For about sixty-five years of my life, I have often been subjected to the same repetitive advice from various people, many times hearing, “Tom, you should be more like your brother, or you should be more like Johnny,” and so on and so forth. This unsolicited guidance felt like a constant echo in my mind, leading me to believe that my true self was somehow inadequate. I tried, in numerous ways, to mold myself into someone I am not, adopting the traits and behaviors that I thought would gain me approval or affection. However, this endeavor only deepened my internal conflict, creating a dissonance between who I genuinely am and who I was trying to become. In the end, this struggle to live up to others’ expectations weighed heavily on my spirit, teaching me valuable lessons about the importance of self-acceptance and authenticity.

During some private time while taking a walk around the neighborhood green belt, enjoying the fresh air and the sounds of nature, I suddenly heard a voice say to me, “Tom, stop trying to be someone else!” I looked around, scanning the area for anyone nearby who might have spoken, but there was no one in sight. The trees swayed gently in the breeze, and the sun filtered through the leaves, creating a serene atmosphere. The voice continued, “Tom, you were created to be yourself, just be yourself! Embrace your unique qualities and let go of the fear of judgment. Remember, the world needs your authentic presence; don’t hide behind a facade. Allow your true self to shine, for that is where your strength lies!”

I took this as a message I should be myself. Embracing my true identity has allowed me to break free from the constraints of societal expectations and pressures that once weighed heavily on my shoulders. Since then, I have been myself, fully accepting my quirks and imperfections, and this realization has removed an untold amount of guilt off my conscience. I no longer hold onto the fear of judgment or the desire to fit into a mold that never suited me. From now on, I am just being myself, confident in the knowledge that authenticity brings a sense of peace, connection, and purpose that I had long sought. This journey towards self-acceptance has not only transformed my inner dialogue but has also positively influenced my interactions with others, fostering deeper relationships built on honesty and openness.

I can only lament that it took me sixty-five long years to finally receive this message!

Daily writing prompt

If you could be a character from a book or film, who would you be? Why?

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