the beautiful and colorful phenomenon of falling leaves, which marks the transition from summer to winter. This term is preferred in American English over the more traditional “autumn,” which stems from the Latin word “augustus.” The choice of “fall” not only encapsulates the essence of the season but also highlights the picturesque scenery of trees shedding their foliage, creating a vibrant tapestry of colors on the ground. This season is often associated with harvest celebrations, cooler temperatures, and a sense of change, making it a time for reflection and preparation for the upcoming winter months.

Fall allergies spike due to ragweed pollen, affecting ~23 million Americans annually.
As the leaves begin to change color and the air turns crisp, countless individuals experience the relentless onslaught of allergy symptoms. My eyes have the traditional itch and redness, which often leads to a frustrating cycle of rubbing and swelling that makes it difficult to focus on daily activities. In addition to these uncomfortable symptoms, the sneezing, runny nose, and overall fatigue that accompany fall allergies can diminish one’s quality of life, making autumn feel less like a season of beauty and more like a season of struggle.

It’s the second most popular wedding season globally, after summer, with countless couples choosing this time to tie the knot due to the beautiful fall foliage and moderate weather. This enchanting season not only provides a picturesque backdrop for outdoor ceremonies but also offers a rich palette of colors that inspire everything from floral arrangements to wedding attire. As autumn ushers in cozy atmospheres and seasonal celebrations, many couples see it as the perfect opportunity to share their love in a unique and heartfelt way.

Time marches on, and in three months, we will be talking about the next season of the year, winter. As the days grow shorter and the crispness of the air becomes more pronounced, we can already feel the anticipation building for the beauty that winter brings. The first snowfall will blanket the earth in a serene white, transforming familiar landscapes into a magical wonderland. Families will gather around warm fires, sharing stories and laughter, while festive decorations will begin to adorn homes, creating a sense of warmth and joy during the cold months ahead.

My wife’s fall visitors.

Have a nice fall day.

Never Forget September 11, 2001

Four commercial airplanes were hijacked by 19 terrorists. Two planes, American Airlines Flight 11 and United Airlines Flight 175, crashed into the North and South Towers of the World Trade Center in New York City, respectively. The South Tower collapsed at 9:59 AM, and the North Tower at 10:28 AM.

American Airlines Flight 77 crashed into the Pentagon in Arlington, Virginia, at 9:37 AM, causing partial structural damage.

United Airlines Flight 93 crashed into a field near Shanksville, Pennsylvania, at 10:03 AM after passengers and crew attempted to regain control from the hijackers. It is believed the target was either the U.S. Capitol or the White House.

Nearly 3,000 people were killed, including 2,753 at the World Trade Center, 184 at the Pentagon, and 40 on Flight 93. Victims included civilians, first responders, and military personnel. Thousands more were injured.

This was a major event in the history of the United States and must never be forgotten, as it significantly shaped the nation’s identity and future trajectory. The repercussions of this event resonated deeply within society, influencing political landscapes and cultural dynamics for generations to come. It serves as a reminder of the struggles faced by those who fought for justice and equality, highlighting the importance of collective memory in preserving the lessons learned through hardship and triumph. Understanding this pivotal moment encourages reflection on the ongoing journey toward unity and progress in our society.

Labor Day September 1st, 2025

Typically, Labor Day marks the unofficial end of summer, with people celebrating through parades, barbecues, and community events. Many businesses close, and it’s a major retail weekend with significant sales, rivaling Black Friday in some sectors. In 2025, expect widespread store discounts, especially on clothing, electronics, and home goods, with online and in-store deals starting as early as mid-August. Government offices, schools, and non-essential services like post offices and banks usually close, though some states may have partial operations.  

Labor Day in the United States is a federal holiday celebrated on the first Monday in September, which in 2025 will fall on September 1. It honors the contributions of workers to the nation’s economy and social fabric. Established in the late 19th century during the labor movement, it was first recognized as a federal holiday in 1894 under President Grover Cleveland, following significant labor strikes, notably the Pullman Strike. The holiday emerged as a way to acknowledge workers’ rights and the growing influence of labor unions.

Today, the holiday is more about leisure than activism, with 160 million Americans likely to travel or enjoy festivities. States like California and New York hold big parades, while others focus on local events or rallies for workers’ rights. What do you have planned for today?

Reflecting on 500 Posts

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This is my 500th post on WordPress. I do not know whether that number is a major accomplishment or not, but it certainly feels significant to me. It is exciting to reflect on this journey and all the experiences I’ve gained along the way. Ten years ago, I never imagined that I would have 500 posts published, each one capturing moment of inspiration, learning, and growth. Every word I’ve shared has been a piece of my story, creating a tapestry of thoughts that I’ve woven together over the years. The challenges I faced and the triumphs I’ve celebrated through this platform have shaped not just my writing skills, but my understanding of myself and the world around me.

I have had this site since 2009, a 16 year-long journey that has seen significant changes and growth. I started this site after the local newspaper, Rocky Mountain News, shuttered their doors, leaving a void in the community for local voices to be heard. In 2002, I began blogging on their website, yourhub.com, where I found a platform to share my thoughts and experiences with others. However, when their blog site became unusable, I sought out new opportunities and enrolled in WordPress, which has provided me with the versatility and reach I needed to continue my passion for writing. After my near-death experience in February 2023, I gained a renewed perspective on life, and this profound event has driven me to become even more active in blogging here, sharing not just my experiences, but also inspiration and insights for others who may be navigating their own challenges.

This has been an exciting experience for me, and I hope I will be able to continue this adventure for many more years.

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The First Cup: A Morning Ritual

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July 31, 2025, this morning started, like most, with the gentle sound of my coffee maker, my reliable friend in the quiet. Outside, the world was slowly waking up, with the sky showing soft peach and gray hues, but in my kitchen, the day had already begun with the promise of that first cup. There’s something special about it—a simple ritual that feels important.

I added the coffee grounds, to the filter. The smell filled the air even before brewing began, waking up my senses. As the machine made noise, I leaned on the counter, still half-asleep, feeling the excitement build. That first sip? It’s more than coffee. It’s a comforting moment, a warm hug in a mug, steadying me before the day begins.

Today, the coffee was perfect—not too bitter, not too weak. I took it black, savoring the way it coated my tongue with a subtle, earthy warmth. I stood by the window, mug in hand, watching a neighbor walk their dog. The world felt small and manageable in that moment, as if the steam rising from my cup carried away any lingering grogginess or doubt.

Social media buzzed with the usual mix of news and memes, but I barely glanced at my phone. The coffee demanded my full attention, a rare moment of mindfulness in a world that’s always shouting. I thought about how this simple act—brewing, pouring, sipping—connects me to millions of others who start their day the same way. It’s a universal language, a shared heartbeat of mornings everywhere.

The defining moment today was the quiet. No emails, no notifications, just me and the mug. I noticed the faint ring of coffee stains inside it, a testament to countless mornings before this one. It felt like a badge of consistency, proof that some things stay steady even as the world shifts.

As I drained the last drop, I felt ready—not just awake, but ready. The first cup isn’t just fuel; it’s a signal that I’m here, present, and capable of taking on whatever July 31, 2025, has in store. Tomorrow, I’ll do it again, chasing that same fleeting magic. Maybe I’ll try a new blend or add a splash of cream, but the ritual will hold steady—a small anchor in the ebb and flow of life. *

What’s your morning ritual? Does coffee start your day, or is there another moment that sets the tone?

Time and Civilization Beyond Earth

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I have many hours of thinking about many things, often losing track of time as my mind wanders through endless possibilities and questions. I forget when this thought first came to me, but it has lingered like a whisper in the back of my mind, urging me to explore its depths. I thought, “In this gigantic universe, with its countless stars and swirling galaxies, there might be an advanced civilization existing somewhere among the vastness, capable of feats beyond our imagination. Earth, in all its beauty and complexity, is just a tiny speck in this gigantic universe, a fragile oasis in a world that may be teeming with life, intelligence, and cultures we’ve yet to comprehend.” The enormity of this idea fills me with both awe and a sense of wonder, making me think about the nature of existence and our place within such an unfathomable expanse.

What if time on this earth is just penance or punishment from this advanced civilization for doing something that has long been a topic of discussion in their sophisticated circles? Perhaps the notion of mortality is simply a veil placed over individuals who have transgressed deeply ingrained laws. “You are sentenced to 85 years on planet earth for disobeying regulations against the civilization of Eternity,” might echo through the minds of those who question their existence, a haunting reminder of a destiny shaped by the decisions of a society much more advanced than our own. In a realm where time is seen as both a gift and a curse, could it be that our very lives are crafted experiences, meticulously designed to elicit growth and understanding? Instead of mere punishment, is it possible that this designed life serves as a transformative journey, compelling us to confront our faults and aspire to enlightenment, ultimately striving to earn our way back to that higher civilization?

One must admit that this planet is not a friendly place. There is bad weather, disease, and illness that seem to plague various regions, impacting lives and livelihoods. Since the beginning of time, humans have been at war with each other, leading to suffering and loss that echo through generations. It appears that war and death are embedded deep within our DNA, almost as if they are integral parts of the human experience. Hatred and anger permeate societies and cultures around the globe, reflecting a profound discord among people. This pervasive animosity is often spurred by various factors, including but not limited to, religious differences, racial tensions, economic disparities, and a multitude of other reasons that foster division and hate. In a world where empathy and understanding often take a backseat, it becomes increasingly challenging to envision a future where peace prevails over conflict.

I think many times about time on this earth. I was born and raised in a Christian environment and still practice this faith, which has been a cornerstone of my identity. This upbringing instilled in me the belief that the teachings of my faith hold all the answers and provide a solid reason for our existence and the very concept of time on this earth. However, as I delve deeper into the complexities of life and observe the diverse perspectives around me, I find that these answers often feel insufficient. Despite the comfort that my faith provides, I am left with lingering questions that echo in my mind, and I am still left wondering about the true nature of time here—its purpose and how it intertwines with our lives, our choices, and our destinies.

Will I ever find or feel comfortable with the facts before I report to the civilization of Eternity? I kind of doubt it, as the unknown seems to shroud my existence like a thick fog that never lifts. The time of not knowing is just part of the time on earth, a mundane phase I must navigate amidst the chaos of life. Each unanswered question lingers in my mind, creating a tapestry of uncertainty that weaves itself into my daily routine. Perhaps this discomfort is a necessary precursor to a deeper understanding of the universe and my place within it, a reminder that not all truths are meant to be grasped readily. As I ponder these thoughts, I realize that the search for clarity may be as essential as the clarity itself, shaping my journey in ways I have yet to comprehend.

Independence Day

Independence Day: Celebrating the Fourth of July** Every July 4th, Americans celebrate Independence Day, a federal holiday that marks the adoption of the Declaration of Independence in 1776. This important document, mainly written by Thomas Jefferson, declared the 13 American colonies’ break from British rule, establishing the United States as an independent nation. The Fourth of July is a lively celebration of freedom, unity, and national pride.

The holiday is marked by festive traditions. Fireworks light up the night sky, representing the “bombs bursting in air” from the national anthem, “The Star-Spangled Banner.” Communities across the country host parades with marching bands, floats, and patriotic displays. Backyard barbecues and picnics bring families and friends together with classic American food like burgers, hot dogs, and apple pie. Red, white, and blue decorations decorate homes, streets, and public places, showing the nation’s colors.

Independence Day also invites reflection on the values of liberty and equality enshrined in the Declaration. While the holiday celebrates the birth of a nation, it’s essential to recognize that it is also a moment to honor the sacrifices of those who fought for freedom, justice, and the rights we often take for granted. This includes the brave men and women who sacrificed their lives on the battlefield and those who used their voices and actions to advocate for equality and human rights. As we gather with friends and family to enjoy the festivities, let us not only partake in the celebrations but also take time to consider the ongoing journey toward a more inclusive society where every individual, regardless of their background, can experience the true meaning of freedom. All Americans should remember this day, reflect on the lessons of our past, and acknowledge the freedoms and privileges we enjoy from this great country, striving to ensure that future generations inherit a nation that continues to uphold and expand these cherished ideals for all.

Rita’s Bold Leap

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The air in the office was thick with the hum of fluorescent lights and the clatter of keyboards, creating a constant backdrop of activity that felt almost oppressive. Rita, perched at her desk like a weary soldier, stared at the spreadsheet that had haunted her for weeks, its cells filled with figures that felt more like chains than data. Numbers blurred into meaningless shapes, each cell a tiny cage of expectation that whispered unrelenting demands for perfection. She’d been at RCA for five years, gradually climbing from intern to analyst, but the relentless grind had worn her down, leaving her feeling as if she were merely a cog in a vast machine. Deadlines loomed like dark clouds, emails flooded her inbox like an unstoppable tide, and meetings that could’ve easily been memos disrupted her already fragmented concentration—it was a treadmill set to sprint, draining her energy and enthusiasm with every frantic step.

“You know what? I quit,” she said, her voice cutting through the cubicle’s quiet like a knife. Her coworker, Ray, froze mid-sip of his coffee, eyes wide as if he had just seen a ghost. The words weren’t planned; they just spilled out, raw and final, escaping from a place of pent-up frustration and resolve. The dim fluorescent lights flickered overhead, casting a harsh glow on the stack of papers on her desk, the evidence of countless late nights and unrecognized efforts. She could feel the weight of her decision hanging in the air, a mix of fear and exhilaration surging through her veins as she took a deep breath, knowing that she was finally choosing her own path.

“Rita, what?” Ray whispered, glancing around as if expecting a manager to swoop in at any moment, ready to question their every move. But Rita was already standing, her chair scraping against the linoleum with an unsettling screech that caught the attention of a few nearby colleagues. She grabbed her mug—World’s Okayest Analyst—proudly displaying her modesty in a place filled with corporate bravado, and her worn-out tote bag that had seen better days, a testament to countless coffee runs and late nights spent poring over data. As she dashed out of the room, she abruptly left the spreadsheet unsaved behind, the data lingering on the screen like an unfinished thought, a reminder of the work that still lay ahead in the chaotic world of analytics.

The elevator ride down felt like shedding a skin. Each floor that passed was a layer of stress peeling away, liberating her from the suffocating weight of her daily grind. She thought of the late nights spent hunched over her laptop, the weekends lost to “urgent” reports that were often nothing more than busywork, and the boss who’d once said, “You’re lucky to have this job.” Lucky? No. Trapped. Trapped in a cycle of endless deadlines, hollow praise, and a relentless pursuit of perfection that left her drained. As she descended, she visualized each task she was leaving behind—a mountain of expectations, the constant hum of office chatter, and the air thick with unspoken tension. With each passing floor, the lightness of freedom grew, igniting a spark of hope that perhaps, just perhaps, there was a life waiting for her beyond these walls.

Outside, the city buzzed with life, a vibrant tapestry of sounds and sights weaving together in a chaotic yet harmonious dance. Rita walked with purpose, no destination in mind, her sneakers pounding the pavement with a rhythmic beat that matched her racing heart. The sun hung high in the sky, casting playful shadows on the bustling streets as she passed a street musician strumming a guitar, the notes bright and free, floating through the air like a gentle breeze. The melodies seemed to wrap around her, inviting her to pause and immerse herself in the moment. She tossed a crumpled five into his case, and he winked, his eyes glinting with a shared understanding of spontaneity. “Live a little, yeah?” he called, his voice carrying over the city’s din. She couldn’t help but laugh, the sound foreign yet welcome, as it mingled with the laughter of children playing nearby and the chatter of passersby, each one contributing to the urban symphony that surrounded her. Feeling a spark of joy, she continued on her journey, a slight bounce in her step as the city unfolded before her like a vibrant story waiting to be told.

Her phone buzzed—Ray, texting: You serious? What’s the plan? She didn’t reply. For once, there was no plan, no checklist to adhere to, just a sense of freedom she hadn’t experienced in a long time. She wandered into a park, where kids chased pigeons, their laughter ringing through the air, and an old man fed ducks, his joy infectious. The sun filtered through the leaves, casting a warm glow on the vibrant greens of the grass. Sitting on a bench, she pulled out a notebook she hadn’t touched in years, its pages filled with half-sketched dreams: a bakery on a bustling street corner, a novel waiting to be written that danced in her imagination, a trip to Iceland to witness the northern lights. Rita had buried those aspirations under piles of memos and KPIs, conforming to the grind of daily responsibilities that had dulled her spirit. But now, with the weight of expectations lifted, she felt a spark of inspiration ignite within her, urging her to reclaim those forgotten dreams and explore the possibilities that lay ahead.

The sun dipped low, painting the sky in reckless pinks and oranges. Rita scribbled: What if I opened that bakery? The idea felt absurd, then thrilling. She’d always loved baking—sourdough at 2 a.m., cupcakes for coworkers’ birthdays, and the occasional batch of cookies that she’d surprise her neighbors with, leaving them in their mailboxes with a little note: “Enjoy!” Why not? She had savings, enough to start small. A food truck, maybe, with a vibrant paint job and the tantalizing smell of fresh pastries wafting through the air. No corporate nonsense, just flour and sugar and her hands transforming simple ingredients into warm, delightful treats. The thought of sharing her creations with others sent a rush of excitement through her. What if she hosted pop-up events at local markets? The image of happy customers savoring her pies sparked a dream that felt just within reach.

Her phone buzzed again—her boss, probably furious, as usual. She silenced it, dismissing the relentless grip of her former life. For the first time in years, Rita felt light, like she could breathe without a deadline choking her. The oppressive weight of expectations had begun to lift, replaced by a sense of exhilarating freedom that filled her heart with hope. Quitting wasn’t just leaving a job; it was reclaiming herself and rediscovering passions long forgotten amidst the chaos of corporate life. The future was uncertain, a blank page, but that was the point. She’d write it herself, penning the story of her own adventures, crafting a narrative infused with joy, exploration, and the thrill of new beginnings. With each step forward, she felt more connected to her true self, ready to embrace whatever came next.

As dusk settled, Rita stood, her notebook clutched tight against her chest, a sanctuary for her swirling thoughts. The musician’s tune lingered in her head, its melodic notes weaving dreams of creativity and warmth through her mind. Tomorrow, she’d bake her first loaf, a decision that filled her with both excitement and trepidation, just to see how it felt and if she could capture the essence of home in its golden crust. “Live a little,” she murmured softly to herself, reminding her inner self of the importance of embracing new experiences, and with a renewed sense of purpose, she headed home, her steps sure and steadfast, each footfall echoing her determination to embrace change.

For the first time in many years, Rita felt free, as if a heavy weight had been lifted from her shoulders, allowing her to breathe deeply and joyfully embrace the vibrant world around her with open arms. The sunlight streamed through the leaves, casting cheerful shadows on the ground, while the gentle breeze whispered promises of exciting new beginnings.

Ten years later Rita had a successful bakery and more money than when she said, “I QUIT!”

National Flip Flop Day June 20th

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National Flip Flop Day is celebrated annually in the United States to embrace the carefree spirit of summer and the iconic footwear known as flip-flops. Originally observed on the third Friday in June, the date was changed in 2023 to the Wednesday after Memorial Day to better align with the onset of warmer weather and the bustling activities of the summer season. This shift reflects a growing awareness of consumer habits, as many individuals eagerly anticipate the warmer days of summer, looking forward to beach outings, barbecues, and leisurely strolls. The date for 2025 was set for Wednesday, May 28, as it falls on the Wednesday after Memorial Day, following the updated schedule established by Tropical Smoothie Cafe in 2023 that encourages everyone to celebrate the joys of summer. The day serves not only as a reminder to don your favorite flip-flops but also as an occasion to gather with friends and family, sharing laughter and creating lasting memories. The AI I used did not know about the update, highlighting the fact that technology, while incredibly advanced, is not infallible and is continually evolving to keep up with the changes in our world.

Founded in 2007 by Tropical Smoothie Cafe to mark their 10th anniversary, celebrate summer, and show appreciation for their customers.

The term “flip-flop” comes from the slapping sound the sandals make when walking, an onomatopoeia used in American and British English since the 1960s. Flip-flops have ancient origins, with evidence of similar footwear in Ancient Egypt around 4,000 BC, made from materials like papyrus and palm leaves. They were also worn in ancient Greece, Rome, and Mesopotamia, showcasing their enduring nature across cultures and epochs. It is interesting to note that these early variants were often adorned with decorative elements, reflecting the wearer’s status and style. The design and function of flip-flops evolved over centuries, influenced by both social changes and advancements in materials. In addition, Japanese zori sandals, traditionally crafted from rice straw and tatami mats, influenced modern flip-flops in the U.S. after World War II, as returning soldiers brought back these unique styles, leading to their widespread popularity in American beach culture. Today, flip-flops are not only a staple of casual summer wear but also a symbol of relaxed, carefree living, enjoyed by people of all ages around the world.

Wear your favorite flip-flops and share photos on social media with #NationalFlipFlopDay to celebrate this fun and relaxed occasion. Take the time to shop for new flip-flops, including eco-friendly options from reputable brands like Rainbow or Hari Mari, which prioritize sustainability and style. To really embrace the spirit of the day, consider hosting flip-flop-themed events like lively beach parties, friendly flip-flop races, or engaging craft activities using old flip-flops for art projects that can be both fun and eco-conscious. If you find yourself far from a Tropical Smoothie Cafe, you can still indulge your taste buds by making or enjoying delicious smoothies at home using fresh fruits and ingredients, allowing everyone to gather and celebrate in comfort and relaxation.

I may be late, but I enjoyed learning about Flip Flop Day.

Celebrate National Splurge Today

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National Splurge Day, celebrated annually on June 18th, encourages people to set aside their usual frugality and indulge in a little luxury, whether it’s a lavish meal, a spa day, or a significant shopping spree. Founded in 1994 by Adrienne Sioux Koopersmith, dubbed “America’s Premier Eventologist,” this holiday was created to offer a much-needed break from constant budgeting and to boost the economy through strategic spending that can stimulate local businesses. Koopersmith chose late June, post-tax season, when individuals might have extra cash on hand to treat themselves or their loved ones, creating an opportunity for joyful spending and the enjoyment of life’s pleasures. The day serves as a reminder of the importance of self-care and indulgence, inviting people to reflect on what they truly desire and encouraging a balance between saving and enjoying the fruits of one’s labor.

Splurging doesn’t mean reckless spending; it’s about enjoying something special without breaking the bank. For some, it might involve treating themselves to a fancy dinner at a celebrated restaurant, indulging in a luxurious spa day complete with massages and relaxation, or investing in a stylish pair of new shoes that complements their wardrobe. On the other hand, for others, it could simply be a small treat like adding whipped cream to a latte or purchasing a decadent dessert to savor. The day promotes mindful indulgence, encouraging experiences that create lasting memories, such as attending a lively concert, going on a weekend getaway with friends, or even participating in a fun workshop that sparks creativity. Koopersmith later shifted the holiday’s focus in 2017, urging people to splurge on helping refugees or shelter animals, reflecting a more altruistic approach that not only enhances one’s own well-being but also supports those in need, fostering a sense of community and compassion in the process. Ultimately, splurging can be a multifaceted experience that balances personal enjoyment with the joy of giving back.

Whether it’s buying a luxury item, enjoying a decadent meal, or donating to a cause, National Splurge Day is about balance—celebrating life’s pleasures while staying financially responsible. It’s a day to break away from the mundane routines and immerse yourself in experiences that bring joy and fulfillment. Share your splurge on social media with #NationalSplurgeDay to inspire others, showcasing both the small delights and the grand gestures that make life richer. So, on June 18th, take a moment to treat yourself or someone else to something special, whether it’s a lavish spa day, an exquisite piece of art, or simply a thoughtful gift. Celebrate the joy of indulgence done right, and remember that it’s the little things that can make a big impact in our lives and the lives of those around us. Embrace this day as an opportunity to reconnect with what truly matters to you, creating lasting memories that elevate your spirit and enhance your well-being.

Watergate June 17, 1972: A Cautionary Tale of Political Corruption

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The Watergate scandal, a seismic debacle that shook the very foundations of American politics, erupted in the early 1970s, culminating in the disgraceful resignation of President Richard Nixon. It laid bare a shocking tapestry of power abuses, illegal machinations, and a brazen cover-up that utterly obliterated public trust in government. What follows is a daring exploration of this political theater, its explosive moments, and the indelible scars it left on the nation’s conscience.

On June 17, 1972, five men were arrested for breaking into the Democratic National Committee (DNC) headquarters at the Watergate office complex in Washington, D.C. The burglars, equipped with wiretapping devices and cameras, were caught attempting to bug the DNC offices. They were later linked to the Committee to Re-elect the President (CRP), Nixon’s campaign organization, raising suspicions of political espionage.

The break-in was not an isolated incident but part of a broader campaign of dirty tricks orchestrated by Nixon’s aides to undermine political opponents. This insidious strategy involved a series of coordinated efforts that extended far beyond the infamous Watergate Hotel break-in. It included wiretapping not only of the rival Democratic Party but also of journalists and activists who were critical of the administration. Harassment tactics were employed against prominent figures, intimidating them into silence or compliance. Furthermore, the campaign aimed to spread false information about Democratic candidates during the 1972 presidential election, which effectively sowed discord and mistrust among the electorate. These deceptive practices were designed to manipulate public perception and tilt the election outcome in favor of Nixon, showcasing a blatant disregard for democratic principles and the integrity of the electoral process.

The burglary initially received little attention, but investigative reporting by Washington Post journalists Bob Woodward and Carl Bernstein kept the story alive. Their work, aided by a confidential source known as “Deep Throat” (later revealed to be FBI Associate Director Mark Felt), uncovered connections between the burglars and high-ranking officials in the Nixon administration.

A Senate investigation, led by the Senate Watergate Committee in 1973, further exposed the scandal. Key revelations included The existence of a secret White House taping system that recorded Nixon’s conversations. Testimony from former Nixon aide John Dean, who detailed a cover-up orchestrated by the administration. Evidence of illegal campaign contributions, slush funds, and misuse of government agencies like the FBI, CIA, and IRS to target Nixon’s enemies.

The discovery of the White House tapes became pivotal. Nixon initially refused to release them, citing executive privilege, but the Supreme Court ruled unanimously in United States v. Nixon (1974) that he must comply. The tapes revealed Nixon’s direct involvement in obstructing justice, including discussions about halting the FBI’s investigation into the break-in.

On August 8, 1974, facing certain impeachment and conviction for his role in the Watergate scandal, President Richard Nixon announced his resignation in a televised address, becoming the first U.S. president in history to step down from office under such circumstances. This unprecedented event marked a significant moment in American political history, as it raised questions about ethics and accountability in government. Following Nixon’s resignation, Vice President Gerald Ford assumed the presidency, navigating a deeply divided nation grappling with the fallout of the scandal. In a highly controversial move that polarized the public, Ford pardoned Nixon just a month later, sparing him from any criminal prosecution. This decision sparked widespread outrage and debate, as many felt that it undermined the rule of law and set a troubling precedent for future administrations, leaving a lasting impact on public trust in government institutions.

The scandal led to the indictment of 69 people, with 48 convictions, including key Nixon aides like John Mitchell, H.R. Haldeman, and John Ehrlichman. It also spurred significant reforms, such as: The Federal Election Campaign Act Amendments (1974), tightening campaign finance laws. The Freedom of Information Act amendments, strengthening government transparency. Increased oversight of intelligence agencies.

Watergate profoundly eroded public trust in government, contributing to widespread cynicism about politics. The suffix “-gate” became synonymous with political scandals. The scandal also elevated the role of investigative journalism, with Woodward and Bernstein’s work inspiring future generations of reporters.

The Watergate scandal remains a cautionary tale about the dangers of unchecked power and the importance of accountability in democracy. Its legacy endures in ongoing debates about government transparency, executive authority, and the rule of law.

There has been speculation that events that have happened in the last few years, marked by political turmoil and increasing division, will make the Watergate scandal look like child’s play. This comparison stems from a series of unfolding controversies and allegations that have captured the public’s attention and raised serious concerns about the integrity of our institutions. Only time will tell whether these events will indeed reshape our understanding of political accountability and governance, or if they will fade into the annals of history as just another chapter of discord.

Father’s Day June 15, 2025

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Father’s Day in the United States is celebrated on the third Sunday of June, which is today. It’s a day to honor fathers, grandfathers, stepfathers, and father figures for their roles in family and society. This occasion involves giving gifts, writing cards, and spending time together, allowing families to show appreciation and love. Many also take this time to think about the lessons and values taught by their fathers, acknowledging their important influence on lives and communities. Celebrations can vary, with some families enjoying big gatherings or barbecues, while others prefer a quiet day to relax and reflect.

The idea is often credited to Sonora Smart Dodd, who wanted to honor her father, a Civil War veteran who raised six children alone in a time when single parenting was rare and usually stigmatized. Inspired by the success and sentiment surrounding Mother’s Day, she passionately pushed for a similar day dedicated to celebrating fathers and their vital contributions to family and society. The first Father’s Day was celebrated on June 19, 1910, in Spokane, Washington, where Dodd organized a special church service to recognize fathers, encouraging others to join in and celebrate paternal figures as well. It quickly gained popularity, and though it faced various challenges in gaining widespread acceptance over the years, it became a permanent national holiday in 1972 when President Richard Nixon signed it into law, acknowledging the importance of fathers and father figures in American life. Notably, while Father’s Day had been observed for decades prior, it wasn’t until this official recognition that it became a day of celebration marked across the nation. with, cards, and family gatherings.

Common gifts include tools, gadgets, clothing, or personalized items like mugs or cards, which can show the recipient’s interests. Experiences such as family outings, special meals, or adventurous day trips create lasting memories. Families often spend the day together, whether grilling, fishing, or just relaxing at home. Some honor fathers with heartfelt letters that express love and appreciation, making the day more meaningful. While the U.S. celebrates on the third Sunday of June, other countries have different dates, each with their unique traditions. For instance, Australia and New Zealand celebrate on the first Sunday of September, adding a cheerful springtime vibe. Many cultures also include various rituals that enrich the celebration of fatherhood, showcasing the bond between fathers and children worldwide.

In 2025, Americans are projected to spend a record $24 billion on Father’s Day gifts, reflecting a growing appreciation for paternal figures and the importance of celebrating them in our lives, up from $22.4 billion in 2024, according to the National Retail Federation (NRF). This increased spending illustrates a noteworthy trend where more families are choosing to honor their fathers with meaningful gifts, experiences, and gatherings. The average person plans to spend about $199.38 on gifts and celebrations, highlighting a willingness to invest in personal and heartfelt gestures that make the day special. From gourmet dinners to unique gadgets, the variety of gifts available has expanded significantly, allowing individuals to choose presents that resonate deeply with their father’s interests and hobbies.

Finally, have a happy, fun and peaceful Father’s Day.

A Journey to Oshkosh: Reconnecting Family

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This is how it started.

My wife, Dee and I were over at Jeff my son’s house for a delightful Christmas time meal, where the warm atmosphere and festive decorations sparked a nostalgic thought within me. “Maybe my Jeff would be willing to take us to Oshkosh, Wisconsin, so we could visit my brother Jack, who I haven’t seen for over twenty years,” I pondered, feeling a wave of emotion. It’s been far too long since I shared precious moments with my sibling. At over eighty years old, and with my brother Jack being five years my senior, I often reflect on the fleeting nature of time and the importance of family connections. Unfortunately, due to my declining health and mobility, I felt apprehensive about embarking on such a trip alone. So, gathering my courage, I approached my son with my request. I asked him if he and his wife Jennifer would consider taking the journey with us. Jeff paused for a moment, contemplating the idea before he responded, saying that he would think about it and let me know, leaving me filled with hope and anticipation for the possibility of reconnecting with my brother after all those years apart.

Two weeks later, Jeff calls with excitement in his voice, saying he would be willing to assist us in this venture to Oshkosh, which filled me with joy and anticipation. I was elated at the thought of reuniting with my brother, cherishing the precious moments together before time on this earth is over for me or Jack. The connection we share is something I hold dear, and I imagined all the stories and memories we could create. After serious consideration, Dee informs me that due to her ongoing medical conditions and the age factor, she feels that she shouldn’t make the trip for her own well-being. I understood her concerns, as her health must come first. Therefore, I call Jeff and informed him to just make plans for me, him, and Jennifer, hoping that this adventure would strengthen our bonds even further while honoring Dee’s decision.

The following evening, Jeff calls me with an intriguing suggestion that Jennifer had proposed. Instead of her attending the trip, she thought it would be a great idea to invite Adam, who happens to be Jeff’s brother, to join us instead. I found this suggestion quite interesting, as Adam, Jeff, and I have not spent some quality time together for many years. So, I decided to call Adam directly to discuss the idea, He responded enthusiastically, saying he would first talk to his wife to see if he could get off work for that weekend, which made me hopeful for a positive outcome. A few days later, I received a call from Adam, excitedly informing me that he had indeed managed to secure the time off, making it possible for him to join us. This development was fantastic news! With this confirmation, Jeff immediately set to work planning the details of our trip, Final arrangements were made for us to leave the evening of Thursday, May 15th, filled with anticipation for the adventure ahead, and return on Sunday morning, May 18th, looking forward to creating some unforgettable memories together. Ensuring our reunion would be one for the books.

On May 15th, Jeff worked in the morning and then picked me up at noon since I live conveniently between where he worked and his home. We decided to have a bite to eat at his home. Then, Mina, took us to the light rail station for the trip to DIA airport. I had never experienced this mode of transportation to DIA before, but Jeff had done this many times and seemed quite knowledgeable about the whole process. I am not a big fan of light rail since the stations are always in a remote area that feels disconnected from the bustling city life, and I don’t feel very comfortable waiting there. Additionally, there is that small number of people you encounter who make you uneasy with their actions or just their general demeanor. Despite my apprehensions, we arrived at DIA without any problem, and as we stepped off the train, I felt a wave of relief wash over me, grateful for the smooth trip and Jeff’s company.

Jeff commented that the security wait during this time of day should be short. Wrong! It took about 40 minutes to get through security, which felt like an eternity with our bags weighing us down. The hustle and bustle of the airport only added to the stress of the afternoon. Finally, we met Adam at the gate to board the plane, relief washing over us as we spotted him in the crowd. The plane to Appleton was a small plane with just 3 seats across, and it was not very comfortable; each bump in the air seemed magnified in such a tiny cabin. Leaving Denver around 5:30 pm, we sat quietly as the sun dipped below the horizon, arriving at Appleton sometime after 10, accompanied by a growing sense of fatigue. After disembarking, we quickly made our way to the rental car, eager to leave the airport behind, and we drove to Oshkosh, arriving about 30 minutes later. As we pulled in, Jack met us, greeted us warmly, showed us to our rooms, and then promptly crashed, utterly exhausted. It has been a long, stressful day, filled with the anticipation of reunion and the weariness of travel.

On Friday we met Jack at 8 am, and his welcoming demeanor immediately put us at ease. Jack is some authority at The Jesuit Retreat House in Oshkosh, Wisconsin, a serene place known for its tranquil environment, where individuals come to seek peace and reflection. That is where we are staying for the weekend, surrounded by the picturesque landscapes that make this retreat house so special. Ironically, this weekend there is not a retreat going on, allowing us to enjoy the facilities more freely without the usual schedule of structured activities. it worked out well that the trip was planned without knowing there would be no retreat this weekend, as it provided us with a unique opportunity to explore the grounds and engage in meaningful conversations with Jack.

We then went to Oshkosh for breakfast, which is about 5 miles away from our place. Jeff, who is an early riser, decided to exercise at a fitness site in Oshkosh. He stumbled upon this charming little restaurant named Good Yolk that caught his attention. Intrigued by its inviting atmosphere, we collectively decided to give it a try, eager to see what breakfast delights awaited us. Jack, always the pragmatist, warned us that in this area, the food portions are normally large, a fact that often accompanies hearty breakfast cultures. He was indeed correct; our plates were overflowing with delicious options. Despite the overwhelming size of the meals, it was all exceptionally good, filled with flavors that made it a memorable experience we were glad to share together.

After breakfast, we drove back to the retreat house, a charming haven nestled in a picturesque setting, where Jack eagerly provided a grand tour of the facilities. It is truly a stunning place, characterized by its serene location on the shimmering shore of Lake Winnebago, surrounded by lush, meticulously maintained grounds that enhance its natural beauty. As we strolled through the property, I was captivated by the breathtaking views. From a cozy lounge area, you have a panoramic view of the lake, where the water sparkles under the sunshine like a blanket of diamonds. They had binoculars available, allowing us to observe the delightful birds flitting about as well as the various activities taking place on the water, such as boats and fishing, adding to the lively atmosphere of this idyllic retreat.

Then after lunch, Jack wanted to take us to Waupaca, Wisconsin, which is an hour away from Oshkosh. They have a facility there where priests go during the summer for resting and relaxing, providing a serene escape from their daily responsibilities. It is only utilized during the warmer months, transforming into a tranquil haven away from the busyness of the outside world, a place where peace reigns, and nature’s beauty captivates hearts. Jack really likes the area and apparently goes there every summer, always returning refreshed and rejuvenated after his visits, sharing stories of his experiences that resonate with a deep sense of connection to this idyllic setting. The drive to the facility is quite scenic; it is isolated, where you navigate down a narrow gravel road for maybe half a mile to reach your destination, surrounded by towering trees that seem to stand as guardians of this retreat. As you drive through this heavily wooded area, the anticipation builds, and you arrive at a location nestled near a beautiful lake, where the calm waters reflect the surrounding nature and cradle the silence that fills the air. Unfortunately, that day, the weather was not our friend, as the wind was blowing hard, rustling the leaves ominously and casting an eerie atmosphere that made our hearts race. On the way back, while navigating down the narrow gravel road, we discovered that a tree had blown over and blocked our path, an unexpected challenge that increased the tension among us. Fortunately, the main trunk did not fall across the road, creating an obstacle we couldn’t ignore. Or we would have been stranded there, with no way to return to civilization. We quickly assessed the situation and were able to move the smaller branches, while Jeff skillfully maneuvered the car around the larger tree trunk, showcasing his adept driving skills. Adam and I worked together to hold back the branches that we couldn’t break away from the trunk, each crack of the branches above adding to the tension, instilling a growing concern that another tree might take a tumble while we were precariously navigating this situation. It was a moment filled with both anxiety and exhilaration, the adrenaline coursing through us as we worked together to overcome this obstacle, but ultimately, we got out unscathed. Yes, that is indeed an ideal place to get away and disconnect from the chaos of everyday life, where one can truly immerse themselves in nature’s embrace, allowing the soothing sounds of the lake and the forest to wash over the soul. We then got a bite to eat. We returned to the retreat house to spend an evening of talking and sharing events in our lives, where laughter echoed against the walls, and the warmth of friendship enveloped us like a comforting blanket.

Saturday, we met at the same time and went for breakfast in Oshkosh at The Mineshaft. This is primarily an evening restaurant, known for its vibrant nightlife and bustling atmosphere after dark. However, to our pleasant surprise, we discovered that they have a very reasonable breakfast menu priced at only seven bucks, which is quite a steal for the quality offered. The menu features a variety of delicious options, from fluffy pancakes to hearty omelets, catering to all breakfast lovers. You can tell that most of their profits are generated from drinks at night and the young crowd that flocks there for the lively energy and socializing. Despite its evening focus, the breakfast experience was enjoyable and filled with the friendly chatter of early risers, making our visit a delightful start to the weekend.

Driving by, we stumbled upon an intriguing establishment, the Military Veterans Museum, which piqued our curiosity, prompting us to make an impromptu visit. The museum showcased a comprehensive display of military conflicts throughout history, featuring an impressive array of vehicles and equipment that have played pivotal roles in combat. Adam and I, being veterans ourselves, felt a deep connection to many of the items and stories on display, as they echoed our own experiences and sacrifices. Jack and Jeff, were equally captivated by the exhibits, sharing their insights and memories as we walked through the museum. After thoroughly exploring, we heard about the EAA Museum of Flight, which was highly recommended by several locals, and decided it warranted a visit. To our amazement, we quickly discovered that EAA was far larger than we had anticipated; it was a treasure trove of aviation history where one could easily spend an entire day taking in the detailed exhibits and aircraft on display. After 2 or 3 hours of exploration, however, the older members of the group were feeling fatigued and agreed it was time to call it a day. Before heading back to the retreat house, we made a stop at a charming Japanese restaurant that Jack had enthusiastically recommended. The food was delicious, providing a delightful culinary experience that was perfect after a day of adventure. Since it was late afternoon, we decided to return to the retreat house to unwind and spend another evening reconnecting with each other. We shared countless tales and stories, reminiscing about the last twenty years we had spent apart. Each narrative was filled with laughter and nostalgia, creating a warm atmosphere that allowed us to strengthen our bonds. This experience was not just enjoyable; it was a memory that we would all cherish forever.

Sunday, we met at 5:45 am to have a small bite to eat, eager to fuel ourselves for the day ahead. After indulging in two days of large, hearty meals, a modest breakfast felt both satisfying and refreshing, a welcome change that allowed us to ease our way into the morning. At 6:30, with a mix of nostalgia and anticipation, we said our goodbyes to Jack, who had been an incredible host throughout our stay. We then drove to Appleton, where the excitement grew as we approached the airport. We managed to get on the plane somewhere around 8:30, and as we took off, I looked out the window at the ever-changing scenery below. The flight was smooth, and I was filled with thoughts of the past few days until we landed at DIA around 10:30. Stepping into the terminal, I was just astonished by the sheer number of travelers bustling around the airport, a vibrant mix of voices and energy. I also couldn’t help but notice that there were very few older travelers in sight; most were young, hurried individuals, all with destinations calling. After navigating through the crowd, Tara, Adam’s wife, picked us up with a warm smile. She took me home first, engaging in light conversation about our trip, followed by a detour to drop off Jeff, wrapping up what had been a memorable journey.

In conclusion, this has been a very memorable experience for me, one that I will cherish forever. I am incredibly glad that it all worked out well for everyone involved, as these moments are truly precious. I feel fortunate to have had the opportunity to visit Jack before our time is up on this earth. These visits remind us of the importance of connection and the bonds we share with our loved ones. Additionally, the time spent with my two sons was absolutely priceless; it filled my heart with joy and gratitude. It has been many years since we made the effort to reaffirm the love and the unbreakable bond a father and his sons share, a connection that will never fade away. Those moments together, filled with laughter and storytelling, not only reignited our familial ties but also allowed us to appreciate the present and the memories we create together.

Am I starting to show my age?

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Recently I went to Home Depot to buy a replacement connector for a hose, a task that seemed straightforward enough. I find what I need, a sturdy little connector that would serve its purpose well, and head to the self-checkout with a sense of accomplishment. I scan the item and get ready to pay, feeling rather pleased with my efficient shopping. However, as I reach into my front pocket for the money, I receive the shock of my life. My billfold and money are not there! PANIC! Where are they? My heart races as I search my other pockets, but there’s nothing. No wallet, no cash, nothing to complete my purchase. I feel a wave of embarrassment wash over me as I finally have to summon the clerk, my cheeks burning with the realization that I’ve forgotten my money. I inform her, awkwardly, that I can’t pay for the five-dollar purchase because of my carefree negligence. She kindly voids out the purchase, a small relief amid my distress, and I rush to my car, my mind racing with thoughts of where I might have lost my wallet, as I hurry home, vowing to be more careful in the future.

The trip is about ten minutes to home, but it feels like an eternity as I replay the events in my mind. All the time I am thinking about what could have happened to my billfold and cash, the weight of worry growing heavier with each passing moment. Did it fall out of my pocket during my hurried walk? Impossible! I can’t bear the thought of having lost such an important item. I start trying to retrace my tracks, mentally revisiting the last place I remember having it—each location sparks a flicker of hope but also despair. Maybe someone took it at breakfast yesterday, though I truly don’t believe that, as this is precisely why I carry my billfold in the front pocket to thwart pickpockets. I had different pants on yesterday, a pair with more pockets but perhaps a looser fit. Maybe I left it in yesterday’s pants, tucked away in a pocket I didn’t think to check. That is possible, isn’t it? The thought gives me a glimmer of optimism, as I urge myself to maintain hope while counting down the blocks until I reach home.

As I drive home, I can’t shake off the feeling of dread as I imagine the worst-case scenarios—what if it is gone for good, lost among the countless other items in my car, or worse, stolen by someone who has no regard for the inconvenience they cause? My mind races through the exhausting process I will undoubtedly have to face, reporting my credit cards to prevent any unauthorized charges, replacing my driver’s license along with my health insurance card, which is a nuisance I could do without. This situation brings back vivid memories of a particularly distressing day when my wife’s purse was lifted off her shopping cart during our grocery run, a simple act that spiraled into a massive headache as we navigated the chaos of getting everything replaced. The discomfort and frustration we endured were overwhelming, turning a mundane shopping trip into a stressful ordeal that seemed to take forever to resolve. I can’t help but wish we had taken extra precautions then, as this experience serves as a painful reminder of the vulnerability, we all face in our daily lives.

I finally get home and rush in the house, hurrying toward the closet where I had left yesterday’s pants, my heart racing with anxiety and anticipation. RELIEF! It is there, waiting for me like a long-lost friend. Apparently, in my flustered morning rush, I took out all the other items from the pocket and meticulously placed them in the replacement pocket, but inadvertently put the billfold back in yesterday’s pants, thinking I had checked everything thoroughly. As I hold the familiar fabric in my hands, a wave of embarrassment washes over me, reminding me of how forgetful I can be these days. It seems like little mishaps like this are becoming a routine, making me acutely aware of how I’m growing older, and I can’t help but chuckle at my own forgetfulness, wishing I could easily dismiss these moments as mere quirks rather than signs of aging.

A Bridesmaid’s Wedding Blunder: When Texting Goes Wrong

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Debbie was juggling bridesmaid duties for her best friend Pat’s wedding, a whirlwind of tulle and timelines that seemed to swirl around her like confetti in the wind. Late one night, after a long day of finalizing seating charts and meticulously arranging floral centerpieces, Debbie typed a heartfelt message to Pat’s fiancé, Tom, about a surprise she had been planning for weeks: “Tom, Pat’s dream is to dance to ‘At Last’ under string lights at the reception. I’ve arranged it with the band—don’t tell her, it’s a secret!” Exhausted yet exhilarated by the thought of making her best friend’s wedding unforgettable, she hit send and collapsed into bed, her mind racing with visions of the magical moment. But in her haze of sleepiness and excitement, Debbie hadn’t sent it to Tom. Instead, she’d accidentally texted Pat’s ex, Steve, who had been lurking on the fringes of their lives since their breakup. The realization of her mistake hit her like a cold splash of water, and panic surged through her veins as she imagined the chaos that could ensue.

Morning brought chaos. Debbie woke to a string of confused texts from Steve: “Debbie, what’s this about a dance? I’m not in the wedding… or Pat’s life anymore.” Her heart stopped, a cold wave of dread washing over her as the implications struck her with full force. Steve, still nursing a broken heart, had replied at 6 a.m., clearly thrown by the message, still grappling with the emotional fallout of their recent breakup. Worse, he’d forwarded it to Pat, thinking it was a mistake that needed clearing up, only adding fuel to an already volatile situation. The thought of Steve, vulnerable and hurt, somehow still tethered to the life they once shared, sent a ripple of guilt through her. In that moment, Debbie felt trapped in a web of miscommunication that threatened to ensnare everyone involved, turning what should have been a light-hearted wedding gesture into a source of confusion and discomfort for all.

Debbie’s phone buzzed again—Pat. “Debbie, why is Jake texting me about our reception? What’s going on?” Panic surged through Debbie like a tidal wave, overwhelming her with regret. The surprise she had meticulously planned for Pat was now completely ruined, and she could feel the tension rising as she realized that Pat was upset, thinking Debbie was stirring old drama. It was meant to be a joyous occasion, a celebration of love, and instead, she had inadvertently put a damper on it. Heart racing, Debbie quickly dialed Pat, her mind racing as she stumbled over apologies. “I meant to text Tom! It was about a special moment for you, not Steve. I’m an idiot.” She felt her cheeks flush with embarrassment, wishing she could take back the message that had sparked the confusion. This wasn’t just a simple mix-up; it was about Pat’s happiness, and the last thing she wanted was to create misunderstandings during such an important time in her friend’s life.

Pat, though frazzled and caught off guard, softened at Debbie’s detailed explanation. “Okay, but fix this. And what’s this about ‘At Last’?” she pressed, her curiosity piqued. Debbie, feeling cornered yet excited, quickly spilled the elaborate plan: it involved the band playing under twinkling lights, a carefully curated playlist, and the romantic first dance Pat had always dreamed of since childhood, a moment that would finally come to fruition. Pat’s voice warmed, a smile creeping onto her face despite her earlier frustration. “That’s… perfect, just what I wanted all along. But please, deal with Jake first, because I can’t imagine this day going smoothly if he’s not on board.”

Debbie called Steve, mortified. “I’m so sorry. Wrong number, total accident.” Steve was gracious but hurt, admitting the message had reopened old wounds he thought he had buried long ago. The air felt heavy with unspoken words, and a profound silence stretched between them for a moment. Debbie felt awful for unintentionally stirring up his past pain, but she quickly steered the conversation toward a sense of closure, urging him to let Pat move forward with her life. It was time to let go of lingering bitterness, she insisted, emphasizing how often life demanded us to forgive and adapt. Steve listened, nodding slowly; he agreed, promising to stay out of it, aware that holding onto the past would only continue to weigh him down. He appreciated her concern and felt a flicker of hope rekindled by her encouragement, as they both silently acknowledged the importance of healing.

With hours until the rehearsal dinner, Debbie scrambled to salvage the surprise’s magic, feeling the weight of the moment pressing down on her. She confirmed with the band, ensuring they knew the special song that would bring tears to Pat’s eyes, and double-checked the intricate lighting setup that she had meticulously planned to create an enchanting atmosphere, believing that every detail mattered and that Pat’s moment would still dazzle everyone present. At the venue, which buzzed with excitement and laughter, she pulled Tom aside, her voice slightly trembling as she confessed the mix-up that had thrown her into a state of panic. To her relief, Tom laughed, unfazed by the unexpected hurdle. “As long as Pat’s happy, we’re good. Let’s make it unforgettable,” he said with a twinkle in his eye, instilling Debbie with a renewed sense of determination to ensure that the evening would be nothing short of magical, filled with joy and cherished memories.

The wedding night arrived, and under a canopy of twinkling lights, the band struck up “At Last,” filling the atmosphere with a sense of magic and romance that enveloped everyone present. Pat’s eyes sparkled with joy as Tom, her devoted partner, gently led her to the dance floor, their hearts racing in unison, the secret intact in spirit yet heavy with anticipation. Debbie watched from the sidelines, her heart swelling with happiness, relieved to see Pat glowing with blissful contentment, completely oblivious to the backstage scramble where last-minute adjustments were being made to ensure everything went perfectly. The soft murmur of laughter and clinking glasses melded into the enchanting melody, creating a moment that would be etched in their memories forever.

Later, Pat wrapped her arms around Debbie in a bear hug, practically squeezing the breath out of her. “You pulled it off! I don’t know how, but thank you. Seriously, if you ever need a career in miracle-working, I’m your biggest fan!” Debbie couldn’t help but grin, feeling like a superhero who just saved the day—cape and all. She mentally made a note to triple-check every recipient forever, vowing not to let her fingers get a wild imagination again. The misfired message had nearly turned their day into a sitcom episode complete with dramatic music, but it also reminded Debbie just how far she would go to keep her friend’s joy intact—even if it meant playing the role of the world’s most paranoid email sender. Sometimes, a slip-up could spark a laugh-worthy story worth telling—if you just danced through the chaos like nobody was watching. This became a memory they’d tease each other about for years, a shining example of how even the most bewildering mishaps could turn into hilarious anecdotes filled with laughter, friendship, and the shared realization that, yes, chaos was just another word for unexpected fun

Memorial Day: Honoring Sacrifices

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Memorial Day, observed on the last Monday in May (May 26, 2025), is a solemn occasion that honors U.S. military personnel who died in service to their country. This day serves as a poignant reminder of the sacrifices made by these brave men and women, who lost their lives while serving in various conflicts throughout history. Memorial Day honors all fallen service members across wars, not just specific conflicts, unlike Veterans Day, which celebrates all who served, whether in active duty or during peacetime. As communities gather to commemorate this day, they often participate in parades, memorial services, and other activities that not only pay tribute to those who made the ultimate sacrifice but also educate future generations about the importance of honoring our veterans and the freedoms they fought to protect.

Began as “Decoration Day” after the Civil War in 1868, when General John A. Logan called for decorating graves of fallen soldiers to honor their sacrifice and bravery. Waterloo, New York, is recognized as the birthplace, having hosted the first formal event on May 5, 1866, which laid the foundation for what would become a cherished national tradition. Over the years, this observance evolved into Memorial Day, officially becoming a federal holiday in 1971 with the Uniform Monday Holiday Act, which aimed to provide more three-day weekends for the nation’s workers by shifting it to the last Monday in May, thereby creating an opportunity for families to gather and reflect. On this solemn day, flags are flown at half-staff until noon, after which they are raised to full staff, symbolizing the remembrance of the deceased and the resilience of the living. Parades, ceremonies, and grave decorations occur nationwide, especially at Arlington National Cemetery, where thousands come to pay their respects, creating a profound sense of unity and gratitude as the nation pauses to honor those who sacrificed their lives for freedom.

Memorial Day marks the beginning of summer, with many Americans hosting barbecues, spending time with family and friends, or visiting memorials. This day includes activities such as parades and community events, as well as ceremonies to reflect on the sacrifices made for freedom. While enjoying the sun and grilling, people remember those who fought for their country, blending celebration with remembrance on this significant holiday.

This is the day to remember the ones that gave so much to protect and preserve this great country, honoring their sacrifices and bravery as we reflect on the countless lives impacted by their dedication. It is a time for us to express our gratitude, not just with words, but through acts of kindness and service, ensuring that their legacy of courage and commitment continues to inspire future generations. We gather to pay tribute to their unwavering spirit, recognizing the values they fought for and the freedoms we cherish today.

Have a truly wonderful and memorable Memorial Day, filled with joy and heartfelt moments!

What is the legacy you want to leave behind?

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I want to be remembered as an honest person, someone who exemplified integrity in every action and interaction, consistently choosing to uphold my values even when faced with challenges. I strive to be the kind of individual who inspires trust in others, fostering relationships built on transparency and sincerity. By demonstrating honesty in both my personal and professional life, I hope to leave a legacy that encourages others to act with the same moral conviction, ultimately contributing to a more ethical and compassionate world.

As a good parent, I strive to instill values of kindness and respect in my children, guiding them with patience and support through life’s challenges. I believe that teaching them to be empathetic and considerate towards others lays the foundation for healthy relationships and a positive impact on the world around them. Every day presents new opportunities for learning, whether it’s navigating friendships at school or dealing with the complexities of emotions at home. By encouraging open communication, I aim to create a safe space where they can express their feelings and thoughts freely. This not only strengthens our bond but also fosters their emotional intelligence, allowing them to grow into compassionate individuals who can face the world with confidence and resilience.

I aim to be a friendly, loving husband, nurturing a strong bond with my best friend, filled with affection and understanding. My goal is to create an environment where both of us feel safe to express our thoughts and emotions, allowing us to grow together as a couple. I believe that through open communication and shared experiences, we can deepen our relationship, fostering trust and intimacy that will last a lifetime. Every day, I strive to show appreciation for her, whether through small gestures or supportive words, ensuring that she feels cherished and valued in every moment we share.

Additionally, I hope to be seen as someone you can always trust, a reliable friend who is there in times of need, offering a listening ear and unwavering support that enriches the lives of those around me.

Emma’s Near-Death Experience: The Peace, Total Peace Beyond

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Emma, a 60-year-old teacher with a passion for inspiring young minds, collapsed during a morning jog, her heart seizing in a sudden cardiac arrest under the soft glow of the rising sun. As runners rushed to her side, their worried faces a blur in her fading consciousness, paramedics were called, but to Emma, the world had already dissolved into a mist of confusion and fear. Memories of vibrant classrooms filled with laughter, the warmth of her students’ smiles, and the thrill of sharing knowledge flashed before her eyes, as she fought to hold on, knowing she had so much more to give and experience in this life.

In that liminal space, Emma felt weightless, drifting upward through a tunnel of soft, golden light that seemed alive, pulsating with a rhythm that matched her heartbeat. The air hummed with a warmth that felt like love itself, wrapping around her like a tender embrace, stirring memories of laughter and joy. At its end, she emerged into a vibrant meadow under an impossibly vast sky painted in hues of azure and lilac, where the clouds seemed to dance in harmony with the wind. Figures—familiar yet undefined, like echoes of her late grandmother and childhood dog—greeted her with a silent, overwhelming sense of peace, total peace A feeling she never felt in her 60 years. Their presence filling her with an indescribable comfort that felt like homecoming. Time unraveled; seconds or centuries passed as she wandered freely, bathed in a certainty that this was indeed her true sanctuary. Every blade of grass shimmered with dew, every flower exuded a fragrance that brought forth forgotten memories, while a gentle breeze whispered secrets of the universe. A voice, gentle but firm, broke through the serenity, whispering, “Not yet,” a reminder that her journey was still unfolding, urging her to embrace every moment.

Meanwhile, paramedics worked frantically, their movements a blur as time seemed to stretch. They shocked her heart twice, the electrical jolt palpable in the still air, while one of them administered CPR with a fierce determination, counting out loud to maintain their rhythm. After three agonizing minutes that felt like an eternity, her pulse flickered back to life, a fragile sound against the chaos surrounding them. Emma’s eyes fluttered open, her gaze shifting from the vibrant meadow she had unwittingly left behind to the harsh glare of daylight and the stinging sensation of an IV piercing her skin. Confusion and fear washed over her as she tried to comprehend the sudden shift from serenity to panic, the muffled shouts of the paramedics slowly breaking through the fog in her mind.

Back in her body, Emma wept—not from fear, but from the ache of leaving that place. The doctors called it a miracle; her heart showed no lasting damage. She returned to teaching, but carried the meadow within her, a quiet certainty that death was not an end, but a doorway. She lived more boldly, loved more fiercely, and never feared the moment she’d cross back.

This event strengthened her belief that there is time after earth, and she felt an overwhelming sense of reassurance that this time after earth is just the beginning of a terrific experience, one filled with boundless possibilities and opportunities for growth. She embraced the idea that perhaps this extended existence was a gift, a chance to explore realms she had never imagined. In her contemplation, she did wonder why she was given this precious bonus time; it felt as if the universe had conspired to grant her a second chance. Amidst her thoughts, she pondered whether she was meant to do something special during this bonus time, a mission that would not only serve her own growth but also have a profound impact on those around her, igniting a sense of purpose that she had long sought.

My Journey with Podcasts

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I have been active on this site since August 2023, engaging with the community and exploring a variety of topics that pique my interest. During this time, I’ve shared insights, learned from others, and connected with like-minded individuals who share a passion for knowledge and collaboration. The experience has not only enriched my understanding but has also allowed me to contribute meaningfully to discussions and initiatives within this vibrant online space.

My most active page has been the podcast page, which has become a vibrant hub for diverse audio content. There are now more than 200 podcasts available, each offering unique insights, stories, and discussions. I have discovered that many visitors prefer to listen instead of reading lengthy articles, likely due to the convenience and accessibility of audio formats while doing other tasks. In my initial attempts, I tried using my actual voice for the podcasts, hoping to create a personal connection with my audience. However, I soon found out why I do not sing much; my voice simply lacks the qualities typically associated with effective public speaking. Despite my enthusiasm, the recordings felt lacking and did not resonate as well as I had hoped. To improve the overall quality of the podcasts, I now use an AI-generated voice from Microsoft, which offers a more polished and engaging auditory experience. This technology allows for clearer delivery and a more professional sound, ultimately enhancing the listening experience for my audience.

Link for the podcast page, I also have a link to the audio podcast on each individual posting.

Many of my subscribers do read and like or comment on my posts, which brings me a sense of community and connectedness. However, I would like to gain more subscribers to reach a wider audience and spread my ideas further, nurturing a larger discussion that can enrich the experience for everyone involved. My site is totally free, and I do not anticipate ever charging to view my content or making any money from this endeavor, as my primary goal is to share knowledge and express my thoughts without the constraints of commercial interests. If I was younger, I may be interested in making this a source of income, yet my focus has shifted towards the joy of writing and sharing rather than financial gain. However, since I am in my eighties, I will do this because I enjoy it very much and I find fulfillment in the process itself. This platform is solely for the purpose of sharing my thoughts, engaging with others, and feeding my ego in a positive way, contributing to a sense of purpose in my life. I truly enjoy sharing my insights and ideas with anyone who is interested, as it allows me to connect with like-minded individuals and foster meaningful discussions that can inspire and uplift both myself and others. With the help of advancements in AI, I have been able to post many more postings, as the amount of research time required has been greatly reduced, enabling me to focus more on creativity and less on preparation. This technological support has not only enhanced the quality and frequency of my content but has also motivated me to explore new topics and ideas that I may not have considered in the past, allowing my content to remain fresh and engaging. As I continue on this journey, I hope to create a vibrant community where every voice is heard and valued, leading to a richer tapestry of ideas and perspectives.

Therefore, just enter your email on the right side and become a member of over 150 subscribers who enjoy content, valuable insights, and the latest updates delivered straight to your inbox. By signing up, you’ll not only join a growing community, but it also costs nothing to join, making it an opportunity you won’t want to miss.

Free Lunch at Rosemary’s Café: A Kind Gesture

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The bell above the diner’s door jingled as I stepped into Rosemary’s Café, the familiar scent of fresh coffee and sizzling bacon wrapping around me like a warm hug. It was a crisp Tuesday afternoon, and the place was humming with the usual lunch crowd—truckers at the counter sharing stories from the road, a family in the corner booth animatedly discussing their weekend plans, and a couple of suits talking shop over club sandwiches while occasionally glancing at their watches. I slid into my regular spot by the window, the red vinyl seat creaking under me as I settled in, glancing at the outside world where leaves danced in the gentle breeze. The table had that comforting stickiness from years of syrup spills and quick wipes, a testament to the countless meals shared and memories made within these walls. A waitress, familiar with my preferences, approached with a warm smile, ready to take my order, and I felt a sense of belonging wash over me, grounding me in the bustling atmosphere of this beloved café.

I scanned the room for Amy, the waitress who’d been serving me my turkey melt and black coffee every Tuesday for the past three years. Her brassy laugh and quick wit were as much a part of this place as the checkered floor, always filling the air with a sense of warmth that made each visit feel like a reunion. I could still hear her teasing me about my relentless order, claiming that even a gourmet chef would be bored serving the same dish weekly; her friendly banter often made my day. But today, my search turned up empty, and a younger server, maybe college-aged with a ponytail and a nervous smile, hustled over instead. Her name tag read “Kelly,” and I detected a hint of hesitation in her voice as she greeted me, her eyes scanning the menu before asking if I was ready to order. It was clear she was still finding her rhythm, and while I appreciated the effort, I couldn’t help but feel a pang of nostalgia for Amy’s familiar presence.

“No Amy today?” I asked, flipping open the menu out of habit.

Kelly shook her head, scribbling on her notepad. “She’s out sick. Nasty cold. I’m covering her shift. What can I get you?”

I ordered my usual—turkey melt, fries, coffee—and settled in, watching the street outside through the large window. A delivery truck rumbled by, its engine growling like a hungry beast, and a kid on a skateboard nearly wiped out on the curb, his laughter echoing faintly as he regained his balance and sped away. Kelly brought the coffee fast, though it was a touch weaker than Amy’s perfect pour, missing that rich, full-bodied flavor that always kicked off my mornings. The food hit the spot, as always: bread toasted just right, turkey sliced thin, and fries crisp enough to crunch joyfully with every bite. As I ate slowly, savoring the routine, I couldn’t help but feel it was a little off without Amy’s cheerful “How’s your day?” or her playful teasing about my predictable order, which always made the meal feel warmer and more inviting. The ambiance buzzed with the soft chatter of the other patrons and the scent of grilled sandwiches mingling with freshly brewed coffee, yet the absence of her bright smile made the moment seem strangely hollow, like a dish missing its key ingredient.

When I finished, Kelly dropped the check on the table—$15.47. I reached for my wallet, but she hesitated, then leaned in, her voice low like she was sharing a secret. “Actually, you don’t owe anything today.”

I blinked. “Come again?”

“It’s on the house. Well, not exactly—Amy’s covering it. She left a note this morning, said you’re one of her favorites. Loyal customer and all. She’s been meaning to do something nice for you.”

I sat back, stunned. “Amy’s paying for my lunch? She’s not even here.”

Kelly nodded, a small smile breaking through her nervous energy. “Yeah, she’s got a cold, but she called in to make sure we comped your meal. Said you’re ‘good people.’ Her words.”

I chuckled, warmth spreading in my chest as I thought about how dedicated Amy was to her work. Even in her current state, sick as a dog, she was still thinking about her regulars and the people she cared for. I pictured her at home, bundled in a quilt that must have been her grandmother’s, probably grumbling about missing her shift and wishing she could be there to chat with everyone. “That’s Amy, alright,” I said, a smile creeping across my face. “She’d be the first to tell you that even when under the weather, her heart’s still with us. Tell her I said thanks for always looking out for us, and to get better soon, yeah? We need her back on her feet, brightening up our days with her laughter and stories.”

“Will do,” Kelly said, clearing my plate. “She’ll be back next week, I bet. Tough as nails, that one.”

I left a tip anyway—ten bucks, more than usual, because Kelly was trying hard and genuinely seemed to appreciate the gesture. As I stepped outside, the bell jingling again behind me, I felt lighter, like the world was a little kinder than I’d thought before. The crisp air wrapped around me, invigorating and refreshing my spirit. Amy’s gesture, which might have seemed small to an outsider, wasn’t just about the free sandwich; it was a heartfelt reminder of the quiet bonds you build just by showing up and being present for one another in life’s routine moments. I made a mental note to bring her some of that fancy tea she liked, something soothing and special, when she was back in the café. Loyalty and kindness go both ways, after all, and I felt a deep appreciation for those connections that often go unnoticed.

Reflecting on a Mother’s Endless Love

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Every year, as May unfolds with the vibrant echoes of spring, we take a moment to honor the profound essence of our lives: our mothers. Mother’s Day is not merely a date on the calendar; it is a cherished opportunity to recognize the incredible women who infuse love into every aspect of our being, often while quietly sacrificing their own needs. This day is dedicated to you, Mom—and to every mother whose unwavering love touches and transforms the world.

I think of my own mother, her hands always busy, her heart always open. I see her in the small moments: the way she’d slip an extra cookie into my lunchbox with a scribbled note that said, “You’ve got this.” I hear her in the late-night talks when the world felt too heavy, her voice steady, reminding me I was never alone. Even now, as an adult, her hug feels like home, her laughter like a melody that rights every wrong.

Mothers are our first teachers, our fiercest protectors, our softest landing. They carry us—sometimes literally, sometimes through prayers whispered in the dark—long before we know how to carry ourselves. They celebrate our victories, no matter how small, and mend our broken pieces when life leaves us shattered. Their love is a constant, a lighthouse guiding us through storms we’re too young or too stubborn to navigate alone.

But let’s be honest: we don’t always see it. As kids, we roll our eyes at their worry, dismissing it as unnecessary fuss. We fail to understand that their concern stems from love, a deep-rooted desire to protect us from the harsh realities of life. As teenagers, we mistake their boundaries for chains, believing they limit our freedom and autonomy. In our rebellion, we challenge their authority without recognizing the sacrifices they make for our well-being. It’s only later, when life teaches us its hard lessons through experiences that shape our character, that we realize those rules were love in disguise. Those packed lunches, meticulously prepared with our favorite snacks, those sleepless nights spent waiting up for us to return home safely, those “call me when you get there” texts—they were her heart, stitched into every detail of our lives, a constant reminder of her unwavering support and affection. Each of those gestures is a testament to the deep bond that exists between us, one that we often take for granted until we have the wisdom to appreciate what it truly meant.

This Mother’s Day, I feel compelled to express the gratitude I often overlook: Thank you, Mom. Thank you for the silent tears you bore so that I could radiate joy. Thank you for the aspirations you set aside to elevate my own. Thank you for your unwavering love through my chaos, my blunders, and those times I lost sight of how truly blessed I am to call you mine.

To those whose mothers are no longer here, I feel you. The ache of their absence is a testament to the love they left behind. Celebrate them in the recipes you still make, the stories you tell, the values they etched into your soul. To those who’ve lost children or yearn to be mothers, your love matters, and it’s seen. And to the mothers reading this, exhausted from giving your all: you are enough. Your love is changing the world, one heart at a time.

This Mother’s Day, let’s cherish more than just flowers or cards. Let’s gather with our moms, listen deeply to their stories, and hold their hands gently. Let’s express to them how they are our heroes, our safe haven, our forever support. A mother’s love is truly timeless, unwavering, and steadfast. If your mother is no longer with you, take a moment to reflect on the times you may have taken her for granted, and recognize that you were surrounded by unconditional love, even in moments when it wasn’t fully visible.

Happy Mother’s Day, to every mom, everywhere. You are our everything.

Is the Time Near?

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I am in my mid-eighties, and I am beginning to wonder, is my time to depart the earth near? Many times, in the last weeks I have had this empty feeling, as though a heavy cloud hangs over my spirit, casting shadows on my vibrant thoughts. The memories of a life richly lived swirl around me, bringing both joy and sadness as I reflect on the countless moments that shaped my journey. Conversations with loved ones feel more poignant, and I find myself cherishing each encounter, each laugh, and each shared story. As I sit quietly, watching the world outside my window, I can’t help but contemplate my legacy and what I will leave behind, igniting a deeper awareness of the fragility of life and the preciousness of time.

I have had these empty feeling other times during my life and times after I experienced an event in my life that affected me deeply. It often feels as though this empty feeling serves as an unspoken warning, a subtle premonition that something significant is about to transpire. Like a shadow lurking in the corner of my mind, this sensation accompanies me, making me ponder the nature of foresight and intuition. Sometimes, something indeed happens, manifesting as a surprising twist of fate, while other times, this sense of unease dissipates and nothing occurs. It leaves me in a state of reflection, trying to analyze the correlation between these moments and their outcomes. I would speculate the rate is around 50% accurate, suggesting a curious balance between expectation and reality, where the mind plays tricks, leading one to wonder about the origins of this emotional forewarning and its implications on my experiences.

Over two years ago I had a near-death experience, an event that truly reshaped my understanding of life and existence. Yes, I did have that empty feeling a few days before the event happened, a sense of foreboding that something significant was on the horizon. However, that experience did give me a gift that changed my life profoundly. I lost the fear of time after death, a burden that had weighed heavily on my shoulders for so long. With my various experiences in life, including a substantial amount of religious training and other influential factors, I held the belief that we are all sinners, inherently flawed beings striving for perfection, and that one had to work hard to attain any form of eternal life after our time on this earth. For many years of my life, I thought I would never qualify to walk through the pearly gates, forever feeling unworthy of the grace I had been taught to aspire towards. This newfound perspective, however, allowed me to embrace the beauty of imperfection and the importance of living fully in the present, knowing that life, in all its ups and downs, is a journey filled with lessons rather than a test to pass or fail.

I am writing this blog because I woke up around four this morning, feeling empty and lost, like I was surrounded by a thick fog. The early morning quiet, with just a few sounds from the world waking up outside my window, let my thoughts flow into deep reflection. As the darkness faded into the first signs of dawn, I couldn’t shake the feeling of longing. This solitude often leads me to think deeply, encouraging me to explore my emotions and share my experiences.

I am at the age where I may fall over dead soon, or I may have many years to go, living life with hope and purpose. Each day presents new opportunities, and I will continue to make the fullest of whatever my destiny is, embracing both the challenges and joys that come my way. With every moment, I am reminded to cherish time spent with loved ones and to pursue my passions fearlessly. I am confident that God loves us unconditionally and, through the sacrifice of Christ, died for our sins, offering us grace and redemption. This belief anchors me, providing strength and comfort as I navigate the unpredictable waters of life.